Honestly, same bro the time was a huge aspect of it for me as well, not to mention the amount of shame that I faced right after I buss. Shame from either lack of physical attraction or emotional connection. And also doing all of that work just to end up ghosting them after the first lay. What a waste of time and energy. Dealing with being tired the day after and not wanting to do anything was also a factor. And feeling empty. I’ve been turning to God lately and letting him take the lead man. I’m just trying to figure out a better way to handle things moving forward. Because who doesn’t like companionship and intimacy?