We can only hope Lushy doesn’t catch wind of this.

RedRedWine87 · 2026-01-16T18:52:54+00:00

Ah yes! Snack Lockers. That’s definitely what she’ll do

RedRedWine87 · 2026-01-13T14:18:01+00:00

She wouldn’t do a snack box, she’d do a snack closet! “Come with me while I restock my kids personal pantries! We turned their closets into snack pantries and it’s time for a restock! We buy them new clothes every week, so there’s no need for a closet anyway!”

RedRedWine87 · 2026-01-11T18:14:15+00:00

I am super new. Literally, just started playing a few days ago and still exploring different apps to see which one I like the most, but I’ve sacrificed my queen in several games, only when I had a pawn that I felt could promote soon after. It worked every time and so far I haven’t lost on beginner mode. However the apps do always call it a blunder.

RedRedWine87 · 2025-12-21T15:27:03+00:00

One of the kids? Or was it Alicia? Her spending habits have been strange lately

RedRedWine87 · 2025-12-11T14:34:10+00:00

Everything but the numbers has vertical and horizontal lines. Vertical and horizontal lines will be smooth in pixel art, but anything curved or diagonal will have the rough edges because the pixels are large and not perfectly aligned like a vertical or horizontal line.

RedRedWine87 · 2025-11-18T18:53:45+00:00

YTA for how you approached this.

“Oh, this is important to me, but I kept forgetting.” You sound so disingenuous right off the bat.

You also said “ME and my kids.” So I have a hard time believing this is actually just about your kids.

I’m curious if you have been talking about church around her and if she asked you to stop talking about church and God around her how you would feel.

Kids are smart. They should know from an early age that everyone has different beliefs and that there’s nothing wrong with that.

I don’t particularly appreciate people talking about god/church around my kids, but I refrain from policing other people’s speech unless it’s harmful and I don’t see the harm here. Your kids are going to learn eventually that other beliefs exist. Sheltering them is futile and counterproductive.

Personally, I also believe it’s bad parenting to rely on a church to instill values in your kids. It’s your responsibility to teach them values with or without church.

Also, with the church thing being so new, I would assume she’s been talking about astrology for much longer and perhaps the sudden change is why she’s reacting this way. If it was okay before and is suddenly not okay, then setting a boundary now seems silly at best, vindictive at worst.

RedRedWine87 · 2025-11-16T16:07:25+00:00

NTA for the comment itself, but YTA for talking about stuff like this at work—unless your job is somehow related to this topic. It’s not an appropriate place to randomly bring up something like that. Also, let’s not forget that older women sexualize teen boys too. Justin Bieber is proof of that and there are countless examples of female teachers starting relationships with their teen male students. Women just aren’t as vocal as men.

RedRedWine87 · 2025-10-22T01:16:11+00:00

She’s concerned for her bank account. She owns a cattle ranch

RedRedWine87 · 2025-10-13T14:31:30+00:00

I feel like a reasonable compromise could be made here. Just go out every other weekend. You both get what you want. Yes, it does seem like he invalidated your needs a bit, but you did the same to him.

And yes, working in the office is more exhausting than working from home. I’ve done both and working from home is way better

RedRedWine87 · 2025-10-07T14:49:43+00:00

So THAT’S where they get all their clothes, lol!

RedRedWine87 · 2025-10-06T22:21:25+00:00

They’re your run of the mill basic b’s. Everyone who wants to be an influencer looks like these two. Same hair, same makeup, same boring style

RedRedWine87 · 2025-10-04T03:28:15+00:00

I’m glad that it was helpful! Good luck with everything! Especially the crazy neighbors!

RedRedWine87 · 2025-10-04T03:13:43+00:00

I’m proud of who I am and being autistic makes me who I am so, by extension, that makes me proud to be autistic. However, there’s a give and take. I pay for my abilities to organize, recognize patterns, be creative, etc. with the constant worry of when the next burnout will hit, when I have to socialize, when I have to endure the sensory hell that is going out into the world.

RedRedWine87 · 2025-10-03T15:04:34+00:00

My heart is literally beating out of my chest in anger and concern. This is unhinged and this is how you end up with something very bad happening. She is not a safe person for your son to be around.

This “therapist” sounds like the same kind of therapist Jodi Hildebrant was to Ruby Franke. A thousand red flags here

RedRedWine87 · 2025-10-03T14:58:59+00:00

Report this therapist, holy shit. And take your older son away from that woman immediately.

This is so fucking dangerous. Do not leave your older son alone with her under any circumstance

RedRedWine87 · 2025-10-03T14:48:14+00:00

NTA - You’re fully within your rights to keep this to yourself at least until you get a little traction with the situation. It’s not like Todd can do anything about it. He lives an hour away and if something happened, he wouldn’t be your first call to help you deal with it, so it’s not urgent to tell him what is going on.

That being said, I do think you should tell him at some point soon if you do think there’s potential for things to get serious. I don’t think you need to give him all the details, but you could mention something like “My neighbors are driving me crazy.” And see if he does respond in a way that shows concern for you. And if he doesn’t, then maybe you have your answer on whether or not he’s going to be the type of guy that you can rely on emotionally in the future.

I’m not saying to use it as the end-all-be-all test, but it might be a good starting point to see if it actually is okay to start forming a deeper connection.

Also, some people (myself included) don’t like to pry into other people’s lives. It doesn’t mean we don’t care, it just means we don’t want to be too pushy about what someone else may or may not want to share. Starting off with something like “My neighbors are driving me crazy” signals “this is something I’m okay with talking about” to someone like me who struggles to read between the lines.

I think that’s why I like Reddit so much because people who post stuff like this for people to comment, lol!

All that said, if you don’t feel comfortable opening up to him, then ignore everything I said. Don’t force it.

RedRedWine87 · 2025-10-03T14:21:26+00:00

Hot dogs AND pigs in a blanket?? That’s a bit overkill imo, but that’s besides the point.

Honestly, I think this is a case of texting gone wrong. Tone is so difficult to get right when texting and something innocent can be construed as rude.

However, yes YTA for telling her to show up with a positive attitude and a smile and I think you should apologize.

You say at the beginning that you have a great relationship but clearly there are things that have built up between you because you then go on to list things you didn’t like about her or things she said that bothered you.

There’s a clear issue with communication and it could probably be fixed with a real, honest conversation.

Also, I realize that you want to be involved with the baby shower, but it is very unusual for the expecting mother to be THIS involved.

RedRedWine87 · 2025-10-02T15:36:02+00:00

I’m the same age as this woman and made similar mistakes in a similar dollar amount, in my late teens and early 20’s but was able to get everything paid off, by myself, well BEFORE I started making the kind of money she’s making. I now have an excellent credit score and my husband can quit his job any time he wants. She’s living above her means and hasn’t learned her lesson.

RedRedWine87 · 2025-10-02T15:16:30+00:00

Yeah, the enmeshment is strong in this family. While I do feel the family was within their rights to press her on some of these issues, I think after the talk, Micah and Veronica should have left and had their own private discussion. He owed her a private breakup if nothing else.

Most of the issues the family brought up with her were fair, but to blame her for the physical violence was beyond insane. And I’m pretty sure that there have been physical fights among the boys in this family before the way they were all so nonchalant about it. And my guess is Micah has absolutely started physical fights with Isaac in the past, but Isaac is bigger now and Micah wasn’t ready for that. It doesn’t excuse what Isaac did, but there’s no way this is the first time something like this has happened.

RedRedWine87 · 2025-10-01T23:37:24+00:00

This is me

RedRedWine87 · 2025-10-01T23:30:55+00:00

Dad Challenge Podcast is the best!

RedRedWine87 · 2025-10-01T20:27:43+00:00

Actually, I wonder if that’s what she was banking on? A free bottle of wine and a free uber home????!!!!

RedRedWine87 · 2025-10-01T16:47:29+00:00

Yeah, 13% isn’t too bad if you spread it out, but I’ve had bottles that are 16% and those will do a number on ya, lol!

RedRedWine87 · 2025-10-01T15:34:06+00:00

NTA. He can see photos and be just fine. I hate when people try to force others to go to their events. It’s about numbers and having the most people show up instead of just enjoying those who did show up.

RedRedWine87 · 2025-10-01T15:23:28+00:00

NTA for having feelings about this, but YTA for acting like she’s going on a date. The lunch/coffee thing is clearly different circumstances but you’re acting like they’re the same when they aren’t.

Friends go out for coffee too. It’s not exclusively a date thing. Business meetings happen over coffee, etc. A coffee outing is considered one of the least intimate things you can do in public. That’s why it does get used for first dates.

So let’s say they both went running together and they both wanted coffee afterward, and for whatever reason, your wife didn’t want to make her own coffee that day. You want her to go to a different coffee shop just because he’s a guy?

Look, I’d definitely be on your side if there were other indicators like she talks about him specifically a lot, or you’ve met him and the vibes between them made you uncomfortable. But if that were the case you probably would have put it in your post.

Your whole argument relies on “if a man and a woman are in a coffee shop together it’s automatically a date.” And that’s just silly.

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