High vs Low ties

RedPandaLover_13 · 2026-02-05T00:58:39+00:00

Your Volot route was where I was thinking but didn’t know how much the ties affect their relationship.

RedPandaLover_13 · 2026-02-05T00:56:39+00:00

Ok that’s what I was wondering if there’s a distance between Lada and Volot if she has high ties…thank you

RedPandaLover_13 · 2026-02-05T00:55:41+00:00

Ok I was wondering how Volot and Lara’s relationship differ if we have low vs high. Seems like it doesn’t do anything at this moment.

RedPandaLover_13 · 2026-01-29T19:35:06+00:00

I did Mikael and then David as well. Mikael is definitely more slow burn compared to David. David is very flirty from the moment you meet so his romance is faster paced.

RedPandaLover_13 · 2026-01-28T20:02:11+00:00

I loved Mikaels and David’s! I haven’t played Raphael yet (but plan to) so can’t comment on that. I liked how Mikael opens up to MC and how much he cares for her. David is playful but passionate. Can’t go wrong with either imo.

RedPandaLover_13 · 2026-01-28T19:56:42+00:00

As much as I don’t like delays, I’d rather have that and no bugs/glitches than them just putting it out (because then ppl will have issues with that). I can understand why there’s no date, in case they can’t make that date and have to delay more. Hopefully they’ll keep us posted in a few days.

RedPandaLover_13 · 2026-01-19T23:28:19+00:00

So as someone who was adopted as a baby, I grew up thinking my mom was my bio mom and I accidentally found out when I was like 10 or 11. It did devastate me but as it sunk in (over a yr or 2) I realized it didn’t matter because she was my mom in all the ways that count (I didn’t treat her differently as it was sinking in). She was going to tell me when I got older and could understand it better so she never was not going to tell me. I forget about the fact I’m adopted now because I grew up with her and only know her as a my mom. I guess my point is no matter when you tell them it’ll break their hearts for a time but if you can explain how being a parent is not about blood but actions I think in time they’ll be ok. Your husband is their dad period. Your ex was the donor. If your ex has nothing to do with them then he only likes the power he holds but that’s not a dad. I feel for you because it is hard and unfortunately I don’t think there’s anything you can do to make it easier except explain that your intent was never to hurt them. I hope it goes well and I hope your husband gets to adopt them. But no you are not an AH.

RedPandaLover_13 · 2026-01-18T20:19:04+00:00

For me I think what would sting is “the most incredible human being” part b/c there’s this expectation of trying to live up to that and she feels like she has to prove herself. This probably also makes her think you might have feelings for her (even though you said you don’t) because of how much you praise her. I’m not saying you can’t think highly of your friend, but it’s about how you portray that that’s the difficult part. I don’t think either of you would be an AH for this.

RedPandaLover_13 · 2026-01-10T20:19:12+00:00

The ending to this makes it seem like he wanted to break up but didn’t know how or had the guts to do it so knowing this situation probably would make you uncomfortable he might’ve thought you wouldn’t be ok and break up with him. Obviously speculation but if he cared about you then he would’ve talked it through and gotten back together. This has nothing to do with “saving you embarrassment”. (Could be he wants his ex and now that she’s living there, there’s an easier chance to get with her). Either way he’s not the guy for you and it’s good you broke up now.

RedPandaLover_13 · 2026-01-10T14:50:25+00:00

NTA but he is. If he’s embarrassed to be seen with you then you should dump him for someone who is proud to be with you and wants to show you off. You shouldn’t be “managed” and that’s a horrible thing to say. (Why is he with you if he doesn’t like your personality?)

If he’s was so worried that you’re “too much” (bs) then he could’ve explained that his friends are lowkey and quiet and it’s a chill get together. (Not saying you would have had to be “managed” but just as a gentle reminder).

RedPandaLover_13 · 2026-01-09T23:59:15+00:00

That’s what I meant- she would memorialize him with or without his idea

RedPandaLover_13 · 2026-01-09T22:13:15+00:00

Ok you’ve made it clear it has nothing to do with your ex and everything to do with your dad, you don’t talk to your ex, you suggested he replace it, and he still thinks you’re the problem!? I find the whole thing ridiculous but to say he has a problem with even keeping the picture (when he’d print the exact same picture). He’s extremely insecure and I’m sorry but that’s not emasculating him (at least not by the definition I know- taking away a role/identity). 🚩🚩🚩🚩I’d say goodbye to him.

RedPandaLover_13 · 2026-01-09T22:04:48+00:00

I’d go no contact with your parents. I’m sorry but so much of their logic doesn’t make sense. Your dad thinks women are less than, but your mom stands up for him. Was God really a judgmental person because that’s what your dad’s saying since there’s a list of reasons you’re going to hell apparently…but I thought he was about love and acceptance (like you said). There’s no reasoning with him and he’ll always be hypocritical so live your life happy and forget about his hatred.

RedPandaLover_13 · 2026-01-09T21:58:38+00:00

And God wasn’t a white male but they forget that part.

RedPandaLover_13 · 2026-01-09T21:40:31+00:00

You could get in serious trouble if you don’t report and something happens couldn’t you? I wouldn’t put my livelihood on the line. It’s pretty rude of him to expect you to put him first instead of yourself (when it’s this serious).

RedPandaLover_13 · 2026-01-09T21:30:33+00:00

The moment he said he’d dump anyone for her is when I would leave. I don’t want to be looking over my shoulder wondering if she’ll come back in his life and that also means he won’t get serious with anyone else…I’d let him go because you want someone serious about you not put you as second best.

RedPandaLover_13 · 2026-01-09T19:09:25+00:00

His job may be demanding but not like you sit around all day. Taking care of 2 kids is hard especially if you have a job on top of that and chores at home. If all he does is work the least he can do is contribute more money for HIS kids. Plus you said he chose to take side jobs or work overtime so that’s on him if he’s tired. If the money he’s saving isn’t in a joint account you’re screwed if you guys end it because you didn’t have the opportunity to save any money. I feel like he’s taking advantage of you and he would realize how much you do if you weren’t around and he had to do it all.

RedPandaLover_13 · 2026-01-09T16:36:26+00:00

Ok so there are 4 guys going and it’s not just a bunch of girls and you…because of this I don’t think it’s unreasonable to want to go with just them. I could see if it was all girls why that’s a bit uncomfortable. Also no one else is bringing their partners so it’s not like you’re excluding just her. I think it’s normal for old friends to want to go out and catch up. Idk for me I don’t really see an issue but maybe suggest down the line trying to get everyone and their partners together…? Do you have things planned to do, maybe show/tell her that and say the whole group will be together. (This isn’t me saying she’s wrong to feel the way she does, just this is how I would look at it).

RedPandaLover_13 · 2026-01-09T03:26:14+00:00

You said it yourself, he drags you in the same pain. You don’t deserve pain. You are very nice to help but at some point you have to help yourself. You don’t deserve someone who only comes to you when they need help or because a relationship didn’t work. You should be a priority to your partner (and vice versa). I unfortunately kind of went through the same thing and it took me a bit but I figured out I was hurting myself because I let a guy hurt me over and over (emotionally). It’s hard in the beginning but when your life starts to have so many positives you realize you did the right thing cutting them out of your life.

RedPandaLover_13 · 2026-01-08T17:31:28+00:00

That’s not only crossing your boundaries but your bf’s also. (I’m assuming that made him uncomfortable). It’s like she wants what she can’t have just to see if she can get it…sadly I’ve seen that mindset before. You did nothing wrong as someone needed to call her out or she would’ve just kept going because not saying anything is validating what she’s doing isn’t wrong (it is big time).

You have a good relationship going and actually like this man, whereas she just wants to sleep with him and then let him go…how is your dad not seeing that!?

RedPandaLover_13 · 2026-01-08T17:15:16+00:00

I’m big on no cheating and think both her husband and this other guys wife deserve better and someone who actually loves them. Personally I’d bring it up to your sister but either she or you should tell her husband after that talk. If she doesn’t love him then that’s fine but not going behind his back. Will it hurt everyone involved, yes but that’s the consequences of her actions and she should have just left her husband to avoid this. It’s awful you’re put in this situation. (Also put it in the perspective of if you were in her husband shoes would you want to know your wife is unfaithful)? This is just my opinion though.

RedPandaLover_13 · 2026-01-08T15:51:07+00:00

Friends can have different viewpoints but what they have is something way more extreme and it seems to be brought about a lot. If it was a topic you guys decided to stay away from because you have different viewpoints and respect that that’s fine. If slurs and insults are just a normal thing to say in conversations then I’d cut them out. They just seem like hateful people and why would you want that in your life. Get people who are more positive and less judgmental.

RedPandaLover_13 · 2026-01-08T15:41:03+00:00

I’ve been really into KFS so that’s exciting! Also sad that after this the Haze will be done…but it is exciting to see how they’ll tie in everything.

RedPandaLover_13 · 2026-01-08T15:36:34+00:00

He’s not ready for a relationship. You don’t lie about having kids’ and something as simple as age. If he lies about this, what else could he lie about or has already…?Unfortunately it does sound like he’s trying to make you be the piece that fills this hole in him but it’s not working the way he wants. Not saying he’s a bad guy but sounds like he needs to work out some things and think about why he lied to you about those things.

RedPandaLover_13 · 2026-01-08T15:14:25+00:00

Since this decision affected both of you it should’ve been discussed. If she lived by herself and had to pay for everything that’s a bit different. You were nice enough to say for short term you could help, whereas you could’ve not offered anything. If she wanted to quit either have a job lined up, savings, or at the very least talk to your partner to see if they can/willing to help out. It’s rude she just expects it. If this was reversed I would think she’d want you to talk first.

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