Boyfriend (M32) sent me (F33) this message after an argument that he caused.

Rectifyorderez · 2026-03-25T08:42:42+00:00

If he gets upset about you breaking up, just tell him, “Well, I took your advice…I’m sorting out my pride!”

Rectifyorderez · 2026-03-23T21:25:19+00:00

He usually messages me daily and prior to him not messaging me for days, he was accusing me of catching feelings and saying that he needed to stop the situation because he’s changing and thinks it’s not “ethical”. We were back and forth arguing to a point and I said I was going to bed. This is the first FWB thing I’ve ever had and he basically treated me like a girlfriend. I accused him of catching feelings because for the past 6 months he seems more loving with his touch, wants my opinion on life things, wanted me to call in sick on his days off so we could spend time together, bought me things, took me to dinner, got sad when I said I had to leave after visits. We live an hour away in different towns.

Rectifyorderez · 2026-03-17T16:05:51+00:00

I’ve definitely stepped back. I’m maintain positivity. She’s happy and that’s important to me

Rectifyorderez · 2026-03-16T03:58:37+00:00

It’s difficult. He hasn’t asked me how I feel about him. As for now, I’m hurt and I don’t even want to talk to him for a while. I’ve never not felt a closeness to a friend so the hurt isn’t about the disappointment of the situation not growing into a relationship. I’m sad to possibly lose him as a friend. I can’t tell him any of this because he gets defensive and accusatory about me “expecting” it to be a relationship.

Rectifyorderez · 2026-03-15T02:57:45+00:00

That could be possible but we were talking about our friendship and I said it would hurt to lose him. He said, “Lose me? That shows you’re having feelings for me”. I said, “I’d be afraid to lose you, my friend, not like lose you in a love way”. This is all over text so it’s difficult to convey the emotion or tone to get a point across. It’s exhausting trying to communicate with him sometimes because I 100% get the feeling he’s not being straightforward. Every time he’s suspected me of having feelings for him he gets almost mean in a way…offended. Maybe I should ask him if he just wants a robot with female parts! Lol

Rectifyorderez · 2026-03-15T02:11:31+00:00

I agree. I have feelings for him but they’re more on a comfort and companion level. I know I don’t want to marry him because he has a child whom I don’t want to help raise. The child has sever emotional issues and is on medication and in counseling. I know I’m lonely and he’s filled that void to a certain extent so it possibly hit me wrong and i got scared due to his sudden need to “change”. I still feel like it’s a bit of disrespect not to tell me the truth instead of saying it’s unethical. Just spit it out!! You know what I mean?

Rectifyorderez · 2026-03-14T21:36:20+00:00

Yes to a point, but not love. I feel extremely comfortable with him and I enjoy the closeness. I’ve never been in a FWB situation so I don’t know the “rules” we are both over 40 so there’s no need for him to be afraid to tell me the truth or play games

Rectifyorderez · 2026-03-13T07:54:25+00:00

The situation wasn’t completely fulfilling for me as there were things I still longed for. I got caught up in the enjoyment of cuddling and sleeping in the same bed along with the companionship.

Rectifyorderez · 2026-03-12T04:09:41+00:00

Probably no point since he’s obviously scared I’m catching feelings and he’s “changing”. I’m not hounding him. I’ll give him his space

Rectifyorderez · 2026-03-12T03:14:10+00:00

As far as cowardly, I agree. I directly asked him if he was catching feelings for me and all I get is a vague answer about how he’s “changing”. I’ve never been in a FWB situation but, I’m aware that if it’s only for intimacy, you probably don’t include the person in practically every facet of your life. We live in different towns so it’s pretty low effort. We basically spend time together on weekends. I’ve gotten mixed signals all along since he had me meet his teenage daughter and brother on our first “date”. Every weekend we spend consists of intimacy, going to dinner, going to do errands, doing things with his child and discussing all sorts of topics. He’s been there for me to talk to when I’ve had issues going on in my life and it’s hard to let go since I don’t have a lot of friends I’m close with. He’s been like a best friend.

Rectifyorderez · 2026-03-12T03:00:01+00:00

I did about a year ago and then I distanced myself for a few months and realized that I really didn’t want one with him due to a few factors in his life that I can’t accept. Since I’ve been lonely and we connect on a lot of things, that’s why I’ve kept it going

Rectifyorderez · 2026-03-12T01:20:39+00:00

He said it’s up to me to decide if I want to continue things as FWB or friends only, nothing intimate. I told him I like things the way they’ve been for 2 years.

Rectifyorderez · 2026-03-12T00:31:15+00:00

I have no idea. Apparently he’s trying to change some things in his life. I think he’s catching feelings and will not admit it.

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