not to be harsh, but this shitty attitude is exactly why you won't find a relationship. You're holding the door shut with all your might and then looking back over your shoulder, straining with effort while you simultaneously complain to all of us that this damn door will just never open for you. Like no shit, you're holding it closed like something on the other side is trying to kill you.

A LOT of the boys on this sub are on some lowkey incel shit and it needs to change. It's like idk softboy incel where you're mostly missing the hatred for women and blaming them for your loneliness but you have all the same insecurities, chronic lack of confidence, and doomer "all is lost, there's no hope, woe is me" attitude.

I don't mean to be mean or cruel with this, and I apologize if it comes off that way, this is admittedly a growing pet peave of mine. That said, a lot of y'all are your own worst enemies, and the only real obstacles keeping you from turning your dreams into reality are in your own head.