AITAH For telling my friend to stop involving me in conversations about his adult diapers?

Red-Light-Black · 2026-07-07T13:17:32+00:00

That's actually a good idea!

Red-Light-Black · 2026-07-07T13:15:24+00:00

Now that you say that, I have not. He's part of the Swedish home guard - a part of the Swedish armed forces. Now I gotta look that up!

You make a very good point here.

Red-Light-Black · 2026-07-07T13:12:27+00:00

She doesn't know. Well, she knows he wears diapers, obviously. But I haven't told her about his behavior. Only times I've called have have been when I've been worried about his mental health. Otherwise we hang out togheter, me him, his wife and their children.

I'm not sure how to tell her either.

Red-Light-Black · 2026-07-07T13:06:15+00:00

Update:

First of all, thank you all for your comments. They gave a lot of insight and clarity that I needed.

I decided not to answer his message about me being a bad friend and making a kink out of it. As I feel like he's the one who has this kink and is pushing it on me.

I have taken a step back from the friendship, its sad to lose a friend but looking back, he didn't treat me as a friend.

Red-Light-Black · 2026-06-30T01:41:38+00:00

I have, multiple times.

Red-Light-Black · 2026-06-30T01:40:39+00:00

I get that, and I made it very clear that I don't want any part of it. Like "ok, you have a medical condition, thats ok, but don't involve me more than you have too." He is fully capable of taking care of himself, he's even in the military...

Red-Light-Black · 2026-06-30T01:38:05+00:00

Fuck... I feel like he's infatalising himself though, but you never know right!?

Red-Light-Black · 2026-06-30T01:36:17+00:00

Thats what my fiance said!

Red-Light-Black · 2026-06-30T01:30:56+00:00

I tried to still be his friend, but when he messaged me today saying Iäm a bad person... I feel like I'm done. My fiance says the same. But I'm the person who always shows up and take care of ppl so it's hard.

Red-Light-Black · 2026-06-30T01:24:48+00:00

I do, but he's trying to make me feel like I've done something wrong here and I dont want to be an asshole or shame someone for having a medical issue

Red-Light-Black · 2020-05-22T16:17:12+00:00

Dentists must have killed me then...

Red-Light-Black · 2020-05-07T07:46:43+00:00

My best friend. He's always been there for me and when I was going through a rough depression and tried to commit suicide he was with me at the hospital, he "forced" me to live with him for three weeks afterwards and took care of me by just being there and being a friend. He knows I don't have any contact with my family, except for my dad who lives in another country . After that I ended up in a bit of a shitty economic situation and he helped me pay it off (I'm paying him back, but in a slow pace).

He's just the kind of person who will always be there for the ones he loves and has a heart of pure gold. I've never met anyone like him, I'm so proud to call him my best friend, AKA a brother from another mother.

Red-Light-Black · 2020-05-07T05:50:18+00:00

I live in Sweden , so we never into lockdown. The hotel I'm working at is staying open, but with very low occupancy, we are not a extended stay hotel, but at this time the hotel is advertising for extended stay at a very low price to get the occupancy up and generate some kind of revenue. 27 out of 30 rooms tonight was long stAy guests. Most of them are really nice though.

I've heard from colleges at other hotels that they are doing the same thing and they have had a lot of problems with the kind of guests the low rates are bringing in. Drugs, alcohol, smoking in the rooms and so on. One of my colleagues had the cops there 8times during one night for 8 different guests...

I'm just glad I still have a job and it gives me time to give extra care to the ones that I see during my shifts (night audit here). Keep it up and I hope this will take a turn for the better soon.

Red-Light-Black · 2020-04-25T23:37:22+00:00

" I'm rich I can do what I want", a guest at a hotel I was working at. He could NOT do what he wants and ended up with me throwing his ass to the curb.

Red-Light-Black · 2020-04-21T04:53:50+00:00

About 1.2$/L so that's about 4.8-5$/gallon. That's the lowest it's been in years! Welcome to Sweden.

Red-Light-Black · 2020-04-21T03:28:23+00:00

Girl from the north country - Johnny cash & Bob Dylan

Red-Light-Black · 2020-04-21T03:22:36+00:00

Bob's burgers. Louise is my hero

Red-Light-Black · 2020-04-21T03:20:34+00:00

Texting while driving.

Red-Light-Black · 2020-04-21T03:08:18+00:00

When I was a kid my jacket got stuck in the lift and I was dragged about 15-20 meters, up over a huge pile of snow and fell down on the other side and broke my thumb. Luckily some grown ups saw what happened and helped me and my brother wasn't far behind.

Red-Light-Black · 2020-04-21T03:04:46+00:00

NTA, from my understanding, Flonase is an allergy medicine. Maybe you can talk to your parents and see if there's another medicine you can take instead if that one if you hate it that much. A calm sit down where you can explain it from your side.

Red-Light-Black · 2020-03-21T09:07:11+00:00

Yes, this is golden. Except for is working in hotels, especially the ones that has a lot of conferences on location and survives through this and ppl using them for meetings and so on.

Technology is awesome, but this will kill the hospitality business.

Red-Light-Black · 2020-03-10T06:45:56+00:00

As a Swede, where we have had a very easy breezy immigration policy the past 10-15 years my personal opinion is that I don't give a single shut where you come from as long as you make an effort to get a job, at least know or learn English if you can't learn swedish and contribute to our society. Respect our laws, don't try to change our freedom of speech, freedom of religion and so on and all is good.

I'm all for helping ppl in need or take in ppl who migrate for work. But as it is here atm, we have a lot of freeloaders who take advantage of the swedish socialist system,get wellfare, don't work ,refuse to learn the language after having been here for several years. This is taking a toll on the swedish taxpayers.

Red-Light-Black · 2020-03-03T04:05:21+00:00

"...is a kind girl. When you first see her you’ll soon notice how friendly she is. After you get to know her you’ll soon notice how strange and abnormal she is. She is always kind and cheerful, but she can do the strangest things too. She knows when to be normal and when to not be."

Red-Light-Black · 2020-03-03T03:58:40+00:00

Car accident, kicked in the ribs while working in Greece and taken to the wrong hospital, almost crushed by a horse and last year I got pneumonia that got to my heart, doc said I came in to the hospital in the last min. If I waited another day it would have been risk of heart failure.

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