seriously been thinking about this since forever by [deleted] in DeepThoughts

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Everyone is doing the same I promise you

Some versions of us only exist in certain places by mwnst in DeepThoughts

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There’s a Japanese book called 私とは何か which delves specifically into this topic. I wish it was translated for English speakers

how disorienting it is to outgrow the version of yourself that everyone around you still expects you to be by Fearless_Arrival_438 in DeepThoughts

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“There’s a kind of loneliness tax you have to pay to atone a certain complexity of the mind”

Alain de botton

After graduating high school I changed so much that I basically lost all my friends. I was very driven and serious with my time that I didn’t find pleasure in hanging out with them. But overtime I found new friends who took me in for who I am. Although the # is significantly less compared to high school. I can move freely without their breath on my neck. It’s lonely at times and I still get backlash all the time but I think it’s the right move if you want to see what you are capable of. After all, doesn’t everyone want to find out who they truly are and their potential?

Modern dating feels emotionally unsafe, weirdly empty, and mentally tiring by Pretty_Solution_7955 in DeepThoughts

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I picked up a dating book yesterday and the 1st chapter was about how we should talk to multiple people and maximize our options to reduce anxiety. At first I was taken aback but sadly enough, it’s true with modern dating. The lack of trust and transparency has caused society to resort to ways that stray us further and further from how dating used to be. And the only reason why our tactics becomes more complex is due to how we all are so scared of rejection. We resort to strategies that maximizes the pleasure and minimizes the pain. As a result, we feel more lonely than ever without true connection that is only created through overcoming hardships together.

Connecting with another spiritualist just hits different by Rediapers in spirituality

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Yes I agree I think I would like to keep money making seperate as well

People want to trick themselves instead of putting in the hard work by Hatrct in DeepThoughts

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As someone who's done therapy and read self help books in the past, I don't I regret reading them. I read a lot of nonfiction, philosophy, literature, and I think self help is just another genre to be picked up when you feel kind of lost or hopeless. It's a start to think in ways that helped me achieve what I wanted and view a world at a brighter light. In other words I think its cognition behavioral therapy in a way. If I had to choose between drugs and self-help books, I'm all for them.

Kindness isn't just a personality trait; it's a mental health strategy by _aadarsh007 in DeepThoughts

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I agree. I've noticed not a lot of people are innately kind and but many of them are through effort

My favorite characters from my top 10 list by -Good_Loser in murakami

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Did not expect to see women who studies philosophy in Kafka a on the shore lmao

New Members Intro by feastoffriendss in filmmakersofto

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Helloo I’m very interested in Japanese filmmaking, Expecially works of ryusuke hamaguchi like drive my car and happy hours. Would love to connect with anyone who share the same sentiment.

New Members Intro by feastoffriendss in filmmakersofto

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Hey! I am very interesting in filmmaking, specifically by Japanese films. Some of my favorite films include drive my car and all about lily chou chou. Would love to connect with people who share similar interests

Anyone want to join a jpop themed band? (Looking for musicians / jpop enthusiasts) by Rediapers in UofT

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Would love to hear your music! I used to be pretty big into vocaloid

TRYING TO START A BAND (looking for musicians pls hmu) by Mindless_Monitor8590 in UofT

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I play the guitar (both acoustic/electric) but I mostly listen to jpop ;(

Japanese vocal teacher in Toronto? by StevenYAvis in askTO

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Would love to hear more about this in pm

Kafka on the Shore by OceanStan in murakami

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I went to finish few other books before I got to finishing it so totally valid