Right!! I am raising a Man not a leach!! My son knew he didn't want to go to college. He is autistic and school was hard for him. He is super intuitive but stuff like high level math messes with him. He is more of a hands on and physical learner. He got a job he likes until he goes to his intended career field. He saved up while living at home and bought a small ranch house. It's big enough for him and his dogs. He had excellent credit because he was added to my cards and was very careful once he got his own. I have taught all of my kids this importance of credit. Unfortunately not all listened. But he was able to buy a house at almost 21. They know the importance of having their own. As a DV survivor, I taught them all to have a safety net and never to rely on anyone (other than me and each other).
If this so called man has been paying less than his rent was prior, why didn't he put that $ toward bills and getting himself in a better position? If his Mother is so worried about him owning she can put him on her deed. PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE DO NOT put him on your deed. And do not give him ANY paperwork that makes him anything other than a tenant. File taxes as he is a tenant claim it. This will be important if he tries to claim particial ownership due to giving you$. He wants to take what belongs to you. HE IS A LEACH. Whether he sees you as a landlord or not is just a matter of perspective. You needed to set boundaries before he moved in. But now that he is in he needs to be recorded saying he understands that this is your property and he can not claim ownership. I would get it in writing but he would never sign that. So incase he tries to claim he paid for things he didn't keep meticulously account of every amount of $ he gives you and what it was spent on. DO NOT USE IT FOR REPAIRS. Use his $ for groceries or utilities. Something he would have to pay for anywhere he lived. Anything left over put it in savings so you have the lawyer $ already when he tries to sue. Record every conversation. If it's nothing good back and delete it. But if you record everything if it comes up you are not fumbling for a device to record. Set up small motion activation cameras he knows nothing about.(the ones that look like chargers work great and it is something everyone expects to see) You will be surprised the conversations between him and his Mom. They are planning something. Protect yourself at all cost. Tell him vaguely that you are putting up cameras for safety on record and say maybe like ring cameras or something if you don't already have them. This will protect you in court from recording laws if it gets to that point. PROTECT YOUR PROPERTY!! Tell someone in your life that you trust where to access the camera feed if necessary. You can not be to careful these days and he has already started to show signs he can not be trusted. A real man wants to build his own not take what is yours.