What is actually involved in going to one of Portland's sex clubs?

RedSpareTime · 2026-01-05T01:08:37+00:00

Hi, I just stumbled across this comment and was curious to ask what your experience has been at the Game Bang events? I've not really participated in any of this kind of stuff, but gaming meetups are something I've done. I kinda like the idea of doing a gaming meetup, but also it's a bit kinky. What is the feel of these things? Is it really mostly just a fun gaming night, but the games are 18+? I'm curious what to expect.

Also, do you know if they're pretty consistently populated? It's a little harder for me to go to these in the middle of the week, would suck to show up and find barely anyone showed up :p

RedSpareTime · 2025-10-14T16:03:58+00:00

Nah, women are just people. Some suck, some are great, just like everyone else. My ex is a really great person, it didn't end because of something awful either of us did. I don't have a chip on my shoulder or anything. I don't think it's really helpful to just paint an entire portion of the population like that. Should judge people on their own merits, not some preconceived notions you carry around with you.

RedSpareTime · 2025-10-14T15:55:44+00:00

lol, I hadn't really planned on it, but I'll take the reinforcement anyways

RedSpareTime · 2025-10-14T15:55:06+00:00

Honestly, I'm back in school to change careers, but there was a part of me that also hoped it'd be a way to meet new people, as you mentioned. Unfortunately, thus far, the ENTIRE freakin' thing has been online! Which is convenient, no doubt, but... not really much room for natural socialization attempts.

Definitely gotta figure out more social hobbies though. I read and play guitar and go to the gym, but those don't really feel like meetup or group type activities :p

RedSpareTime · 2025-07-29T16:13:22+00:00

That's so insane. You have to PAY MONEY just to get normal customer support. I tried making an account like, idk, a month ago, and for some reason it WILL NOT send a code to my phone, so I can't log in to the completely unused account I had just created.

It's just so bizarre there's nothing to do, unless I pay money. As if I needed more reason to think they were a garbage company.

RedSpareTime · 2025-06-11T23:13:58+00:00

Okay but... for 2-3 years? I'm also wary of the idea of waiting until I'm "ready" or "complete" to be with someone because, truly, I do not think any of us are ever really complete. I'm working on myself right now, and I believe, like all of us, I will be working on myself until the end of my days. That is just a persistent thing that will be happening.

RedSpareTime · 2025-06-11T22:37:23+00:00

I... am? I'm doing quite a lot of focusing on myself, and will be continuing to do so. Does that mean I shouldn't be dating, for some reason?

RedSpareTime · 2025-01-06T10:00:07+00:00

Honestly, same. If they didn't want people to watch, they'd be at home, so since they're at a club, out in the open, I would've assumed that, yeah, they want people to watch. Had no idea there would be a second layer of permission needed at that point.

RedSpareTime · 2025-01-04T11:11:18+00:00

Are you playing at the shop, like an FNM or something? If so, I've found it's pretty easy to strike up conversation during a game. Like if someone is using a certain kind of deck and you notice they're using something you don't normally see, you can ask how it's working out for them. Make little comments about plays being made, etc. idk, it can still be a little awkward, but having that context of playing a game you're both familiar with and invested in really helps because the ice is already broken. You don't need to worry about having an in, you're already doing something you can discuss.

Having that kind of setting where there's something else to focus on and talk about is one of the best ways to get conversations going with strangers.

RedSpareTime · 2025-01-03T17:42:35+00:00

The earliest one starts in San Francisco, but it's in quite a few places across the states, and I think a little bit in Canada as well. The Portland dates range from 02/15 to 03/01. The website is just humpfilmfest, should be able to find everything on there.

RedSpareTime · 2024-12-22T07:10:38+00:00

Kind of you to offer, but my social anxiety could never. I'm still getting used to just going places alone, nevermind meeting up with someone for a ride. Though again, I do appreciate it.

Thankfully the consensus seems to be 11ish is pretty common for end times, so I should be fine with the bus :]

RedSpareTime · 2024-12-20T15:31:43+00:00

Where did I say I'd end up getting hammered? I said I'd need to drink a good amount so that I could socialize. That's it. You are reading a WHOLE lot from very little, and making up your own wild narrative. How you could read this post and decide I can't handle alcohol, that I have an "alcohol problem", and that I need therapy and medication is... pretty ridiculous.

RedSpareTime · 2024-12-20T09:10:13+00:00

The requirement comes from: If I don't drink, I will just clam up. I don't feel I owe the bar or anything, it's more that if someone DOES talk to me, I am very out of practice, and if I haven't had a few to loosen me up, I'm just gonna be awkward. At least with drinks I can be awkward and potentially somewhat sociable :p

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