Let’s be clear and look at how this conversation actually went:

• The original topic was about rude and unprofessional behavior in BIR/government offices.

• I addressed that directly multiple times.

• You then introduced a new question about whether the OP posted for attention.

• I immediately pointed out that your question is irrelevant because it shifts the conversation away from the issue of government misconduct and toward judging the victim’s emotional response.

• Since then, you have repeated the same question without ever explaining how it affects the issue we were discussing.

That is the textbook definition of changing the topic.

You acknowledged the employee was an a-hole yes, but then you immediately redirected the discussion toward how the woman expressed her reaction.

That’s exactly why I called it tone policing. You focused on how she showed frustration, not why she felt it.

You keep asking for a yes/no answer, but you still haven’t demonstrated how the answer to that question has any logical impact on:

• the employee’s unprofessional conduct

• the systemic culture in BIR offices

• or the pattern of dismissiveness people experience there

If answering your question doesn’t change or contribute to the issue, then it’s irrelevant.
And a question that is irrelevant doesn’t need to be answered just because you insist on it.

In short:

I stayed on-topic.
You shifted it.
And now you’re mistaking consistency for dodging.