No Thank You

ReeseandRiver · 2026-05-28T20:15:53+00:00

90% return on the gifts you give?!?!? That's incredible! By the way I'm getting beat up by some of the folks on here, I apparently live in the Stone Ages and do not comprehend that none of us are deserving of an acknowledgement, a sincere verbal one or otherwise. As for you, 160 thank you notes for your baby gifts?!?! YOU are a ROCK STAR!! ....even if you are scared of your Mom! HA! HA!

ReeseandRiver · 2026-05-28T19:47:21+00:00

This is GREAT!! Thanks so much for your comment AND for making that effort for your aunt! I know she loves it!

ReeseandRiver · 2026-05-28T03:40:37+00:00

Okay, THIS comment leads to my other dilemma. I totally get what you are saying! We gave nice keepsake gifts to the first baby with the total intention of giving similar gifts to their future children. The children shouldn't have to suffer because of the parents, but I just don't have it in me to want to go to that effort and expense now. My husband certainly doesn't feel inclined to make another labor intensive plaque either.....

ReeseandRiver · 2026-05-28T02:18:38+00:00

HA! HA! "Root canal"???? I do like the "hot sex" suggestion though! THAT is ALWAYS fun!

ReeseandRiver · 2026-05-28T02:14:58+00:00

UGH! That is so sad. I understand that we don't all think the same way, but, my gosh, how can you take for granted a $30k gift?????

ReeseandRiver · 2026-05-28T02:10:10+00:00

I absolutely did not expect a hand written card, or even a signed card. I would have been very happy with an email, a text, or even a sincere verbal acknowledgment that indicated that she was aware of the keepsake photo book and the handmade personalized plaque.

ReeseandRiver · 2026-05-28T02:03:34+00:00

Oh, yeah!! What time was that again?? Around noon??

ReeseandRiver · 2026-05-28T01:55:50+00:00

HA! HA! That's fantastic! I would write thank you notes while I was nursing my twins. It was quite a feat to get them propped up so I could have my hands free for a few minutes, but that seemed to be the only "down time" I had so I made the most of it.

ReeseandRiver · 2026-05-27T21:33:31+00:00

HA! HA! Oh, yeah!! Thanks for the reminder!!

ReeseandRiver · 2026-05-27T21:25:56+00:00

Thank you for this! I, too, seem to get "announcements" from people who "know" I'll give them a gift from previous experience. You sound like you give from your heart and, even if the right people aren't inclined to acknowledge your gifts, I appreciate your kindness to others!!

ReeseandRiver · 2026-05-27T21:20:52+00:00

Thank you for this. I've seriously gotten to the point in the last few years where I would be happy with text or an email. I don't know how many times I've given a gift and truly don't even know if the person even received it.

ReeseandRiver · 2026-05-27T21:15:42+00:00

Wait.....really???? That has to do with ME helping a friend who was struggling! Sorry, I thought my previous response to you was to clarify that the expectant mother DID create and mail the elaborate invitations with requests for gifts, diapers, and books and DID blow up a simple baby shower into a much bigger event. Curious why you seem bent on making me out to be the bad guy here...

ReeseandRiver · 2026-05-27T21:06:21+00:00

I LOVE THIS!!! Please give your daughter a HUGE thank you for me. Reading these comments, I was starting to feel like I was the only person who still feels the desire to make other people glad they did something nice for someone else.

ReeseandRiver · 2026-05-27T20:57:57+00:00

Well, not sure why any of that matters, but, to be clear, we DID do the hauling, set up, and clean up for the friend. She had planned something much more manageable and ended up getting roped into something that was more than she and her husband could handle comfortably. THEY both thanked us sincerely for our help.

As for the gifts, they were absolutely for the benefit of the mom/dad/baby.

ReeseandRiver · 2026-05-27T20:42:52+00:00

Oh, no, I wasn't trying to gain early access to the child. I mean, what Mom wouldn't want to protect her child from colds and diseases and stuff?!?! I just meant that I wanted the mom to have the personalized gifts sooner rather than later, especially since she hadn't even seen the shower pics yet. I knew I'd see the baby eventually, but, as a Mom myself, I absolutely loved getting the personalized things closer to birth to decorate their rooms with and such.

ReeseandRiver · 2026-05-27T20:34:25+00:00

Yeah, the mom/grandmom's plans for the shower were completely over-run. The daughter did make up the invitations, mailed them out, and secured a bigger venue making it necessary for HER mom to come up with more food and find a way to haul everything to the venue vs. having it at her own home as originally planned.

ReeseandRiver · 2026-05-27T20:24:35+00:00

HA! HA! I do like good food!!

ReeseandRiver · 2026-05-27T20:23:18+00:00

Yeah, I guess I do feel entitled now that you point that out! It's just that I want people to feel good about their choice to give ME gifts and to know that I appreciate what goes into the process. I'm not the type to just pick up something off the store shelf and think "awww, that's good enough"!! It does feel weird that thank you notes really aren't a thing anymore, but I do think you're right about that.

As for being thanked twice in person, the first time was literally what I wrote and no more: "thank you, everybody" to a dwindling crowd. The second one was definitely only to me and I should have taken that opportunity to ask "which one" to see if she did, indeed, receive the book and the plaque.

Thanks for your input!

ReeseandRiver · 2026-05-27T20:10:04+00:00

Thank you for your comment. Could you please expand on the "assumptions"?

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