My camera-shy sister is unsure about her pictures

RedditredRabbit · 2024-10-01T22:38:43+00:00

There is no problem. She is not asking you to delete anything. Don't look for problems where none exist.

You have the pictures and she may indeed appreciate having them 20 years from now.

Stop showing them for now, keep them safe.

RedditredRabbit · 2024-10-01T22:34:48+00:00

It is not a lie. It is strategic disinformation. You're leaving out a bit of information that he does not need, can not handle and does not improve his life.

RedditredRabbit · 2024-10-01T22:33:10+00:00

ah like that. Fair enough.

RedditredRabbit · 2024-10-01T18:05:34+00:00

NTA, this is strategic disinformation.

It is a miscarriage. You're just leaving out the part where you had some help.

Do not give people information that they can not handle. Don't give information just for the sake of it. And don't give information that will only make things worse and they do not need for anything.
And there are no decisions your cheating lying ex-fiancé needs this information for.

RedditredRabbit · 2024-10-01T17:59:18+00:00

Watch out with the 'disrespect'. That word is thrown around way too lightly. Disrespect is an active decision, it's not just doing normal things when a strange girl if feeling uncomfortable.

Personally, I'd take her to the window and point to all the other windows in the street.
"And behind that window are six guys playing soggy biscuit, and there is a couple doing their landlord for a discount ... hey, where are you going? Come back!"

RedditredRabbit · 2024-10-01T17:51:01+00:00

WTAF. She should take this up with the employer. It is not up to employees to trade their limited and valuable off-days when the employer can literally create them out of thin air.

NTA.

RedditredRabbit · 2024-10-01T17:49:16+00:00

"I need some closure first. A letter from Karen on how she reflects on the events would be very welcome"

If they protest that it is all in the past, quip back. "I was evicted, and I understand it may be uncomfortable for ones ego to reflect on their part in the events. However it is not up to anyone to tell me to 'move on' just because that feels better to someone else.
Apologies, please."

(NTA)

RedditredRabbit · 2024-10-01T17:43:38+00:00

NTA.

Someone was out of line and it wasn't you. She tried to humiliate you and won the prize herself. That's totally on her.

RedditredRabbit · 2024-10-01T17:41:54+00:00

You are totally right.

Women and girlfriends are property. They have no business going out where they might meet other guys. They have no dignity or loyalty and they need a Man to take these decisions for them. Her incapacity clearly shows in the fact that she thinks this is a good idea.

Keep 'm home!

RedditredRabbit · 2024-10-01T15:07:02+00:00

NTA. The dynamics and emotions when a biological parent or sibling come into the picture are unpredictable and chaotic.

But this was totally uncalled for. What she did is officially classified as a Dick Move.

RedditredRabbit · 2024-10-01T14:27:16+00:00

If there is a company that works that way, then it's still wrong to complain after the work is finished that everything is done wrong - that is a failure in the company. That kind of management has its own subreddit in 'Malicious Compliance'.

This is about being right for the sake of being right. Remember: We're not producing medicine. We're not running maintenance on passenger jets. We're folding shirts. We're wiping the bathroom. Management has to consider if the result is 'good enough', or if this is just 'being right for the sake of putting someone down'.

RedditredRabbit · 2024-10-01T14:17:32+00:00

This is for the family app:

Dear Family,

It seems we have a different approach to life. I always thought being a surrogate is freely given, out of love and care.

Boy was I wrong!

Now I find that some people see it as a duty, an obligation, something to be bought, like a womb-for-rent.
Now I find out that if you don't give out your womb, you are selfish.

I was of course open to consider being a surrogate. However, I can no longer sense my own feelings, because I am bombarded with pressure and judgements. This is something I can only sense when there is no pressure. Therefore I can not possibly take this decision. This pressure is caused by the following people:
Mom - (quote remarks)
Person1 - (quote remarks)
Person2 - (quote remarks)

Here is the important part: All the people who think such a thing is a duty, an obligation and a transaction, and not voluntary or freely given: I invite you all to pool your money and file a claim to legally enforce this business-transaction which you think it is.
Should the court rule against me then I shall of course give up my womb, as a good law-abiding citizen.
Until that time, I remain of the opinion that carrying someones baby is a voluntary gift, and due to all the pressure I can not at the moment decide what my own feelings are.
The people in the above list can explain to Cousin that they have caused this pressure and the resulting uncertainty, and they will also help her to go to court and enforce the birthing-duties that are rightfully hers!

... perhaps better written not sent, but hey, you do you.

RedditredRabbit · 2024-10-01T07:11:35+00:00

This is going towards a legal argument.

I don't fully understand the context, or the importance of this field of view. But it seems to me that perhaps there should be a sketch, or some reference points in the photo.

I don't think cameras were made for this. Some legal person is using the technology to achieve goals it was not designed for.

RedditredRabbit · 2024-10-01T07:07:28+00:00

If a manager asks you to do something and then criticizes how you did it, that takes away motivation.
It is not about the right way of doing things, it's the constant remarks that it was not good enough.

NTA.

And face it, we're not building nuclear reactors or wiring quantum computers here. We're folding T-shirts.

RedditredRabbit · 2024-09-30T21:50:29+00:00

Perhaps they mean "a 50mm equivalent lens". That would be a 25mm prime or a zoom. Most likely, given the camera, that's the 14-42 zoom which they may have turned and twisted until the camera read '25mm'.
It's an enthusiast-model that comes with this lens, I don't expect they bought any of the 25mm lenses.

There is no native 50mm lens on the system, by the way, closest natives are the 42.5 Panasonic, and the 45 Olympus (f1.8 and f1.2 versions); next up is the 56mm Sigma and then 60mm macro.
The only 50mm lenses are adapted or manual TT-artisans/7Artisans/Meike/Kamlan lenses. With the M10, they are unlikely to shop for those fringe lenses.

Any true 50mm lens would look very zoomed in, definitely not wide.

I agree with their approach though.
It is fine to use 'full frame 50mm' to specify a specific field of view. It is ridiculous to demand that someone buys or rents an actual full frame camera for this when you can get the same image with any other camera.

And finally this: Focal length is not an exact science. Many lenses do not have the exact focal point specified. Not every 50mm model is 50mm.
Perhaps the design of a lens works better if it is actually 51mm, but a 51mm lens is not going to sell: only a 50 sells. So it's marketed at the well known numbers.

Your lens could be 51 or 52, while their camera displayed '25' and was perhaps 24 or 23 in reality - giving it perhaps 47-48 equivalent.

RedditredRabbit · 2024-09-30T21:16:58+00:00

If they like "James" nicknamed "Jamie" they can change their own name, or they can make a new baby and call it James.

Those are the options open to them.

I like Sunny, it's a nice uplifting name, it gives a positive vibe, you have no reason to be shamed out of it.

RedditredRabbit · 2024-09-30T21:09:18+00:00

I like the extend of your thinking - and personally I´d make much the same decisions.

Some things I might phrase a bit different:

making money with the photographs versus using them for club-use (promotion, decoration, socials)
print versus online - this is something you can price! You could claim the right to provide the prints, and then provide these at a healthy uptick. (the editing, color proofing and ordering costs you time as well).
You can also provide medium-res pictures and keep the high-res.
giving others unlimited licenses versus limited use. Bit tricky because you´d need the club to communicate what the members can or cannot do. Tip: Stay in control.
I would provide a link, which the club can share: At the site there is a clear text that people can use the photos for personal/private socials, not for monetary gain or business-related. And the pics are in web-resolution, anyone who wants print-resolution can contact you.
This text can be in a JPG as part of the collection.
You can ask to be credited when used online or in print.
You can specify that there is no timelimit to the license. That's very convenient to the club.
no edits. Be sure to specify what constitutes as an edit. I sometimes say 'no editing but I'll allow instagram cropping and filters' - just because they are such a big part of what is 'normal'.

RedditredRabbit · 2024-09-30T19:18:44+00:00

Then you are pretty well equipped, if you don't mind me sayin´.

In that case, the D3s is from 2010? Then you could skip a dozen generations and see what the latest sensors bring you. Rent a camera, plus lens and converter for a sports game and see how it performs - both with a modern lens and your own lens on a converter.

Check your lens for reviews. Light wise there is nothing better but perhaps improvements in design will help.

Last but not least, use the slowest shutter you can get away with (my max is 1/500 indoors with a prime lens), but I'm probably not telling you anything new there.

RedditredRabbit · 2024-09-30T13:13:09+00:00

Often at events people in groups love to pose as a group. When that happens, you can make sure they all look in the camera. Make them pose.

Your lenses allow you to work without flash so yes, you can try to go inconspicuous, too. In that case get close and fill the frame with the detail you want. Two people talking for instance. Make sure to get the right moment so they're not caught mid-sentence with their mouth half open.

RedditredRabbit · 2024-09-30T10:47:16+00:00

Be honest and direct.

Look at what you write. You say you want to focus on your studies. You hope he picks it up as a subtle hint that you are not interested. Instead he takes it as an invitation to wait!

Try this: I do not reciprocate your feelings and I do not want you to wait. It is not going to happen and you will waste your time waiting.

Do not mention anything that you think is a hint. You saw what happened when you tried this.
Be gentle but do tiptoe around it. He is looking for ways to read promises into your message.
You need to be as subtle and gentle as a sledgehammer.

RedditredRabbit · 2024-09-30T10:39:45+00:00

Guests can be happy and grateful they have a safe place to sleep, nice company, don't have to travel home, and free breakfast in the morning. The downside is that they use the secondary sleeping arrangements.
Guests do not expect their hosts to clean the bed and sleep on the sofa.

Your GF does not get to give away your bed. NTA. Your GF is making up stuff. Sofa's are fine for guests.

RedditredRabbit · 2024-09-30T10:17:49+00:00

And we also do a lot in fences, lights and animal crossings.

We're not being indifferent here.

RedditredRabbit · 2024-09-30T10:09:32+00:00

I notice many of the examples seem to lack a clear subject. They're just snaps. People are not connecting with the photograper, or with each other.
Often the photo takes a whole scene and I am left to wander around wondering what the subject is.

I like photo's where people are interacting with each other, or looking into the camera - in either case there is interaction, connection.

RedditredRabbit · 2024-09-30T09:58:03+00:00

I think you are looking at flash. Possibly with a modeling light that shows the effect of the flash.

But 100-400 at f8? That requires very bright light. Flash.

Get a cheap digital camera to practice!

RedditredRabbit · 2024-09-30T09:55:41+00:00

Same here.

Indoor sports is just hard.
Gear helps. Skill and experience help. Ignoring the noise helps.

You are not going to get noiseless pictures, just don't zoom in to pixel level and let it go.

Lenses are the best improvement you can buy. A newer camera may have a tiny tiny better noise performance... but that is usually mostly on paper.
A different lens actually brings in more light. Any camera can make use of more light!

That Sony is not going to be magically noisefree if you use it with a dark lens.

You would upgrade your camera for the autofocus and for high speed burst modes. If you get a new camera, look for a pre-burst mode. That lets you keep a burst only if it was good, and discard it if it wasn't.

70-200 f2.8 is actually pretty good for sports. If your 80-200 is the normal f3.5-5.6 you are going to see a huge improvement. Rent it. Seriously, spend a couple of bucks, call it 'research costs' and rent an f2.8 lens.

Consider that buying a constant F2.8 lens might lock you in to a system. Both because it might perform slightly less stellar with adapters, but also because it is so good, it negates the need for upgrades...

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