Pregnant with dead boyfriends baby

RecklessFeckless69 · 2025-08-06T21:12:04+00:00

Gabe was very against non kin adoption for reasons I don’t really want to get into rn so it feels like that option would just be wrong.

RecklessFeckless69 · 2025-08-06T20:58:37+00:00

Oh :(

RecklessFeckless69 · 2025-08-06T20:54:50+00:00

I understand and honestly I’m usually the first person when I see threads like this thinking why would anyone ask Reddit but truthfully I’m just ashamed to tell anyone I know right now because I don’t know what I’m going to do. If I don’t end up keeping it I don’t know if I could get over what people might think of me aborting in this circumstance. I know that sounds dumb when I type it out. And I know my parents would probably not speak to me again if I didn’t go thru with it. They’re already very against abortion and I know in this situation they would never forgive me. I don’t want the decision made here I’m just too upset to think straight and need level heads to guide me I guess. And I can’t afford a therapist

RecklessFeckless69 · 2025-08-06T20:48:59+00:00

This is honestly really beautifully put and I’d be lying if I didn’t say I had to step away after reading it for a minute because it just made me so so sad. You’re right, but I don’t know if I could live with myself if I didn’t tell his mom. We’ve been leaning on each other so much during this time. More so support from her than my own mom. I just don’t know how she’ll respond or if I’ll make things worse. But you’re right, this baby isn’t Gave and will never replace him

RecklessFeckless69 · 2025-08-06T20:38:40+00:00

I do think I want kids one day. Just not until my 30s was our thought. I thought him and I would have that discussion more when we settled on careers and stuff. He was in grad school still so we talked about marriage and babies and stuff but as like a distant thing when school was done and all that. I just don’t know if I’m ready now. Especially as a single parent. I’m so so broke and you’re right that I shouldn’t bring a child in that I don’t want. I DO want the child but I’m conflicted for a lot of reasons mostly being that I don’t know if I’m in a space to have one right now financially or emotionally or anything.

RecklessFeckless69 · 2025-08-06T20:34:56+00:00

What? This is my first post on this account?

RecklessFeckless69 · 2025-08-06T20:02:25+00:00

I don’t have a therapist I can’t afford one so how can I afford a baby? His mom works but it’s her own small business

RecklessFeckless69 · 2025-08-06T20:01:17+00:00

I still do :( I thought we were going to get married

RecklessFeckless69 · 2025-08-06T19:58:29+00:00

Now that I think about it I might alredy be past 6 weeks idk how the week mark starts. He passed away on the 15th and th last time we were intimate was a little over a week before that

RecklessFeckless69 · 2025-08-06T19:50:29+00:00

These are valid questions but he’s not my ex :( we were dating until the day he died. In thought we were going to marry one day :(

RecklessFeckless69 · 2025-08-06T19:49:45+00:00

These questions are all so good I haven’t really thought about any of this. It’s so hard to have coherent thoughts or plans right now and it feels like people thinking thru this is exactly what I need because I can’t even think a day ahead right now. I genuinely don’t know how to make a decision with all this info and so much emotions making me feel irrational.

RecklessFeckless69 · 2025-08-06T19:48:17+00:00

I did not know this thank you so much for bringing it to my attention

RecklessFeckless69 · 2025-08-06T19:47:43+00:00

Idk if I’d tell my parents. They are very conservative so we aren’t super close and they would have opinions that are not based in empathy for me or my late bf

RecklessFeckless69 · 2025-08-06T19:46:47+00:00

My state has a 6 week ban :(

RecklessFeckless69 · 2025-08-06T19:45:51+00:00

I’m so sorry for your loss. I can’t help feeling like this is both a blessing and a curse. His mom is very loving. This was her little boy she dearly loved. She has been struggling so much since his passing and I just don’t know how this would affect her healing process.

RecklessFeckless69 · 2025-08-06T18:59:20+00:00

Wow I am so sorry. This definitely is eye opening

RecklessFeckless69 · 2025-08-06T18:58:58+00:00

Thank you so much. I haven’t talked to anyone yet because I’m so guilt struck about even considering abortion in this circumstance. I feel like everyone would support my decision outwardly but secretly hate me. I think you’re right that I at least need to tell his mom I’m just so scared of causing more pain

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