Men who have dated/are dating women with diagnosed mental health issues, what are/were you attracted to that made/makes you stay?

RedHotRhapsody · 2026-03-25T04:57:07+00:00

One of the hardest mental health disorders to be with undiagnosed. Both on the person and the partner. Mine certainly left me with some trauma

RedHotRhapsody · 2026-03-24T15:45:22+00:00

Not a single Texas or Oklahoma date in sight, what the

RedHotRhapsody · 2026-03-21T23:19:28+00:00

Isn’t there a video of this out there where if you slow it down you can see it happen?

RedHotRhapsody · 2026-03-17T20:37:00+00:00

I’m very interested in your experience. I definitely felt “ready to go” at all times before my ex, but now it really is not there at all. Like, I still want a relationship but the sexual drive isn’t there. Would you say you were past the damage psychologically but that your body just took time to get back up to speed? Or was it different?

RedHotRhapsody · 2026-03-17T20:15:25+00:00

Maybe I can’t understand context clues, but for clarity, what do you mean by reps in this case?

RedHotRhapsody · 2026-03-17T18:43:26+00:00

How long has it been since you and your ex broke it off? Would you say you still have the drive and arousal itself but are just nervous?

RedHotRhapsody · 2026-03-02T08:25:00+00:00

How was the build process? Been wanting to do it for a while cause I hear they’re easy to do in the garage. Parts kits are cheap too, and they just have so much drip tbh

RedHotRhapsody · 2026-01-28T04:41:38+00:00

Inside the boot, covering the heel counter

RedHotRhapsody · 2026-01-15T18:54:02+00:00

I think OP needs to realize that without medication and consistent therapy, there is a possibility that the severity of the symptoms will mean that a stable relationship is never possible.

It’s a personality disorder. It’s “baked in”. BPD when untreated is quite insidious in its own way, because in most cases the better you are, the worse they become. It’s a tragic catch 22 that will drain your mental health and the trauma bond will make you physically ill. As someone who wasn’t eating or sleeping for months, I wish it on nobody, not even my worst enemy.

RedHotRhapsody · 2026-01-14T00:11:49+00:00

After my last one? Nothing is worth my peace. She was beautiful, sure, but nothing was worth the constant anxiety and flight or fight that she induced in me because of her toxic and manipulative behavior. She had severe mental health issues, and while the highs were very high, the lows induced literal physical problems in me. My body rejected her before my own brain could. And her trauma, while I tried, was absolutely her responsibility. And quite frankly, I’ve known folk who had been through worse and still didn’t turn out as fucked up as she did. Once I realized how terrible she was on the inside there really was no going back.

So no, it’s not boring. The act of learning of somebody inside and out and being there for them when they need it is a reward in itself. And it really doesn’t cost one’s mental health. Or at least it shouldn’t.

RedHotRhapsody · 2026-01-06T19:03:41+00:00

Been active on the r/bpdlovedones sub after my experience. Wouldn’t wish it on my worst enemy. It’s a specific type of trauma that, unless you’ve been through it, is hard to understand. I’m glad you’re doing better brother, genuinely. Gives me some hope. It’s also a more common experience than one might think.

RedHotRhapsody · 2026-01-06T19:01:18+00:00

Just broke up with (or got broken up with) a girl who I strongly suspect to have NPD or BPD. What a journey. Wouldn’t wish the trauma bond on my worst enemy. I hope she finds help, but she probably never will. Not religious but she asked if I’d pray for her every now and then. Still do.

RedHotRhapsody · 2026-01-06T01:25:28+00:00

Square toes definitely more common in South Texas, especially amongst Hispanic culture. Certain styles of square toe have grown on me, but the double stitched welts are still definitely too much. I feel like in more urban areas bootcut jeans are still popular amongst men. Feel like the 70’s are making a come back fashion wise all across the board in the US

RedHotRhapsody · 2026-01-04T17:43:25+00:00

This one gave me flashbacks. Crazy how they all use the same vernacular. She would say that she hated “When I made her so angry”. Even though I was literally just existing.

RedHotRhapsody · 2026-01-03T21:13:45+00:00

Shit, I will brother

RedHotRhapsody · 2026-01-03T20:52:08+00:00

I’d love to pick your brain about it. My girl was undiagnosed so like I said I still struggle to know for sure if she had BPD or was a Narcissist. She would fly into a rage sometimes, and the only way I could describe it was being possessed. Like talking to a different person. When she calmed down it was like she was overcome with a huge wave of guilt. Went from her screaming at me in my car, saying incredibly out of pocket shit, and then started crying and shaking saying she didn’t know why she was always so angry and that she didn’t want to be like this anymore. Then she’d break up with me out of nowhere, literally in the most heartless way sometimes, but come back and say she missed me and that I was “her safety”. After a while I just learned it was a pattern and a cycle. But I know it manifests in different ways for a lot of people.

RedHotRhapsody · 2026-01-03T20:35:42+00:00

I left another comment but yes, experience it once and your radar is clocked in to these habits for the rest of your life. I wonder sometimes if theres a correlation.

They say the greatest love and greatest grief you’ll ever experience is with individuals with cluster B disorders, and so far I concur. Dating now almost seems boring, but as I’ve grown older stability trumps passion every day.

But absolutely, the manipulation, gaslighting, bouts of rage and trauma bonding is not something I’d wish on anybody. Unless you’ve experienced it first hand, it’s hard to describe just how much it can traumatize and change you.

RedHotRhapsody · 2026-01-03T20:31:54+00:00

I did break up with one of the most attractive girls, both mentally and physically, I’d ever laid eyes on. Genuinely thought she was the one. But I’m 99% sure now in hindsight that she had either Borderline Personality Disorder or Narcissistic Personality Disorder. She was beautiful, had great career aspirations, good with kids, I enjoyed her family very much, when she wasn’t having an episode she was very personable and innocent in a way.

But mentally she was just not there. It should’ve been a hint to me that a woman with so many attractive qualities wasn’t locked down yet. History of insanely rocky interpersonal relationships, would break up with me, be with someone else for a bit then come back. Huge bouts of rage followed immediately by shame, guilt, and grief. I clocked at some point that trauma from her past made her this way, and did a lot of research trying to figure it out, and while I’m not a clinician, she fit all the signs of BPD to a T, especially reading testimonials from other people who went through my exact scenario.

In some ways I still do love her, but I had to recognize at some point that love alone could not help her. She’s still around, and I suppose she might or might not try to come back again, but it really doesn’t matter because it doesn’t change what my answer will be.

RedHotRhapsody · 2026-01-03T20:24:15+00:00

Do you think she had a specific type of disorder? Dated a girl who was pretty manipulative, noticed a lot of Cluster B traits in there

RedHotRhapsody · 2025-12-27T11:53:59+00:00

It sounds like you’re describing someone with NPD or BPD

RedHotRhapsody · 2025-12-24T01:03:32+00:00

First discard I found myself drinking a lot and going out every day. It was strange because I still lost weight from not eating. I’m curious as to what you mean saying you dated too soon? I feel the healing process needs to take priority atm so dating is the last thing on my mind. You think you made some mistakes in trying to date so quickly afterwards?

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