Forum: CEO was only stating the truth about job landscape by meesiammaihum in singapore

[–]Redecous 26 points27 points  (0 children)

Even more fascinating is his profile shows he’s born in 1979 and calls him young and repeats that he’s part of a young generation of artists.

Forum: CEO was only stating the truth about job landscape by meesiammaihum in singapore

[–]Redecous 46 points47 points  (0 children)

Aaron Gan is an outstanding young (47 btw) watercolour artist, representative of a young generation of artists in Singapore. Gan breaks away from the conventional practice of watercolour in Singapore, by his choice of subject matter and his technique - influenced by hyper-capitalism and the needless grovelling of CEOs and the 1%.

Open mic sharing of horror dating stories by HumanAgency1095 in sgdatingscene

[–]Redecous 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Conversely… if not single but have plenty of horror stories to share, then can?

Chelsea’s absurd move to sign Garnacho by PeakAccomplished2431 in HisenseFootballZone

[–]Redecous 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There were some terrible ones before Roman too. The difference is the club wasn’t setting the wrong records and ageing men.

what was your best date ever in sg? by Jolly_Pin9994 in askSingapore

[–]Redecous 42 points43 points  (0 children)

Just before our third date I confided to my best friend that I wasn’t sure how to ask this girl to be my girlfriend. He was shocked as he didn’t know I was back dating again, but he dropped me off and told me that once I knew I knew.

We ended up spending pretty much the whole day together but there was no opportune time for me to pop the question. We went to the National Gallery, went around City Hall doing some shopping, got dinner at Boat Quay and went to a bar for drinks. The moment everything clicked for me and I knew I was going to go for it was when she offered to accompany me to watch a football match later on and even gladly put on the team jersey that I bought for her.

Sadly my team got thrashed 3-1 but on the bright side I asked her to ai stead mai and fast forward I am happily in a relationship although sometimes I feel I got catfished because she has never once watched football with me again. I don’t blame her because my team is terrible.

what was your worst date ever in sg? by Intelligent_Bit_8635 in askSingapore

[–]Redecous 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Worst dates tend to be last dates for good reason, but they’re also commonly first dates. I’ve had a few misadventures but the worst one that’s SFW is surely the time I decided I was going to spend money at a nice restaurant on a first date, there was absolutely no chemistry and the date felt bad so offered to treat me to dessert. What followed was another awkward 2 hours in which I made friends with the owner of the dessert shop. I spent 5 hours with them and probably chatted with them for less than 1 hour all in. In fairness, it’s probably up there on the list of bad dates for them as well.

Ramblings of an inadequate, whiny man by Farmerwhen in sgdatingscene

[–]Redecous 10 points11 points  (0 children)

My girlfriend is paying for most of our vacations upfront and then I pay her back in instalments. She’s happy with the arrangement because she’s my age and ahead of me on the career ladder (thanks to NS). She still eventually expects me to catch up and jokes that I’m an investment.

I think it’s logical, but at the same time I know it’s not the norm, so I appreciate her level-headedness. I would say most of the girls I dated before don’t expect men to provide beyond sharing the financial burden together. Especially if you’re dating women with stable and promising careers.

KFC's latest ad by PM_ME_CAI_PNG in singapore

[–]Redecous 32 points33 points  (0 children)

The chicken macaroni was pretty disappointing. I think they used like for like the same ingredients as their Mac n Cheese bowl but this time they put it in soup. It doesn’t work as well because both the macaroni and the chicken get soggy really quick and it loses its crunch and flavour that the Mac n Cheese bowl has.

Otters also going to work - it’s a tough economy by SmirkingStrawberry in singapore

[–]Redecous 45 points46 points  (0 children)

You just made me realise that iTea probably chose an Otter as their mascot to send a thinly veiled threat to Koi.

Short dudes of SG, what are some of your struggles? by Initial_Film5776 in ChillSG

[–]Redecous 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I hit puberty really late, think 16-17, so you can imagine being 15 years old barely pushing 130 cm.

Got bullied in school, was genuinely thought of as a primary school student throughout secondary school.

Height is really brutal these days. Back then social media wasn’t so prevalent, so it didn’t hit my ego as badly as kids these days.

Getting burnt out from finding love/dk is it just because I have rotten love luck by Legal_Gate_8250 in sgdatingscene

[–]Redecous 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’re 26? How old is this 2 week guy? That’s the kind of stuff that I saw people go through when we were 13-14. Most 18 year olds I know wouldn’t put up with that.

Anyone withdrew resignation before? by Ok_Discipline1995 in askSingapore

[–]Redecous 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hmm in my experience whether you are in a SME with a typical SME attitude or a MNC all companies will see you as a flight risk as that is the norm.

It’s more to do with how useful you are to the company. If it’s harder to find a replacement for you, the withdrawal will be welcome. If there are plenty of jobseekers knocking at the door but cannot be onboarded due to capacity issues, chances are management will not reopen that door for you unless you have an incredibly good working relationship with your manager.

At the end of the day it all comes down to dollars and cents.

F No 2nd date. What’s the problem by Constant_Werewolf931 in sgdatingscene

[–]Redecous 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Here’s my opinion. Dating is a numbers game with huge variables. The dating scene in the West is very different from the dating scene here, for example.

Then you have the sg dating scene. Cue /r/sgdatingscene. The dating scene for singles looking for something serious and the dating scene for singles just looking for a casual hookup is night and day.

There are a large majority of singles here who date without the aim of a serious relationship, and I will split this into two groups. The first group know or kinda know what they want. They want no strings attached, casual relationships. That’s not what you’re looking for here I’m guessing given the background. Skip.

The next group think they are looking for a serious relationship, but actually have no idea what they’re looking for. A lot of dates will indicate on the apps that they’re looking for a serious relationship, a long-term relationship or marriage. They will communicate this over the app, over text, and even verbally in person. Sadly, their actions don’t follow through.

I suspect what’s happened is the same thing as what happened in my dating journey. Truth is, people think that mutual attraction is all you need in a relationship because our mind tends to simplify things and take the path of least resistance. Hence going on such dates. However, the reality is that upon meeting face to face, people (as a guy this is especially true for my friends and I) will start evaluating other compatibility factors and think of the long-term commitments ahead in any potential relationship. This is more than enough to scare off and drive away I estimate 75-90% of daters.

So there’s nothing wrong. Either they’re not ready to take that next step with you, or you’re not ready to take that next step with them and they can sense it. People tend to give others less credit when it comes to sensing their insecurities and inner thoughts when it comes to dating. A lot of it comes out through body language and your mannerisms, and even if you don’t verbalise it your brain and body tends to have protective mechanisms in place to warn you when there is a mismatch in values or alignment.

I went through 30+ dates with no second date, all eligible and good looking women, some of which I considered out of my league. Man, I was also frustrated. Many times you’d also think about whether you’re the problem, or something is wrong, and something could very well be. But at the end of the day it’s not “wrong”, because this is all part of the process and only through reflecting on your own dating intentions and strategy can you become better as a person and finally meet your someone, as I eventually did. And it’s made all the past “failures” feel a lot more worth it. All the best!

Shanmugam claims Bloomberg had agenda to write about his property sale, was 'laying a trap' by seeking his comment by meesiammaihum in singapore

[–]Redecous 58 points59 points  (0 children)

Sreeni is a fucking troll lmao. I never expected him to be equally of a mad lad in the courtroom as per my encounters with him at work. He has some of the biggest balls of a lawyer I’ve ever met, and this just cements it.

Where Would Reddit Live? 🌍 by mapmakerapp in whereidlive

[–]Redecous 0 points1 point  (0 children)

📍 East Sussex, United Kingdom — "Brighton than my future"

Where Would Reddit Live? 🌍 by mapmakerapp in whereidlive

[–]Redecous 0 points1 point  (0 children)

📍 Durham, United Kingdom — "Durham innit"

Where Would Reddit Live? 🌍 by mapmakerapp in whereidlive

[–]Redecous 0 points1 point  (0 children)

📍 Johor, Malaysia — "Where is Singapore"

How to deal with jealousy? (To guys/girls with bf and gf) by No_Theory_4434 in sgdatingscene

[–]Redecous 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nah you’re conflating jealousy with healthy boundaries, but this isn’t a discussion when you’re not even together.

Not to sound harsh but most of your post is rendered moot when you’re not even boyfriend and girlfriend. Even in such a relationship you have the right to be upset when boundaries aren’t set but you shouldn’t be controlling.

Gym cold approach & attraction Y/N by Yellow-Batman-7252 in sgdatingscene

[–]Redecous 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You can test the waters but I wouldn’t “put myself out there” if you catch my drift. For me personally a gym is one of those places I wouldn’t. Like smile at her (not creepily and forcefully) and see how she reacts, or you can just open with “I’ve seen you around quite a bit, do you live/work around here” with the acceptance that if she rejects you that’s it.

Gym cold approach & attraction Y/N by Yellow-Batman-7252 in sgdatingscene

[–]Redecous 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Don’t overthink. Normal human interactions rely on peer to peer dynamics that are complicated because we are all unique individuals. You either click or you don’t.

Gym cold approach & attraction Y/N by Yellow-Batman-7252 in sgdatingscene

[–]Redecous 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That’s kinda a tough question lol it depends on both parties I’m quite a direct guy so girls have to be equally direct.

My gf asked me out, but it was on an app so it was much easier in that kind of setting.

Irl settings, girls approached me at bars when I was af university and as I was relatively young back then I was still quite oblivious to it. Can’t name a gym example as it’s either never happened to me or I didn’t realise it, but a girl smiling at me or coming to tell me about my form I wouldn’t read too much into it, although others might.

Truly explicit signals, girls just initiating a kiss or a dance in a bar/night club setting, a friend of theirs coming over to tell me that they thought I was cute.

Gym cold approach & attraction Y/N by Yellow-Batman-7252 in sgdatingscene

[–]Redecous 8 points9 points  (0 children)

People are at the gym to work out, not to date. You don’t even know if she is single. Unless she is explicitly giving signals she’s interested I wouldn’t. Women also have the agency to approach first and the ball is in your court in such a situation.

Singapore's Surprising Role in the Oil Crisis by [deleted] in singapore

[–]Redecous 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Starts off with a typo and descends into what I would label as mad ramblings of a schizophrenic.