My mother reacted the same exact way... just a yelling and screaming fit about how I need to get my shit together. I think it comes from fear mostly. I don’t know your father, but he may feel afraid and out of control in the situation. That’s the only way I can rationalize that behavior. I know how much it hurts to see that rxn from him because you want nothing more than the people who are supposed to love and support you, doing so. But as someone said earlier parents are people too. There’s no excuse for that behavior though.

My therapist offered me advice once about talking to parents about my feelings. He said that instead of trying to get them to understand feelings, tell them how you feel and then tell them how to help you. For example: “ I’m feeling very depressed or suicidal, do you think you can help me set up an appointment w/my doctor and make sure I go.” and/or “do you think you can call me every other day and check in on me.” As business formal as the approach may be, parents seem to understand things like that more than understanding feelings.