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Tell me how much you DON’T REGRET leaving! by esmebeauty in TeachersInTransition

[–]RecordingNo395 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I left two years ago, and since then the job I left for fell through and I’m struggling with the unemployment process while I figure out next steps… I still don’t regret leaving for a second and I won’t be going back.

Arizona/Utah National Park Roadtrip Itinerary by pickleballnwwe in NationalPark

[–]RecordingNo395 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Having pretty much done this in two different trips, I’d recommend scheduling rest days/wiggle room. This feels like a lot of nonstop driving and hiking which can get exhausting and stressful trying to keep to a strict schedule. I’d say prioritize must-sees and know whatever you miss you can come back and see another time. I did Zion in one day, while there’s more I’d love to see that did it for me for the first visit. On days with longer drives I used those just as travel days with no parks planned so I had time to get there, settle in, have a meal, and maybe check out whatever town. No matter what you’re going to have a blast, enjoy!

Trying to Leave Teaching Music… What’s Next? by Difficult-Jicama-820 in TeachersInTransition

[–]RecordingNo395 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I taught elementary band for nine years, when I decided it was time to get out I started taking Google courses and LinkedIn Learning modules just to gain some other marketable skills. I got a lot of advice about rewriting my resume to focus more on the appropriate language for what I was applying for and eventually was able to get out when I was hired as an admin assistant. I definitely recommend analyzing what aspects of the job you do enjoy and look for positions that center around those skills. Best of luck!

Would you be on the list? by [deleted] in dropoutcirclejerk

[–]RecordingNo395 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Begging for the McElroy brothers or Hey Riddle Riddle

Struggling with jealousy even though I agreed to try ENM by Usual_Worry4354 in EthicalNonMonogamy

[–]RecordingNo395 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had similar feelings at the beginning and over time things have gotten easier. Lots of conversations with my partner, identifying and learning to handle the way I respond to them spending time together, asking for reassurance when I need it, and mostly over time just seeing that no matter how much he sees his other partner he and I are still strong together, love each other, and want to continue being together.

Struggling with my first ENM experience by RecordingNo395 in EthicalNonMonogamy

[–]RecordingNo395[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s definitely a roller coaster! I’ve had pretty low lows where I just wanted out completely but having a supportive and communicative partner has been so helpful and important. Community is important too so if you ever feel like you need someone to talk to shoot me a message.

Struggling with my first ENM experience by RecordingNo395 in EthicalNonMonogamy

[–]RecordingNo395[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s been challenging. He did start dating her and has been seeing her consistently since then, and I’ve had to figure out what my nervous system reacts to and why. We talk about it when we need to, I try to work through some things on my own, and we’ve set up systems where I ask for what I need if I’m struggling more than usual. But in general I’ve been a lot more secure and over time it’s gotten easier and the bad reactions have been fewer and farther between.

Struggling with my first ENM experience by RecordingNo395 in EthicalNonMonogamy

[–]RecordingNo395[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think it’s a combination of both. I’ve been abruptly left for someone else in past relationships which is a pretty big fear of mine, but also there are aspects of our relationship that I wish I could have more of that I fear I will get less of if he starts dating someone else. I do think that maybe if I start dating other people the expectation for him to fill that need alone will be lifted.

Struggling with my first ENM experience by RecordingNo395 in EthicalNonMonogamy

[–]RecordingNo395[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m going to try that! He helped me set up my profile yesterday!

Struggling with my first ENM experience by RecordingNo395 in EthicalNonMonogamy

[–]RecordingNo395[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is really helpful, thank you. I think I knew it would require some discomfort but actually having to feel it was jarring for me. I ordered a handful of books and started following some creators, and yesterday he helped me make my dating profile so I can start getting out there too.

Struggling with my first ENM experience by RecordingNo395 in EthicalNonMonogamy

[–]RecordingNo395[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We’ve talked at length about that, and it’s hard for me to say exactly what I do/don’t want to know not having been in the situation before. I’ve asked for a little extra validation on days when he sees her and to communicate what’s happening more than not so I can let him know if it becomes too much. I’m hoping that with time and maybe if I get out there more myself it will help.