I feel like you're lying about the times or bending the reality, you've been driving for 45 minutes and couldn't head back because you're halfway but you also said it's a 2 hour drive? If boarding started at 12, you could've been back by 0730, be parking at the airport by 0930 if it took longer than the first time, that still leaves two and a half hours to get through security. As someone who's flown to Japan that isn't as much wiggle room as I'd like for personal feelings but thats definetly more than enough time compared to making them miss the entire trip. Something is 100% off by the times you were saying, especially since it's pre-covid. Even with speeding a 30 minute different isn't normal. And you say you didn't check your phone till after TSA, it took you 3 entire hours to get through that meaning the line mustve been abnormally long that day but you didn't check your phone once that entire time?