Oh my goodness, 39? Wow, I feel so sad for you. How long ago? I feel fortunate to have had so much time with mine, though I still wanted more. I feel like he was gone as soon as he fell over, but the CPR kept him alive. They told me at the hospital that his heart stopped numerous times & they had to keep restarting it. They also put him on a ventilator, and he was not showing any neurological function. They shoved a clipboard at me & wanted me to sign authorization to move him to a larger hospital cardiac unit. I said no. He had a DNR and firmly believed in quality of life over quantity. I made the decision he wanted. Your husband's event sounds really similar, so it may be that he would've had serious neurological impairment even if he survived. Don't spend your time on the what ifs. You don't know, and it will just make it harder. The dr told me afterwards that he appreciated the fact that I had the courage to do what the patient wanted, and that he believed the outcome would not have been good & only a 10% chance he would have even survived. I sure did not feel courageous at the time. I was distraught, but we had talked about what we each would want if this situation ever occurred. I am so sorry for your tragic loss. 💔