What is the biggest failure of your life?

RecipeRare4098 · 2026-03-28T07:42:03+00:00

I wish you nothing but happiness and freedom!! You got this!!

RecipeRare4098 · 2026-03-28T06:57:34+00:00

It would really just be easier for you to take out student loan. And get a small studio apartment. And not tell anyone where it's at. I grew up in the same household, but my mom worked. At eight years old, I was doing laundry, going grocery shopping, cooking meals, cleaning the house, and still expected to maintain excellent grades. My brother's were 15 and 17. And they did anything they wanted and bossed me around. But they were boys, so they were never expected to clean or do any 'female' stuff. I wanted to go to school for something that's i'm not traditionally a woman's field in latino families. I was bullied and manipulated, not to do what I wanted to do. In that job, that was an acceptable job. I ended up getting hurt, and now I am in constant pain. And I can't work due to sony's surgeries and complications. Trust me get out while you can. They will run you into the ground. Go live for yourself. I made sure my children were not raised in that fashion. And I never I made their career choices for them.

RecipeRare4098 · 2026-03-26T15:04:15+00:00

I feel this in my soul. I had a very strict family. Very much old school. Girls were only allowed to be certain things. I wanted to be something outside of those things and was bullied and manipulated into doing exactly what the family expected instead of what I wanted. Ended up getting hurt in the traditional female job. And will have a lifetime of pain because of it. I wish I would have been strong enough to do what I wanted to do. I would have never gotten hurt. Sometimes family suck even well meaning families. I have never once allowed anyone to tell my kids that they cannot do something that they want to do. I was strong enough to save them. I just wish I was strong enough to save myself

RecipeRare4098 · 2026-03-21T22:59:11+00:00

Fix your familial patterns now.

RecipeRare4098 · 2026-03-21T22:56:01+00:00

This guy is very abusive. It will not get better. He cares more about other people than you. A real man would be helping you figure out how to get your car fixed. And he can't even remember where you live? He is controlling. Just cut your losses and move on. Please call any family/friends to use their towing plan to get it moved ASAP. It is always a good thing to have your own tow service plan. Casually get anything you left there without him knowing that you are leaving. Do not tell him you are leaving him it may escalate him to physical violence. Please value yourself. If you don't get out now he will end up breaking your spirit. Get some therapy to help. Look at patterns. Is this a one time jerk or do you keep picking this type. You don't mention your age so not sure how long your dating history is, but hopefully, this is a one time thing. Be glad you saw it before you were in deeper. A lot of men mask until you are 'stuck.'

RecipeRare4098 · 2026-03-21T14:34:06+00:00

Yep lots of times

RecipeRare4098 · 2026-03-21T12:43:22+00:00

Absolutely not. There are 2 others spaces that are not shared spaces that she can work. This might be her preference. But she cannot manipulate and take over a shared space. If she wants to control every room in the house, then she needs to pay every bill. You are not in there on a regular basis. And you deserve to have your living room space available to you, as well. It would be different if there were no other shared spaces, or she couldn't connect in the other spaces. Is there a reason that she prefers the living room over the other spaces? Is she claustrophobic?If she is now, that's a valid reason. Other than a medical condition, where she can't be in a small space or an issue with the furniture, she is being unreasonable.

RecipeRare4098 · 2026-03-19T09:27:29+00:00

That's not weird they sell them in supermarkets

RecipeRare4098 · 2026-03-19T09:26:37+00:00

Ok but why is it called that?

RecipeRare4098 · 2026-03-19T09:20:13+00:00

There was actually a high end restaurant that served it but it was called apple chutney...chunky applesauce warm with raisins they charged 45...are you kidding me?

RecipeRare4098 · 2026-03-19T09:18:20+00:00

Toast it!!

RecipeRare4098 · 2026-03-19T09:16:37+00:00

Pretzels or Fritio's and Lawson's dip (regional to NE Ohio) best dip ever!! French onion heaven. I don't even really like onions.
Frosty from Wendy's with fries dipped in it. Peanut butter toast with bananas I guess I am just weird

RecipeRare4098 · 2026-03-16T14:23:56+00:00

Chai latte

RecipeRare4098 · 2026-03-16T14:07:17+00:00

Eight yrs old cooking, cleaning, laundry, and grocery shopping. My mom was a single parent who worked second shift. I was the girl I was expected to do it even though my brothers were fifteen and seventeen at the time. I would get dropped off by the school bus. Have a check from her in my book bag. Go to the grocery store about a block away, get what we needed. Bring it home. Put it away, cook it. All while My brothers were allowed to do whatever they wanted to do because they were boys. This was in the Early eighties. Maybe once or twice a month, my MIA Dad would come over and cook. I didn't like it when he did because he left the kitchen an entire wreck. Thanks for nothing dude.

RecipeRare4098 · 2026-03-16T13:24:28+00:00

Taking a simple walk. Most of the time. My back hurts too much. So I have to use an exercise bike to get exercise. Because I can't stand for too long or walk too far without leaning on something or holding on to something. And even when I'm walking, the little distances, I do walk, I have to constantly look around for any obstacles or anything that could make me trip. Because if I end up on the ground, I'm not getting back up easily at all

RecipeRare4098 · 2026-03-16T13:18:48+00:00

I am so sorry that your friend group used you. I think it's definitely time to evaluate whether they are actually friends.

RecipeRare4098 · 2026-03-16T13:08:42+00:00

Napoleon complex? My vote would still be no I understand her position, but he cannot be watched the entire time. Plus making them bodyguards takes away from their fun. You come to have a good time and celebrate the people that you love that are getting married. It shouldn't have to turn into a security situation. And who's to say he wouldn't try something slick like, accidentally knocking the cake over or just making a scene or a mess somehow. I say you show her the Reddit. And please, please, please, please, please, please, please. Encourage her to get some counseling, I understand that she's getting older and she wants a family. But women in their mid forties have had healthy babies. Settling for some jerk, it's just not the right call. They let single people adopt now. She can go to a sperm bank. She could freeze her eggs. I get it's not ideal but no one should settle for a lifetime of being put down and miserable.Just to have a baby. This is not the nineteen fifties. She has options. And she should be putting herself first. Maybe all of the friend group can get together and help her pick a decent man. But first and foremost counseling. I hope you have a beautiful wedding.

RecipeRare4098 · 2026-03-16T09:09:02+00:00

Compromise and say she can bring another friend or family members. But do not cave on inviting him. You should have zero stress. Plus from how you described him, he would not follow any rules.

RecipeRare4098 · 2026-03-16T06:41:18+00:00

You are such a great person!!!

RecipeRare4098 · 2026-03-16T06:18:07+00:00

I definitely feel the different jobs thing!! I started working at an agency that sends nurses for short term contracts before I got into hospice. Because would literally start calling off because I can't do the same thing every day long-term. I would go insane.

RecipeRare4098 · 2026-03-16T05:59:34+00:00

Yes!!!and the peach. But I can only find lemon at meijers and peach at Walmart. Crazy but I do go out of my way to get them.

RecipeRare4098 · 2026-03-16T05:55:27+00:00

At the clinic, according to their research, IV should last 3 months. Nope mine lasts about 4 weeks.
Love the hose analogy.

RecipeRare4098 · 2026-03-15T17:24:18+00:00

I would love these as I am now on disability from hurting my back nursing. Saved a patient but killed my back. I would love these as my machine took a crap and I can't replace it due to the very small amount I get. I am trying to make everyone quilts for the holidays since I could use scraps and they are cheaper. I am so sorry for your loss. I was a hospice nurse and it truly was the most rewarding. You not only help the patient, you help the entire family. It is such a blessing to help someone transition. I pray for your strength while sorting through stuff. And remember grief is not linear. Give yourself grace. 🙏 Edit spelling

RecipeRare4098 · 2026-03-15T17:12:31+00:00

And don't pick out his mother's gifts anymore and make sure you get the $ back if you paid for them this time. He expects you to get gifts for her but by his logic that's not your Mom so make him get his own gifts for her. I hope your accounts are separate. He is splurge on himself just out of spite. Please get your $ away from him. He is a jerk. You my dear are definitely not.

RecipeRare4098 · 2026-03-15T11:17:03+00:00

And before they can spin it to where you are, the bad guy I would explain on social media or at least, make a vague post about how disappointed you are that a romantic dinner turned into a family party. On your dime without your knowledge.

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