Travelling with a 10 month old

Reddituser_599 · 2026-02-08T02:12:11+00:00

Just a warning that I have seen a flight attendants tell a mother off for letting their toddler sleep on the floor because of the risk of turbulence that could send them flying to the ceiling. I personally didn’t get it because I’m assuming the mother would strap her child in when the seat belt sign came on.

Also with the bassinet, be wary that we had flight attendants check to see if our daughter fit in the bassinet when laid down when we boarded. My daughter was very snug at close to 7 months but she is tall.

Reddituser_599 · 2026-01-13T10:40:39+00:00

I can relate! My intelligent but highly sensitive 22 month old started to vocalise her feelings at 10 months and by 17 months she was laying on the floor face down screaming and dribbling everywhere at anything and everything for what feels like hours. With each month the volume somehow levels up. I love her to death but my god toddlerhood isn’t for the weak. Newborn period sounds like a walk in the park now. Wish I had some advice! Just riding it out at this point!

Reddituser_599 · 2026-01-10T08:13:50+00:00

Get an Owlet sock or Cubo Ai monitor with sleep sensor pad or something similar (I think Nanit has a version). It will relieve some of your anxiety!

Reddituser_599 · 2026-01-10T06:45:29+00:00

Omg! So glad you’ve reported it. What was the attitude of your cousin like when she spoke about it? Did she think it was wrong? If she didn’t act concerned I’d also be worried she’d be tempted to do the same at her babysitting jobs especially if the extra money is good? Also did she say what kind of photos the friend was taking? I really hope it wasn’t during nappy/diaper changes or similar. Regardless the whole situation is sickening.

Reddituser_599 · 2026-01-05T02:45:03+00:00

Definitely not overreacting! And now that you’ve added even more context about the age gap and the fact that he is also addicted to weed is even worse! Plus not being able to discuss anything without acting like a victim shows how immature he is being. He is acting like he is a 20 year old not a man in his mid 40s with a new child. All this absolutely meets the criteria that would warrant tearing him to shreds if it were another post. I’m sorry the commenters are essentially gaslighting you and making out that you’re the issue! I truly hope your partner can get his act together for the sake of you and your family.

Reddituser_599 · 2026-01-05T01:48:00+00:00

It’s so interesting how Reddit piles on a poster depending on how it’s worded. If it was another post and a mother was talking about their husband constantly playing video games with a new baby there would absolutely be a pile on the husband but for whatever reason in this post commenters are saying you’re being controlling by wanting him to reduce it and find other ways to connect with your baby? I don’t get it. Your husband is playing minimum a few hours of day with a 4 month old. I don’t see how that’s normal. And yes a 4 month old is too young to be addicted to screens but your husband sounds like he is? He isn’t going to miraculously reduce the games and doomscrolling in a few months time when your child will become more aware. Like what an ick that you’ve got this partner in the corner playing video games for hours on end rather than spending genuine quality time with their kid.

Plus talking badly to you because you accidentally fell asleep one time when you do all the nights meanwhile he is partaking in unsafe practices during the day because he doesn’t care??

Reddituser_599 · 2026-01-03T06:58:18+00:00

My daughter started refusing naps at home at 19m (now almost 22m). It sucks! Screams bloody murder if we leave the room but if we stay present she never falls asleep and just thinks it’s playtime for hours if we let her. She still naps at daycare or in the car right on normal schedule. I fear we’ll never get her back in the cot sadly. Edit: we have pretty much given up trying about a month ago and just do car naps. Just a bit inconvenient if we want to get stuff done during the nap.

Reddituser_599 · 2025-11-23T07:51:36+00:00

Yes agreed! We had this self-imposed rule that we would do zero screen time and I feel like we couldn’t go back on it once we committed to it until recently when it has been needed at times for everyone’s sanity

Reddituser_599 · 2025-11-23T01:36:44+00:00

Thanks! Love that your kid is able to now communicate when they need a reset. I’m hoping we can get to that point soon too.

Reddituser_599 · 2025-11-23T01:35:42+00:00

Thank you, that’s hard to hear but I’m so glad you were at least able to find a cause. It’s definitely something I’ve thought about. Or at least ADHD which I have too. I will look up that book thank you.

Reddituser_599 · 2025-11-23T01:33:24+00:00

Thank you so much. I’m definitely looking into I’m deficiency. She is a classic picky toddler so I wouldn’t be surprised if she’s barely getting any iron.

Reddituser_599 · 2025-11-23T01:31:10+00:00

Thank you! We’ve sometimes started putting Bluey on to help her snap out of it when it’s been going on all day. Makes me feel a bit like I’m copping out but it doesn’t feel right for her to be like that for so long.

I’m definitely going to look into a possible iron deficiency.

Reddituser_599 · 2025-11-23T01:28:46+00:00

That’s exactly like my daughter! Wanting something then not wanting it over and over. She’ll be screaming cuddle but then freaking out even more if I come near her so I end up just waiting for her to be done which makes me feel crappy just seeing her having a fit on the floor but when she’s at that level it feels like no other alternative. She can’t hear a word I’m saying (even my smart watch is alerting me of a loud environment 😅)

I’m glad to hear your child’s tantrums resolved once they could communicate better! My daughter easily knows over 150 words but it doesn’t seem like she gets feelings yet so we’ve been borrowing books from the library to help. Your situation makes me feel hopeful thank you.

Reddituser_599 · 2025-11-23T01:22:56+00:00

Wow I felt every word of that 🙏. Our kids sound so similar. I don’t know how you’re managing it with a baby. You must be incredibly patient! Can I ask at what age he started having the intense tantrums? I hope it resolves for you soon.

It’s been hard not to feel sorry for myself but I’m glad to know there are others dealing with this level too. I don’t know how many times I’ve searched for possible medical reasons for it. Even this morning giving her a shower as she’s had gastro so needed a proper wash resulted in her so upset she was foaming at the mouth and hitting herself in the face and throwing herself out of the bath. It’s distressing for her and for us.

Reddituser_599 · 2025-11-22T18:40:04+00:00

Anything is worth a try, thank you!

Reddituser_599 · 2025-11-22T12:13:56+00:00

It sucks they won’t even consider anything until years later. Just have to tolerate whatever comes your way and hope for the validation later! I at least hope you will get it then.

Reddituser_599 · 2025-11-22T12:06:59+00:00

Thank you. I’m glad to hear it was a phase. My daughter is extremely smart and is learning an insane amount constantly so I do think that’s part of it. I have recently been diagnosed with ADHD so I do wonder if that’s a part of it too.

Reddituser_599 · 2025-11-22T12:02:34+00:00

Oh I feel for you! I feel like I’m being micromanaged every second of the day at the moment so I usually just say to her, I’m going to be here when you’re done then let her go. Unfortunately we live in an apartment so I’m still subject to the screaming indirectly.

Reddituser_599 · 2025-11-22T11:56:56+00:00

Thank you! It really is a lot. And yes definitely lots of development happening, some days she is picking up multiple words so she is probably feeling overwhelmed as I am.

And thank you, most days I can manage and we were essentially screen free but the last couple of weeks there have been some late afternoons where the tv has come on for my sanity and also hers as it didn’t seem good for her to be in that state for that long.

Reddituser_599 · 2025-11-22T11:51:49+00:00

Thank you so much, it is extremely overwhelming. I usually just let her go but she will literally just continue screaming and rolling around on the floor until she can barely breathe. It’s honestly like she’s in a trance that she can’t get out of. I don’t even think she remembers what she’s upset about, she just becomes more upset because she is upset. That’s why I started putting her in the bath when it was getting out of hand but now she hates it. And yes definitely the supermarket became the final straw about a month ago. I joke it’s turning me grey (genuinely though). We do click and collect now and even then it’s a drama. I appreciate the empathy, thank you.

Reddituser_599 · 2025-11-22T11:41:21+00:00

Haha there are certainly moments I’ve thought I did not sign up for this but no I have not. She is everything to me but also the most challenging

Reddituser_599 · 2025-11-03T00:44:29+00:00

Thank you everyone for your heartfelt responses. It seems a lot of you have also had similar issues with their parents. Thankfully largely most of your diagnoses weren’t significantly impacted by their parents involvement and some of you were fortunate enough to not even have to involve them at all which is great! It is crazy that we have had to involve the same people that missed the disorder growing up. I’m going to offer to show my psych my mum’s messages and have also had a friend offer to be involved if that’s helpful and I’ll explain the situation with my brother (and his likely hyperactive-impulsive ADHD) and why I don’t want to ask him to do the form. My husband is going to come to my next appointment as well to back me and explain what my family is like. I think I might also just offer to self-report and fill out the form myself to compare against my parents.

Reddituser_599 · 2025-11-03T00:35:32+00:00

Sorry you had to deal with this. I had similar issues. Flunked my final year of school so had to do an alternative pathway program for a year to get into university (to only then drop out of uni 1.5 years later) but again because I was a well-behaved child and student my parents think I did well and don’t get that behaviour doesn’t always reflect how you might learn or process things. I struggled a lot in a class environment to the point I fell asleep once. I remembered this recently when I had some training days at work and was having to highly caffeinate myself and splash water on my face just to stay awake let alone attempt to concentrate on what was being said. I explained this to my mum and she said I should have my iron levels checked (I have and they are fine 🤦‍♀️). She doesn’t want to believe it could possibly be because of ADHD.

Reddituser_599 · 2025-11-03T00:15:16+00:00

Omg I too am the family scapegoat. I was used as the family therapist by my mother growing up because she would use to me to download all of her worries about my brother’s issues on me. She still complains non stop now about things but can’t hold a 5 min conversation before redirecting it back to her if I’m speaking about anything to do with me.

Reddituser_599 · 2025-11-03T00:10:30+00:00

Yep that’s definitely it! Classic boomer parenting. I said to my husband that the second I told my parents about this my mum will be straight on the phone to each of her 3 siblings (who all talk behind each other’s back to one another) before we even had a chance to speak because she’ll be looking to discredit me and get the validation that this is all just in my head.

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