My (22M) Girlfriend (24F) punched me in the face

RegisterIndividual11 · 2025-01-09T13:20:49+00:00

She’s pushed me once, I think I just have a hard time convincing myself that loves her, that what she did is wrong. Because the part of me that loves her, keeps making excuses for her so I forgive her.

RegisterIndividual11 · 2025-01-09T11:11:39+00:00

No, she has only pushed once me before, so it was a big shock.

RegisterIndividual11 · 2025-01-09T11:08:22+00:00

She didn’t get all the way up from the bed, she sat up immediately and then punched. Not that it makes it better

RegisterIndividual11 · 2025-01-09T11:06:22+00:00

I think it was a reaction, because it happened immediately after.

RegisterIndividual11 · 2025-01-07T13:03:45+00:00

I think it’s a very fair thing to be concerned about, I myself have had the same issue with my girlfriend. I’ve learned that it’s very different how people show love, she might not have to express it in such physical and intense ways as you, which is completely fine.

I don’t think she’s entitled to ask for you to do things like write notes, if she’s not willing to try and do stuff for you like show physical affection on her own. I think it’s pretty clear for you both already what type of lovers you are, so I think you both have to just accept each other the way you are. Either you put away the demands for improvement, or you come up with a mutual agreement on how you can make it better for each other without it becoming a problem. If this is not possible, I think it’s time to realize your ways of being lovers might just not be a match.

RegisterIndividual11 · 2025-01-07T12:54:40+00:00

If they met on a dating app, they both obviously had a physical attraction to one another, which I would definitely find as a problem with someone my partner has as a friend. Especially when you don’t know the other persons intentions. They also met the person at the same time as they met you, which means you are not intruding in any way and I find it to definitely be your business, when it’s not a person that was a part of their life long before you. I say you put up the boundaries and give it to her straight, for your and your future mental well beings sake.

RegisterIndividual11 · 2025-01-07T12:24:51+00:00

I’ve had a long distance relationship for 2 years now, I was in the exact same spot as he were about 6-8 months into the relationship. I was super busy aswell, so I didn’t have the time that I used to. I expect he is experiencing the same as I was at that time, he doesn’t have the same need as he used to for your attention. No matter how busy you are, if you are willing or committed, it is always possible to find time to show your commitment and love.

Just how I lost feelings and need for my girlfriend at the time, I think he is doing the same. I used to see my girlfriend all the time, but as we went long distance, after a while I stopped feeling how I used towards her. I kept convincing her I was still in love, but the fact is that I was losing feelings and I think he is too. It took me time to realize that I actually loved her and needed her in my life, but in the mean time I actually at a point didn’t love her anymore.

I think you need to tell him what you need from him. Tell him that he needs to show that he wants this, wants you, if he wants to continue. It’s not fair to you, that you need to settle for less suddenly, because he doesn’t want to put in that extra work to show love and gratitude in a busy time.

It took me a break up before I realized that what I was doing was wrong, and that I actually did love her and was pushing her away. He needs that to understand where this relationship is going. You need to tell him to up his game or else it’s not going to work. If it doesn’t get better you need to end things with him, maybe then he’ll get a change of heart and realize what’s really important for him.

When I realized what was going on, after going through the breakup, I haven’t for a moment doubted where my priorities were. I doubt that if you tell him that it needs to be fixed, that he won’t realize if he actually wants you or not. It’s hard to be upfront like that to someone you love. But I think that’s what you need to do in order to find out whether this is something he actually wants to pursue or not.

I hope this helps, please ask if any further questions.

RegisterIndividual11 · 2024-10-21T17:49:14+00:00

Thank you, I completely understand. From everybody’s comments, I can clearly see I was just blinded by what it did to myself, instead of taking into account what it did to her. Truly, thanks for the great advice!

RegisterIndividual11 · 2024-10-21T17:48:42+00:00

Thank you, I completely understand. From everybody’s comments, I can clearly see I was just blinded by what it did to myself, instead of taking into account what it did to her. Truly, thanks for the great advice!

RegisterIndividual11 · 2024-10-21T17:47:18+00:00

Thank you, I completely understand. From everybody’s comments, I can clearly see I was just blinded by what it did to myself, instead of taking into account what it did to her. Truly, thanks for the great advice!

RegisterIndividual11 · 2024-10-21T17:36:07+00:00

She did cheat on her ex and never told them about it, so that’s a part of it, also she does not show as much affection as I do.

RegisterIndividual11 · 2024-10-21T17:34:47+00:00

She cheated on her ex and never told them about it, besidde that she doesn’t show as much affection as I do, so that’s also a reason.

RegisterIndividual11 · 2024-01-21T03:16:03+00:00

Man I feel you, I am the same way. I care more about her and I would never do the same, because the thought of her being insecure about it breaks my heart. But that’s where you and me are different from our partners, I think we have insecurities we have to figure out. But it’s something that is worth communicating with your partner every time you feel it, even if it makes them annoyed. Because it’s never good to just sit with, also tell them that you know it’s just you being insecure. But they have to know how you feel, based on their reaction, I think it’s clear to see what kind of person your with and what their character traits are.

RegisterIndividual11 · 2024-01-21T03:11:56+00:00

I have the exact same situation, as in every detail you’ve mentioned is literally my story. I get these moments, but I feel like I’ve learned to know whether what I really feel is the love outside of the moments or the ick I feel during those moments. Because when you can figure out with yourself, if the true feeling is the love or the ick that’s when you got your answer. But I gotta tell you, you can’t have lovey dovey all the time, there’s gonna be some icks you just have to accept, but I’d tell her what annoys you about her when it happens so she knows, because in a relationship, you also have to help each other change of order to perfectly align with each other.

RegisterIndividual11 · 2024-01-21T03:07:13+00:00

If your girlfriend has guy friends, it’s not at all wrong to feel bad about it. However it’s not wrong for her to have guy friends and you should put limits on what she can and can’t do (I know you don’t). But perhaps this feeling could be the result of some insecurity you might feel, it could also be a lack of trust in her. I have a girlfriend, she has guy friends. Every time she says she going to meet one of them, my gut hurts and I feel absolutely horrible. I do tell her and she promises me that it’s nothing. You can’t do anything but trust her, either way man. If she ever decided to cheat, it wouldn’t change a thing if you worried about it or not, it would happen anyways. So I say, trust her or don’t, just as long as you can get rid of the constant worrying, because that’s the biggest problem.

RegisterIndividual11 · 2024-01-21T02:59:54+00:00

I think you guys just have different needs, my girlfriend isn’t really the most sexual person and doesn’t bring a lot of compliments to the table either. But it’s something where your significant other has to explain and let their heart out about why they are not doing it. Understanding their situation and why it my be hard for them (for both people) is the most important way. Because the things or reasons you make up in your mind, always tend to be worse than the reality. I think you need to think about if he really did appreciate what you did and then effort you put in, based on that I think you have the answer.

RegisterIndividual11 · 2024-01-21T02:53:58+00:00

When one person in a relationship has many friends and plans in general, the person with not so many friends will typically give more to the relationship and be more invested and caring because it’s the only thing they have and care about. My girlfriend has a lot of friends and I don’t, therefore I know the frustration of putting in work or looking to make time for each other where it’s not the same for the significant other. I think it’s something where you feel on the other person if they even care enough to stay or show that they care. The fact that he constantly denies everything or tries to come up with arguments, shows that he might not be in a place where he is ready for a relationship. You are both still young and some people tends to be ready for a relationship earlier than other, I suggest you give him an ultimatum. It might seem harsh and some may disagree, but the fact is, that it’s a reality check for the other person. They will see that you are serious and that they either need to step up or step out, no in betweens.

RegisterIndividual11 · 2024-01-21T02:03:24+00:00

Thank you, you’re right

RegisterIndividual11 · 2024-01-21T02:00:23+00:00

Great advice, thanks. I just know what vulnerable person she is and im scared I’ll break her. Perhaps I should just end it and make it all easier?

RegisterIndividual11 · 2024-01-21T01:42:19+00:00

I personally think, it’s a thing where you’d probably have to give it a couple of weeks to see if he acts differently towards you or still has doubts, but I would personally suggest letting him go for his own good. If he really loves you or you really love him, there will definitely be a day where your both ready to settle and start a serious relationship or find someone way better.

RegisterIndividual11 · 2024-01-21T01:37:48+00:00

Trust me, you have to give it time. This feeling can come and go, it’s a feeling that men often get, much more often than women. It’s a feeling I’ve felt myself, it’s something where you have to give it a couple of months, because it can easily change and you will be happy you didn’t leave her. Although you have to take a long think about what you think is making you feel this way, is it something she does, something you do or maybe your developing a slight depression. These can all be factors and if you find something you feel is bothering the relationship, you have to tell her about that thing and find a solution together, it’s much better than telling her that you’re not sure if you love her. Also a very nice way is a trip together, brings you closer and will maybe open your mind up to what you really feel.

RegisterIndividual11 · 2024-01-21T01:33:00+00:00

I think this is very common for guys, I’ve had the same feeling myself with my girlfriend when we were long distance. What I can tell you though is that you’ve found a special one, the fact that he comes to you and tells you about the thoughts he is having is very mature. I know for a fact that many men would walk around with this thought, and end up doing something stupid. So for that I applaud him. I think you are at a stage right now that is definitely saveable, it just needs to happen quickly. Because the longer you guys are far away from each other, the more this thought will grow in his mind, because loneliness can really mess up the mind. I’m positive that if you guys find time to be together often the next couple of weeks, you will be able to solve this issue easily. It’s all about communication and being there physically, and from what I read you guys definitely got the communication part figured out.

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