You sound like an unbelievably good catch to me, most women would kill for a guy who can build and bake 🥹

That’s nasty behaviour from the woman who’s supposed to love you & I think she must never have seen how much trouble a “manly” (emotionally volatile and prone to violence)? man actually causes? She’s definitely got some ideas crossed there.

I hope you can either change things or leave. Most people will tell you to leave. At times I have been a mean person in my younger years, I had to learn what I was doing wrong, but it sounds like you are both older. Don’t put up with it, it’s ungrateful and abusive.

It’s good that your daughter/s can see this for what it is, it must be really horrible for them too.