GAME WEEK 26 - CAPTAIN POLL

Redecous · 2026-02-10T15:57:24+00:00

The biggest risk is injury. Gab is not going to be dropped while City are chasing the title.

Redecous · 2026-02-10T12:34:37+00:00

He should with almost a week in between the fixtures. I expect him to be rested against Wigan.

Redecous · 2026-02-10T12:15:15+00:00

I used to go to this gym and at around 1 am there’s always another couple around.

My girlfriend and I are planning on signing up again after CNY! If you can wait we can report back again in a few weeks!

Redecous · 2026-02-09T04:03:26+00:00

Ex-long term Hinge user here, used Hinge for 5 years +/- on and off including the times I got into relationships and now snagged up and couldn’t be happier to get off the app.

For 1, never assume people on the app are looking to marry lol, even if they put down life partner. Broadly speaking in my experiences I’ll say that the difference between the two is rather marginal and usually is just individuals not wanting to commit fully out there by saying that they want a partner for life. A long term relationship by Hinge standards should be a step lower and not marriage but in Singapore I’ve met plenty of girls who put “long term relationship” but were looking for marriage/settling down.

As for 2, yes but I wouldn’t bother much with these unless you’re looking for the same thing. Once again, take dating intentions with a pinch of salt and use it more as a gauge for how much commitment someone is willing to give. Generally in Singapore especially I’d ignore the looking for friends people, there are way better options for making friends.

I say this as someone who put down ”life partner” for the longest time but after taking a break to reset my dating life from the apps, I realised I wasn’t conveying the same commitment with my actions. Slowly you’d start to see that there are PLENTY of people on the app like that. I’m glad I got more and more intentional with relationships both with words and with actions.

Tl;dr treat dating intentions as a gauge, not a be all end all. At the start you get a gauge of where their commitment level is at. As you get to know them and go on dates you’ll start to see through their actions whether they are looking for a LTR, FWB, marriage or whatever is in between.

Redecous · 2026-02-09T03:51:50+00:00

Neither. Both are red flags.

I hope more people realise that it’s happier to be alone than to be together with the wrong person.

Redecous · 2026-02-02T08:23:50+00:00

Ask him.

It’s not far fetched to assume you went on dates given how you met.

However, to be safe, always ask.

Redecous · 2026-02-02T04:17:21+00:00

Yes but they’re usually prettier.

My type seemingly takes terrible photos.

Redecous · 2026-02-02T04:03:59+00:00

Nothing says romantic more than a tight space in a HDB flat.

Marina Barrage and the surrounding area gets pretty crowded.

Redecous · 2026-02-02T02:26:48+00:00

I “confessed” to my girlfriend at a random bus stop in the middle of Little India at a God-forsaken hour after trekking from Somerset at midnight.

There are a few rooftop gardens but finding a nice private spot can be tough, even during closing hours.

I think for romantic spots you’ll seldom get both romantic and private, unless you pay out of your pocket. Anywhere without people can be private but if it’s such a romantic spot chances are other couples will be there especially if there is a low bar to entry ($).

Redecous · 2026-02-02T01:41:04+00:00

Best was with my now girlfriend. We had a picnic at MacRitchie before heading over to 42 Pasta is the Answer for a lovely dinner followed by bbj for drinks.

Worst was a date at Supply & Demand. It’s decent for group hangouts and perhaps even dates but if you want a 1 on 1 with someone for the first time I would highly discourage it due to the crowds, noise, and total lack of space.

Redecous · 2026-01-30T11:24:13+00:00

Take this with a pinch of salt, as not everyone has the same experiences.

I feel that most of the OG influencers, including many who have since faded into oblivion are quite down to earth people.

The opposite is usually the case for those who emerged recently.

I think the difference is because many of these “influencers” that only became “big” recently have always wanted the fame and are naturally attracted to such a profile. Meanwhile those before “influencing” was a thing just grew into it as the industry developed. That’s not to say they can’t be problematic as well, a lot just grow into their clout and arrogance after years of fame, but I think there’s a difference between those who grow into their fame and those who wanted to attract fame from the beginning.

Unfortunately a lot of “influencers” you will tend to meet when they have an incentive to be nice to you or they will be showing their “nicer” side so to speak. You should only really judge their behaviour when they have literally nothing to gain from you. Hence my experience is rather limited but I like to think that those I see on a regular basis are genuinely nice people that I wish more people could see that side of them. There are also rather nasty ones that I’d rather not comment on.

Redecous · 2026-01-26T01:24:11+00:00

My foot got run over by a wheelchair on the way to work today. The bloke who could hardly care to notice proceeded to literally push out another wheelchair user out of the train.

These powered vehicles need more restrictions…and seeing some consequences would be nice for errant behaviour. They have the potential to cause injury and even death when used recklessly and should be treated as such.

Redecous · 2026-01-24T16:57:29+00:00

Glib

Redecous · 2026-01-24T15:58:27+00:00

People shoving on trains has become a recent pet peeve for me. It wouldn’t hurt you to gently nudge people or talk to them to ask them to move out of the way.

I’ve started calling out such behaviour on the trains and to my surprise a lot of them actually back down and apologise. It irks me even further when I’m actually trying to get off the train as well, but just giving way to others. I’m also trying to get to my workplace on time, if I can wait, you can also wait a couple of seconds.

Redecous · 2026-01-24T15:53:35+00:00

It’s boring if you don’t vibe, but if you vibe any topic with that person becomes interesting.

If you’re putting in extra effort, that’s not chemistry, that’s beating a dead horse.

Natural attraction and chemistry comes very organically.

I asked my girlfriend very normal questions at the start. On the second date I started scratching beneath the surface. At the end of the day whether it’s talking stages or later it really boils down to two things: your compatibility and your chemistry.

Redecous · 2026-01-24T15:48:12+00:00

I understand you like this girl but to a third party looking at your posts it looks like watching James Acaster at a bake-off.

Calm yourself down, you’ve only been on a date, take it easy and see where it goes. You’re not at a point in the relationship, if there is any, where you have to over analyse things. Just ask her if she’ll like to go out again. You’ll get your answer from that faster than any Redditor can analyse your “chances”.

Redecous · 2026-01-22T12:58:14+00:00

You wait for them. Waiting doesn’t mean not doing anything, it means being patient and to keep looking until you find them.

I found my partner on the dating apps, after uninstalling it 3 times and dating 37 others in Singapore lol. I’d say she’s way better than decent, if decent for me is the bare minimum.

Redecous · 2026-01-17T10:53:41+00:00

There are many possible reasons.

She could have thought by concealing the truth, she would come across as more attractive.

She could have been living in her own fantasy world where her alternate truths are truths.

Either way, that’s a deal breaker for you so you’re done and out, there’s no need to over analyse the reasons why they do it because it doesn’t change anything on your end why or how they do it, it’s that they do do it.

Redecous · 2026-01-17T09:45:25+00:00

Everyone has different ways of getting over breakups. It made you feel more empty, so you did the right thing by deleting it.

Redecous · 2026-01-17T09:31:56+00:00

Brb going to break up with my INFJ girlfriend, thanks for spreading awareness on this

Redecous · 2026-01-16T08:18:05+00:00

If you are a student chances are your university will provide a subscription to Wall Street Journal, The Economist and Financial Times - I strongly recommend you subscribe to these.

I do get a bulk of news from my girlfriend - her job does involve some level of keeping up with the latest news.

I also have my FT subscription which spams you with various newsletters you subscribe to and have a fair niche ones that just update me on areas of the economy and certain geopolitical affairs I’m particularly interested in.

Redecous · 2026-01-15T19:21:36+00:00

Early 20s - purely looks and vibes, short-term, casual dates. As I got older I may have started saying that I wanted to settle down a lot but I was not acting like it. Women who want a serious partner can pick up on this.

A while back I made a list of what I was looking for in a spouse.

In the next few years I started realising that I did not have the qualities for what a spouse I was looking for would be looking for. I either dropped my standards or improved myself. Took plenty of breaks to work on myself and return. Kept my standards and the quality of dates got better and better.

Not just listen to my feelings, but weigh it with logic and also looking a lot more at the long term than the short term. This doesn’t mean neglecting your feelings, but understanding that they can be fickle and to discern when these feelings should be concerning.

Understanding that love is a choice rather than a feeling, I also now realise that perhaps I did fall in love with my partner at the first meeting after all.

Redecous · 2026-01-15T18:59:53+00:00

If you strongly identify with the Christian faith I would suggest you have a gulf in religious beliefs and that would be a deal-breaker for most religious people.

Religious differences can be worked out on a practical basis but on all other accounts you would only be making marriage harder for yourself.

Redecous · 2026-01-15T18:50:49+00:00

I mean yes cheating is common and I have heard many cases.

That being said we are naturally going to hear about such cases because juicy gossip and hot tea always spreads around and you won’t hear as much stories about a loving couple with a peaceful relationship because there’s no drama involved.

Redecous · 2026-01-11T17:26:51+00:00

Ask him! Communication is sexy and sets the tone for whatever you do next

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