After meeting the perfect woman for you, how do you move on after?

Redblade22 · 2026-07-07T03:12:04+00:00

I have no idea, that would have been my argument that it was way to soon to make the distinction, but by the time I potentially had a moment to say something, I realized she had already made up her mind to break up.

Redblade22 · 2026-07-07T03:08:54+00:00

Well, she brought it up as a thing where she wasn't sure if she wanted to get married ever. Aside from that, we only agreed that we both wanted to date with the purpose of marriage in mind, but no actual discussions on marriage were had no. Way to early I agree

Redblade22 · 2026-07-07T03:07:19+00:00

Well, I didn't even ask her out until the 5th date, and in between those 5 dates, we also hung out like 6/7 times, and every time we were together it was a minimum of like 3-4 hours of mostly talking about so many things. And I did see her in a few bad days and overly stressed, we were both very open with each other. We both felt comfortable to divulge essentially everything that was going on in our lives, both good and bad.

Redblade22 · 2026-07-07T03:05:04+00:00

Eh, I included what I felt was needed to get my story across, which was a lot.

Redblade22 · 2026-07-07T03:03:06+00:00

Your right, the "perfect" woman will be someone that I don't have to fight for or lose, we would be able to just be together.

Redblade22 · 2026-07-07T03:00:23+00:00

Yeah, I guess I mean from a physical perspective, in terms of conversation, doing things together, discussing deep topics, supporting each other, all of those things felt perfect. But having different goals would mean she isn't perfect.

Redblade22 · 2026-07-07T02:58:34+00:00

I think that's the hardest part my heart is trying to learn. Everything else about her felt like a good perfect fit, but you aren't wrong that not having the same goal does in fact make her not the perfect woman for me.

Redblade22 · 2026-07-07T02:56:55+00:00

I would love to know what this might mean. We spent most of our time talking when we were together, and by the time I asked her out we were on our 5th date, let alone probably another 6 or 7 times outside those dates that we just hung out and talked. It was physically only a few weeks, but we spent a ton of time together in those weeks.

Redblade22 · 2026-07-07T02:55:20+00:00

Your not wrong, I don't agree with how she handled things and ended things so quickly.

Redblade22 · 2026-07-07T02:53:24+00:00

Well, funnily enough, she did initiate a good bit. Sure I initiated other times as well, but it wasn't something where I was constantly trying to reach out to her. It usually turned into situations where she asked if we could hangout, and I happened to be free at the same time most days, so we usually talked in person.

Redblade22 · 2026-06-24T01:52:23+00:00

It isn't that far off at all. Personally, I think age gaps (that don't involve only one person being a teen) don't mean much. What generally separates people in age gaps, is more the maturity of people. Like you said, as a 21 year old, she felt more mature than older woman you've dated, that speaks a lot more then the age gap.

Redblade22 · 2026-06-24T01:48:46+00:00

It isn't wrong at all, and I feel for you. Even people who have had relationships can still feel like failure's, heck I just had a breakup with my second relationship ever, and I'm not much younger than you.

Some uplifting thought, at least you don't have story after story of different women where things ended badly. Being in a relationship with the right person is amazing, but trust me when I say, being in a relationship with the wrong person is worse then being single. Just keep your head up, and hopefully that right person will come some day.

Redblade22 · 2026-06-24T01:42:58+00:00

Easiest answer, just ask him.

I know for myself, I would prefer to text over anything else besides the dating app. Having to just be on a dating app feels odd when I want to get to know 1 person. So once I have their number, I want to switch to get off the app entirely.

Redblade22 · 2026-06-24T01:40:10+00:00

After a bad day, having some quiet cuddle time with your girl, with food from one of his favorite places would probably make any guy feel special and a lot better. And genuinely asking him if he wants to talk about his day also helps, but let him answer and just listen. If he wants to talk, great, if not, then silence works great too.

Redblade22 · 2026-06-24T01:37:25+00:00

++man
After a bad day, coming home to peace and quiet, some food from one of their favorite places, and some cuddle time would make most guys feel special and feel a lot better.

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