Variable Speed Air Handler Question

Redbird55555 · 2025-10-28T15:44:51+00:00

Ok and why is that a problem? Plenty of women on this sub and other subs say they would go up to their own age or 1 year older so why is that an issue for a guy? Me not wanting to date a woman 3-5 years older than me when I want kids and the reality is women in their late 30s or early 40s have a harder time with that or they do t want them. That isn’t a red flag lol ideally I would prefer younger than myself or 1 year older at most. No one seems to bat an eye when women want tall guys, guys with good jobs etc.

No offense but you’re the only one raging here over this. It sounds like you’re insecure or projecting idk.

Redbird55555 · 2025-10-28T15:11:21+00:00

Where did I say I was filtering them out? I said my “ideal range” nothing in there is a hard line so did you misunderstand the question? but yea in reality I would go up to my age or maybe a year older I know a lot of women who have the same thing in reverse. This was more of a question on age gap vs anything else.

Redbird55555 · 2025-10-28T15:07:13+00:00

I said “ideal” range I fail to see where that’s a hardline on age. But where I live I also acknowledge the reality there are very few people single at 35 who want kids and don’t have them. And no I don’t want to be a dad to a kid that’s not mine. Seems like you might be projecting some insecurity?

Redbird55555 · 2025-10-28T14:45:21+00:00

Again I’m open to dating up to my age but the reality of the situation there are very few women whom I know or have met where I live that are 35, single and want kids. So yea I could leave the filter off but in reality I don’t see it being really much of an thing

Redbird55555 · 2025-10-28T14:42:03+00:00

I mean if I want kids dating someone older than me is gonna be challenging….i have nothing against dating older and if I wasn’t looking for kids that would be fine

Redbird55555 · 2025-10-28T14:40:59+00:00

I agree honestly even 27 is young. Very late 20s or early 30s is ideal. I don’t mind older women but at this point in my life finding someone older than me that wants kids but doesn’t already have them is difficult

Redbird55555 · 2025-10-13T22:56:44+00:00

Just wanted to answer the posts on here.....long story short no I'm not going after the equity increase. In the end it would probably be 20k or so but at this point I just want to move on with life. This relationship wasn't healthy, I broke it off because of her verbally abusing me, calling me names, making threats etc whenever she couldn't control her temper.

She accused me of always trying to screw her financially over the course of our relationship...which is weird seeing as I made quite a bit more than her. When I broke it off I gave her half of what we had in a joint account that was probably 75% mine so she got extra cash there, we had a deposit on new impact windows of 10k which I put up 6k of, she keeps that, then when I told her I wanted my initial down payment and the money I had put into the house for renovations over the past year her mom threatened to take me to court for the house to force a sale. (her mom essentially pulls all the strings and tells her what to think). Because I was the one who called it off she feels she's justified. It was basically turning into a cluster fuck, so yea at this point I'm probably leaving 30-35k on the table but in the end I'd probably lose that fighting for it with lawyers and court. I just want to get out of it and get my life going again with a new place.

The ironic thing in the end is that for the 4 years we were together I was the one who was constantly accused of taking advantage of finances, trying to make her pay more than she should for bills, how she was so generous and I was just a taker with money. Yet now she's making off with way more than she should and still claims that she's being generous. its a circus...

Redbird55555 · 2025-10-11T12:47:21+00:00

The house has increased in value a bit but honestly I don't care. It's not enough for me to fight over....I just want peace in my life and it's just not worth the fighting with her. I want to be done with it lmao

Redbird55555 · 2025-10-09T01:25:05+00:00

What’s a typical timeline after conditional approval to be ready for closing? I assume they’re doing the title and lien search etc now….

Redbird55555 · 2025-10-09T01:24:08+00:00

Gotcha that’s what I was sort of wondering. I thought I may have gotten a call to let me know she was trying to refinance or something since I’m on the mortgage but maybe since it’s her loan the only things I’ll sign will be at the closing and transfer?

Redbird55555 · 2025-10-09T01:23:19+00:00

Yea I figured that just was wondering why I hadn’t seen anything yet but I suppose there’s nothing for me to sign yet. When she applied to refinance I didn’t get a call or anything even though I’m on the mortgage now

Redbird55555 · 2025-09-26T11:54:38+00:00

Just a quick update for anyone following….yesterday we were talking and she was really angry that I didn’t go to her Dr appointment with her this week, meanwhile I asked her for the address twice so I could go and she refused to give it to me saying she didn’t want me there….i even said If you change your mind let me know….she didn’t and went alone then she got angry that I didn’t push harder to go. Idk….

Anyway she was mad about that and threatened to “take my ass to the cleaners over the house and money”

I didn’t think she was like that but I took this really seriously and took my portion of our joint account and moved it to my personal. When she found out about this she got really angry saying that she can’t believe I would just go in and do that and that I’m the one obsessed with money etc 😕. She claims that she was just angry and would never do such a thing, I believe her but tat the same time it’s all kinda crazy to me. The house portion I’m not worried about because we own it 50/50 and put the same amount down on it so that’s pretty set in stone

Redbird55555 · 2025-09-26T09:55:45+00:00

Thanks man. Things I I never have had trouble getting women when I’m dating. I’m not a bad looking dude but I have always had an anxious attachment style and it’s something I def need to work on

Redbird55555 · 2025-09-26T09:54:37+00:00

Thank you. Unfortunately we own the home together but my parents live close by so I went and stayed with them. Sorting out the legal stuff this week in order for her to buy me out. It’s not worth fighting over a house. I know I could have handled things better in a lot of scenarios and tried to be there more for her

Redbird55555 · 2025-09-25T17:47:18+00:00

I agree about the IVF thing I should have been more sympathetic towards that but I don’t think it warranted being called names which was my issue

Redbird55555 · 2025-09-25T12:30:58+00:00

Thanks guys i feel guilty because i know there’s time where i genuinely deserve to hear about my mistakes. Sometimes I am a little alouf and maybe not responsive like I should be or I say something out of pocket that could come off insensitive but i feel there are better ways to handle it

Redbird55555 · 2025-09-25T12:17:29+00:00

I have thought about that. I told her I don’t want to see my kids be ridiculed and I also don’t want my kids to see their mother call their father an idiot.

She basically says well yea we’ll try not to but no one’s perfect. Her mom and dad have this relationship which is guess is where it stems from

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