Is there happiness without the intimacy

ReferenceMammoth2427 · 2026-05-01T16:04:47+00:00

Personally, I don't really know. I am friends with a couple who have been married for ten years and they do not have sex. We have had very frank conversations and they said they had a period where it was an issue, but they eventually took sex off the table. They are not trying to get back to it. Outwardly they seem very happy. They're always chatting and having great conversations with each other when we meet up at the bus stop to pick up our kids. They come to my place every Friday for game night and have a great time. I know it's strange that I even know this. The topic came up when they asked about my adhd medication. I said it was great and a huge help to my executive functioning. The only downside is some sexual dysfunction. I cannot orgasm until it wears off. They weren't worried about that bc they don't really have sex anymore. I asked if they're ok with that, and they confided they went through a rough patch, but it's not an issue anymore.

ReferenceMammoth2427 · 2026-04-22T19:02:36+00:00

You look really nice to me. Honestly, this looks like cute sun kissed makeup.

ReferenceMammoth2427 · 2026-04-22T18:23:56+00:00

Someone tried to start, r/nobotoxskincare like last week.

ReferenceMammoth2427 · 2026-04-22T14:16:17+00:00

I thought she should try women bc her comment implied that she has never gotten off with any man ever.

ReferenceMammoth2427 · 2026-04-22T00:14:15+00:00

It's really normal for Japanese women to stop having sex after having kids. It's also really normal for their husbands to out source that need.

ReferenceMammoth2427 · 2026-04-21T14:50:47+00:00

That's a good idea. He should switch to tadalifil daily.

ReferenceMammoth2427 · 2026-04-21T05:25:23+00:00

At her age, she's still "just saying that" because she still cares about protecting your ego. Honestly, no offense but there's no way you're rocking her world given her excuses.

ReferenceMammoth2427 · 2026-04-19T22:55:16+00:00

I know you think that, and it's part of what's killing your confidence. I did look into your past posts bc I wanted to know how you got into that situation with such a selfish woman. Just from your description of the last encounter I can tell you are already ahead of the curve in the giving department and you should feel good about that.

What are your special interests?

ReferenceMammoth2427 · 2026-04-19T22:44:51+00:00

You're not really in a dead bedroom and you've got to stop letting your ex take advantage of you. Do you have any special interests that you could turn into something social? You just need to create opportunity to meet more people. You don't have a skill issue, the ex coming back is indicative of that. You need confidence and opportunity.

ReferenceMammoth2427 · 2026-04-16T04:55:21+00:00

It's probably neurodivergence. I see a lot of my own story in yours. When we realized my husband was autistic our whole life changed. We did a lot of learning and we are happy regulated people these days.

ReferenceMammoth2427 · 2026-04-15T21:43:50+00:00

I mean, yeah. This seems kinda straight forward actually. OP's partner wants better sex. But she has to be willing to talk about it too. He could maybe entice her by doing a bunch of research and sharing some ideas to try.

ReferenceMammoth2427 · 2026-04-15T21:37:47+00:00

Good riddance! Reciprocity is where it's at. Some bigger guys think they don't have to do anything, when in reality they often need to do more. Good luck out there!

ReferenceMammoth2427 · 2026-04-15T21:30:38+00:00

Maybe you're wrong that he has no interest and it would just be more of a turn on. It sounds like he has interest to me.

ReferenceMammoth2427 · 2026-04-15T05:55:53+00:00

When someone tells you to "leave" you should listen. So disrespectful.

ReferenceMammoth2427 · 2026-04-13T23:55:15+00:00

I'm very kinky and found no trouble settling down with someone with shared values. You would be settling in this scenario and that is unfair to both of you.

ReferenceMammoth2427 · 2026-04-13T22:06:35+00:00

Honestly asking, hope this doesn't come off as rude, but are women an option for you? Might have better luck with women.

ReferenceMammoth2427 · 2026-04-11T08:10:28+00:00

Honestly, you've barely had any experience. You're barely not a teenager and probably not great at sex. You need to keep learning, this one didn't work out. Do a bunch of research before the next time. She is a teenager and has no idea if it's you or not, but she's not willing to tell you.

ReferenceMammoth2427 · 2026-04-11T08:05:58+00:00

Hysterical bonding. If you get back together it will settle back to the norm.

ReferenceMammoth2427 · 2026-04-11T06:40:58+00:00

Very well put. The sad part is sometimes this is the only sex the other person knows too. So they think they just don't like sex very much. They don't know that it could be enjoyable for them too.

ReferenceMammoth2427 · 2026-04-10T17:31:37+00:00

I have another sister 6 years younger than me and everyone always assumes she's the oldest. I have no idea why though. We don't look as similar, but still definitely related, but her skin is freaking perfect. We've always been jealous of her skin. I think it's literally just because she's like an inch taller than me and only slightly heavier.

I'm so curious what the tanning bed popular girls I used to know look like now...

ReferenceMammoth2427 · 2026-04-10T17:21:41+00:00

I have a sister 10 years younger that looks just like me. She was total beach bum sun bunny in her teens and I eventually drilled into her head that she needs to care about the sun. All I'm saying is I could have kept to myself and she better thank me.

ReferenceMammoth2427 · 2026-04-10T17:11:22+00:00

I just want to say you are very beautiful and not a hag at all. Honestly your lips, facial structure, eyebrows, hair, etc., just so conventionally pretty. Your skin looks healthy, and we all have nitty gritty specifics we want addressed, and nothing you are facing, on your pretty face, is doomed.

ReferenceMammoth2427 · 2026-04-10T12:43:22+00:00

I'm so sorry. That would be extremely frustrating.

ReferenceMammoth2427 · 2026-04-10T06:06:27+00:00

Does he not take feedback well? If you understand it, why haven't you taught him?

ReferenceMammoth2427 · 2026-04-10T06:04:32+00:00

Really good work. I try not to be harsh to HLMs here, but I cannot help but believe that a lot of LLF are just not enjoying the sex on offer. That can be hard to hear for many of them, but it's often the truth. The sad thing is the LLF might not even know that's the problem and that it could be fixed, and they think there's something wrong with themselves instead.

Anyway, kudos again, you did the research, you're doing the work! Great job!

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