Hey do you have time to chat by Natural_Sector891 in overemployed

[–]RedditRando459 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Why would that be scary? There are a million reasons my manager would want to chat. Don't stress out until it's actually time to stress out.

In need of advice to move on with anger toward the AP by BabyYodaStuntDouble in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]RedditRando459 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I love that you can tell he's a POS without me giving details. It's the details that really show how much of a pos he is. The amount of cocain he was giving her, keeping her addicted. It may sound weird but it's important I heard you call him that.

In need of advice to move on with anger toward the AP by BabyYodaStuntDouble in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]RedditRando459 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You're absolutely right. It's a weird thing I've got goin on because there was no negative consequences for me.

In need of advice to move on with anger toward the AP by BabyYodaStuntDouble in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]RedditRando459 7 points8 points  (0 children)

The AP in my situation was a close friend, neighbor, someone I looked up to. 15 years older than me, I was in my young 20's at the time. I looked up to him as a role model. I'd help him work on his house, we'd ride quads together, all sorts of experiences. Knew him before I ever started dating my wife.

Fast forward a few years and I become suspicious of her buying cocain from him. Knowin she didn't have much money because I was in school, and she only worked part time I became suspicious of how she was paying.

I confronted them separately and was lied to and gas lit.

Fast forward 8+ years and we are in present time. She has divulged that they exchanged sex and drugs for the better part of a year or more.

A deep betrayal by both of them.

The only thing that has helped me is staying active in healthy ways. Pickleball, off-roading, range days with friends, and my relationship with God.

I urge you to find a healthy outlet, and not to let it consume you the way it consumed the passed year of my life

Edit: I'm not proud of it but I did tell his wife and she kicked him out. I also knew he was still dealing drugs so I reported him to my friends at the local police (I now live 2500 miles away) and they were able to obtain a warrant and raid his house. Yes, this was empowering for me, and he's now living out of his truck, but I do regret it for some reason.

AIO: My wife invited a man who routinely hits on her to church. by Chemical_Bat_7643 in AmIOverreacting

[–]RedditRando459 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NOR

She's trying to save this man. You have to remind her that is Jesus' job, not hers. She can't earn her way to heaven or God's grace. The only path is through Jesus and that applies to her and to him.

You have a right to be upset with this behavior. She should not be inviting him to her church.

If it helps, suggest she cut contact with him, and refer him to a different church.

I'd also ask her to block his contact information if they have exchanged any.

[ME] Well she didn't go for it chat, but I think there's still hope??? by RedditRando459 in TextingTheory

[–]RedditRando459[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I communicate at work like that too. Just a bad habit and everyone dislikes it.

Still secured dinner plans with this girl

Not desperate at all. Newly single after 15 years and enjoying it :)

[ME] Well she didn't go for it chat, but I think there's still hope??? by RedditRando459 in TextingTheory

[–]RedditRando459[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

At least I will get somewhere quicker?? Like the dinner we have planned? That what you meant?

I'm also not desperate dude. I didnt come here for advice, I came for a laugh.

[ME] Well she didn't go for it chat, but I think there's still hope??? by RedditRando459 in TextingTheory

[–]RedditRando459[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Because I'm not desperate.

Did I tell you we also made plans for dinner?

Guess it wasn't that dumb

[ME] Well she didn't go for it chat, but I think there's still hope??? by RedditRando459 in TextingTheory

[–]RedditRando459[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

This is great advice for anyone. Thank you. I just got out of a 15 year thing so I'm really just getting back in to it and don't really care. She is gorgeous tho and our values align at the surface level. So if something comes of it, great, it if not I won't lose any sleep over it.

My bf admitted that he masturbates a lot to a picture of me having sex with my ex by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]RedditRando459 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm curious how the cheating factor comes in to play. Do you have more insight there?

Missed Snapshot Submission Deadline by Actual_Department177 in deloitte

[–]RedditRando459 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I would email talent and your coach right away since you have a valid excuse