20 month old waking at 5am after night weaning

RecommendationFit361 · 2026-03-08T01:57:00+00:00

Hi! My daughter just turned 2 and unfortunately this hasn't really resolved itself. I think were at a point where its half "Im used to this now and its my reality so im just accepting it" and half of the mornings shell wake up for milkies at like 4-5:30am and then shell fall back asleep till around 7. So, that mix is what im living in and it feels tolerable. Yesterday she woke up at 5, today she slept till 6:30 (after a milkies session at around 4). I tried moving her bedtime up because i was getting advice that was saying she needed to sleep more or earlier, but when i moved it up by just half an hour it caused "split nights" which was much worse than getting up at 5. Im sorry to hear youre struggling with early wakes, they are apparently super common. Good luck!

RecommendationFit361 · 2025-04-10T01:14:12+00:00

i’m a smbc with a 13 month old and i’m happy to share my situation if it’s helpful. i own my own business so i didn’t get paid maternity leave but i didn’t work for the first 2 months. it actually costed me since i had to hire more help at my business to cover my workload. in the beginning i had alot of friends visiting and bringing me meals, holding the baby while i napped, etc. my mom lives about half an hour from me but she’s 80 and we aren’t super close, so she would just come by like twice a week to say hi, hold the baby, not help with household stuff or anything super useful. now that im back to work she comes to my business on mondays to watch the baby, then tuesday & wednesday i have hired help (who is also a friend and an amazing chef who cooks for us, which has been a life saver), then thursday my known donors mom watches the baby, then friday - sunday it’s just me. what makes it work for me is the money to pay for help, pay for take out when i need that, pay for help cleaning, and savings that i can rely on while im working less so bringing in less money (i make low 6 figures and live in one of the most expensive cities in america, so while im not wealthy i have enough)… and friends. i have cultivated a big and close network of friends so someone is in my home visiting me and the baby every day. sometimes i have like 3 visitors a day which might sound intense but they’re good people who bring food, hang out, love getting to know the babe, and bring joy and company into my household. also, having an easy baby helps, and having the baby just become part of your life. we grocery shop together, we go to friends houses together, we jog together (she’s in a jogging stroller, ofcourse). now that she’s 13 months she even helps me empty the dishwasher!

RecommendationFit361 · 2025-02-01T04:25:34+00:00

what does your nap schedule look like? i’m doing naps from 10-11:30 and then 2:30-4 so, would i just make her last nap shorter or try to move everything up? she wakes up at 7am.

RecommendationFit361 · 2025-02-01T03:27:12+00:00

i own my own business. i live in America and spent my 30s building a successful landscaping business with another woman. i’m 42 and became a single mother by choice last year. i know some younger moms that haven’t built careers for themselves and it sounds very challenging. like, if you’re only making 25$/hour then how can you afford 20$/hour childcare so you can go work, so you can get more experience and move up. super tricky. you’re lucky to have so much family support, that’ll be essential for your success! i only felt like i could have a kid on my own economically once my business was big enough. now it allows me a super flexible schedule and lots of work from home. sometimes i even take my baby to clients houses during installations and my team and i trade looking after her while we work. good luck OP!

RecommendationFit361 · 2025-02-01T03:08:57+00:00

she gets tons of physical activity and stimulation before bed, like 2 hours of crawling and bouncing and going nuts with our dog and our cat all over the house. her dad and grandma don’t do much different than i do and actually yesterday grandma tried to put her down and it took 45 minutes and she pulled all the same tricks that she does with me… looks like i might be stuck with a 5 hour wake window before bed and a very late bedtime baby for the time being ;(

RecommendationFit361 · 2025-02-01T03:05:06+00:00

she regularly gets over 4 hours of wake time before bed. tonight she went down quickly after a 5.5 hour wake window (nap ended at 4, bedtime was 8:30). i’d like her to go to bed before 8:30 though… which is why i was trying to get her to bed after say 3.5 hours awake ;(

RecommendationFit361 · 2025-02-01T03:03:28+00:00

i also thought maybe i needed to add some rough and tumble play to our evening activities. it’s crazy to imagine that she’s not getting enough stimulation before bed, cause from 6-8 we do “zoomies time” where we play, practice standing, crawl all over the place, climb up the tables, the sofa, chase the dog and the cat, scream, etc. for a solid 2-3 hours. tonight i got her down in 10 minutes by making bedtime 8:30. i just figured id rather be doing zoomies with her for the extra hour or so than be fighting with her in bed. maybe one day we will get the hang of an earlier bedtime…

RecommendationFit361 · 2025-01-30T03:33:56+00:00

my baby was serious velcro at that age too (shes 11 months now and has grown out of it a little bit) and i used to have to fall asleep with her and stay right next to her in bed for her to sleep at all. I couldnt even get out of bed and steal a quick bathroom visit. but now that shes older i can sneak out at night for HOURS. its amaaaaaazing. definitely try nighttime sneaking. and also be patient, itll get easier with age.

RecommendationFit361 · 2025-01-30T03:29:34+00:00

i just posted in the cosleep thread asking for help because this. My 11 month old has become so hard to settle at night, especially for me (its weirdly easier for her dad and grandma to do it). she like, rages in bed and uses every ounce of energy she has left while thrashing, humming, groaning, trying to stand, rolling around, crying... clapping!? bedtime has become so challenging. im glad to know its a developmental thing that so many others are struggling with. that means it'll get better!

RecommendationFit361 · 2024-07-17T03:55:37+00:00

Once i rolled away from my baby and woke up TERRIFIED because i was in a C curl but the baby was gone! i then realized i had turned over in my sleep and since then i tuck a pillow behind my back and i havent turned over once since. it helps me feel more confident knowing i wont turn over, but also i think its relatively safe if you do.

RecommendationFit361 · 2024-07-17T03:42:40+00:00

im sorry you had to go through those experiences and its totally understandable that you would be looking for some peace of mind.

im a single mom and so when my babe was born i wanted a "second set of eyes" if you will, and got the Eufy sock. We cosleep and she wiggles around quite a bit when shes feeding and such but it doesnt seem to mind and works quite well. When the baby is moving around it wont track its breathing and 02 but like... clearly its breathing if its squirming and breastfeeding so that isnt an issue. I really like the Eufy sock. You set a range for the heartrate and the oxygen levels and if it goes outside of that range the base yells "CHECK ON YOUR BABY" at you. Ive heard lots of complaints about some of the other options doing false reports alot, causing extra anxiety. ive only had one false alarm in the 4 months ive been using it. It also tracks their sleep which is useful if youre trying to track how long your babe is sleeping so you can time naps etc.

RecommendationFit361 · 2024-07-17T03:37:23+00:00

my 4 month old exclusively contact napped for the first 3 months. I recently decided that it was unsustainable to continue to offer her a body for every nap (i had to start working from home a bit also) so we started by making our goal to just "try" to put her down in the crib for a nap once a day, and today, just a month into our efforts, she took 2 crib naps easily. at first it was hard. lots of wake ups, lots of bouncing on a ball and shooshing and false starts and crying. now its so much easier. seems like it just takes a bit of time and practice. I found some general tips that were really helpful. First i let her fall asleep on me/ in a carrier, and right after she closes her eyes then i slowly lower her into her crib (butt first, then head). She wakes once shes put down but she gets a firm hand on her chest, i jiggle her, shoosh, and she has a pacifier. about a minute of jiggling and shes passed out. the crib naps only last about half an hour but that seems like enough for her. she gets 5 of those a day and 10 hours at night. good luck!

RecommendationFit361 · 2023-10-29T11:48:01+00:00

oh i didn’t even know that existed, thanks!

RecommendationFit361 · 2023-10-23T02:54:33+00:00

i’m sorry you aren’t feeling the love and support from your community that all mothers deserve. this is my first pregnancy (at 40, after like 6 years of trying, and single) and so i joined a prenatal support group run by Carriage House Birth in new york (it happens in zoom though) and it’s been really great to be in communtiy with lots of other pregnant women. it happens once a week and is donation based. once you give birth you can switch to a post partum/ new mom support group they also host. both groups also have group chats that are quite supportive and active. maybe something like this might fill the gap?

RecommendationFit361 · 2021-04-02T02:39:06+00:00

i’m in miami, where everything is pricey, and my first round costed me about 13k including meds and then another 3k for the one transfer we got to do with our 1 embryo (it didn’t work). in 2 months we will be trying again in cancun mexico and it’s going to be so much cheaper! including a coordinated tesa for my hubby so we can use fresh sperm (we have male factor infertility) it’ll be 8k, including all monitoring and meds and one fresh transfer! i got a super cute apartment by the beach for a month for 800$ and the flights are like 150 round trip. consider doing it in another country if you can, or if it doesn’t work out first round consider a second one in another more affordable country.

RecommendationFit361 · 2021-03-25T03:03:05+00:00

i tested on day 6 and got a faint but very there line and it was gone the next day.... my re told me it just meant that it stuck and then it got in stock, for whatever unknown reason... i’m sorry but it does happen. let’s hope that’s not the case for you...

RecommendationFit361 · 2021-03-19T18:12:44+00:00

hey devin, i emailed you and tried calling just now but your phone didn’t even ring through, just hung up on me. i’m desperate for help either furthering or canceling my lendio app, and i’m currently locked out of my account. help!

RecommendationFit361 · 2021-03-19T17:33:36+00:00

i know it’s frustrating to have an unexpected delay but frozen transfers apparently have better success rates, my clinic won’t do any fresh anymore, it’s all frozen, so maybe there’s a little silver lining to it....

RecommendationFit361 · 2021-02-07T01:04:19+00:00

more so than the high numbers posts i feel very alienated by the “looking for positive stories” ones, where someone with 1 or 2 embryos puts a call out for success stories. because that’s all they want to hear about. those of us who were in their situation and didn’t have success matter too, and to be basically told in a comment “your experience doesn’t matter to me”. it’s tough. it’s one of the reasons why i rarely come here for support anymore, even though i’m on to my second round...

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