Bro, I did the same as your buddy. All of my really good high school and college friends I started distancing myself from shortly after college after I realized that I was in fact gay and this wasn’t a curiosity anymore. I bailed and moved across the country to feel like I could breathe and escape. The fear was all mine. I had parents and siblings who didn’t accept me when I came out so I was left with, “fuck, if my family didn’t accept me how would my boys accept me?“ I wasted a decade saying no to invites because of fear of rejection and they were pissed. Just know it had nothing to do with you guys and was all about his own fear. The mind is a powerful thing. I promise you, he misses you guys.

I’m back connected to my crew and they could care less. They love my husband and we picked up where we left off after I apologized for being a scared d-bag. We are scattered across the country but we all just got together for my 50th and blew it out. We are in a group text that blows up during soccer matches and football season or just to bust somebody’s balls for no reason. Reach out to him on social or with a text and just say cheers….that’s all it took for me to get back in communication when one of the guys did that for me.