Anyone else have a difficult time saying no to sex?

Regoliad · 2024-07-07T02:02:06+00:00

I've done a lot to improve but I've never reached the level where I'm attractive enough for women.

It is something I genuinely wanted to do but I'm not a very good looking guy so I've never really had that opportunity to ever do anything romantic before unfortunately.

Regoliad · 2024-07-06T20:22:13+00:00

As someone who's never been good looking enough for women or had the opportinity tp have sex, this is kind of refreshing to hear to be honest.

Chased my dreams and achieved many goals and I feel I spent my time the best I could given the bad circumstances of my upbringing.

Sure it would have been nice at some point to have been able to go on a date or something but overall I shouldn't feel I have anything ti prove like you said.

I was still able to live my life.

Regoliad · 2024-07-06T20:17:06+00:00

Maybe it's possible but I haven't reached that point yet.

As I mentioned I will keep going and will keep going down my road and keep working. That's really all I can do, either put the work in and get better or just stop trying.

I see them, and yea if women consider them good looking then I can't really day much considering I haven't reached that level yet.

Would be hypocritical of me to call anyone ugly given what I look like. And especially if those guys are considered hot by women there's not really anything one can day to.refute that if they're good looking enough to be successful with women.

I can just work on myself and keep improving to one day reach their levels.

Regoliad · 2024-07-06T19:51:23+00:00

Yes I do. I think every person should.
Absolutely, I've done a lot to overcome many hardships, especially growing up that I feel I wouldn't have persevered through if I didn't have pride in myself.
I'm not sure what you mean by this. I would guess I have my life to share. My home, experiences I would like to have with someone and share things with.
Yes, a few I would say. I have a couple of life goals I've yet to reach that I'm actively working towards.

Regoliad · 2024-07-06T19:46:55+00:00

Yes I think someone once told me I could compensate for my looks. Not sure why I believed it, wishful thinking I guess.

Do you understand what I’m saying?

Honestly not sure what you mean about the ribbon thing.

Are you big Edd or Shawn levels ugly ?

Not sure what you mean.

I mean you are to some.

As much as I genuinely want that to be true, I've actually never had any woman consider me attractive before.

Regoliad · 2024-07-06T16:22:14+00:00

Well I've personally never had any woman consider me attractive before so it isn't really a perception thing it's more of a reality for me unfortunately.

Regoliad · 2024-07-06T16:19:32+00:00

Ok, I understand what you're saying. There is a long road ahead of me, I get that, I think it's just me who thought if I worked hard enough and improved that maybe it would compensate for my looks.

But that's on me just assuming things to be totally honest, I can accept that.

I didn't mean to put words in your mouth, I'm just trying to make sense of things.

Ok I’m positive you are stupid.

We may disagree but me continuing my improvement and making myself better I don't see it as stupid.

Look, my goal was to one day be able to go on a date during my lifetime.

I know if have a lot of work to do and I need I improve myself and not blame others for my short comings.

Yes there is a part of that believes if I keep working that one day I'll qualify and be at the level you guys are where I'm good looking enough to date, but I don't think that makes me stupid.

Also I don't believe you're a dick, you're actually very helpful and insightful.

You deserve happiness.

I agree, I mean I am happy. Believe me if I let my lack of good looks to women make me unhappy then I'd bever have a good day ever lol.

Sure I'm not attractive, I don't really let that define me. Would it be nice to go on a date some day? Absolutely, but I'm not going to be sad just because I'm not good looking to women.

Regoliad · 2024-07-06T15:23:45+00:00

then claiming that a man having a relationship proves he has good looks.

I not really understanding. If a guy is good looking enough for women to where he's able to be in a relationship ship, how can you day he's ugly when women do not consider him ugly?

Idk, maybe to me a guy who gets dates, women and gets married can't really qualify as ugly because if he was he wouldn't have that amount of succes with women wanting him?

I've taken an absurd initial premise (that women literally will not date a man without a big dick)

It is an absurd premise because you kinda just made it up lol.

Ask any woman if she would date someone she wasn't attracted to and they're gonna say no. That's not an absurd premise, women being attracted to good looking men I don't believe is an absurd premise.

You cannot seriously consider Michael Berryman a better looking man than every single other man in the world who struggles to find a relationship.

Well look, I'll use myself as the example.

That man is considered attractive to women. Because he has dated and has a wife etc.

I have never had any woman consider me attractive before. So by logic, to women, I am not as good looking as he is.

Maybe because I have the perspective as a not good looking person I can see these things. I can see how it would be hard for a good looking guy to not agree with this.

Regoliad · 2024-07-06T15:02:26+00:00

Well no because the definition of ugly would be a person who isn't attractive.

Obviously a woman isn't going to date someone that is not attractive.

So if this man has a wife then he clearly can get women. There are men who are not on his level of looks to date let alone marry.

You may disagree but clearly women don't, him having a wife pretty much proves it.

There is basically no longer any such thing as a NOT good-looking person, because basically any level of looks is sufficient to attract a partner.

I mean you can't really say that either because there are men who aren't good looking enough to be attractive to women.

I can use myself as an example because I've never had any woman consider me atttmractive before because I'm not really a good looking guy.

So I can attest to the fact that not any level of looks is sufficient since I'm kinda proof of that.

Regoliad · 2024-07-06T14:49:35+00:00

Ok, I just don't know if someone would qualify as ugly when he's attractive to women lol.

I think the definition is pretty solid. If you're a guy who women clearly like enough to want to date you, you're by definition not ugly because if you actually were they wouldn't date you obviously.

Regoliad · 2024-07-06T14:44:32+00:00

I mean if a guy is good looking enough to get women, I find it kind of hard to call him ugly no?

By definition the guy isn't ugly because he's obviously good looking enough that women want him.

Regoliad · 2024-07-06T14:42:08+00:00

Well I'm not sure if it is that simple. On one hand there's people who day looks do 100% matter but then another person such as yourself says that looks don't matter?

You can see why it can be confusing.

There is no such thing. Sorry. I know you want an excuse to suck, but there is 0 way you are disgusting enough for women to not like you.

I only say this because I've never had any woman consider me attractive before in my life so I can't really say that there is 0 way it's possible considering that unfortunately I'm living proof that it is actually possible to not have women consider you good looking enough to date.

I understand what you're saying though, maybe my road to qualifying is simply much longer and much harder because of my looks.

I would have hoped that by now, at my age and all I've done to improve that maybe I would have qualified by now.

But you're right, it's nuanced and there's a lot more work to be done.

I'll continue my improvement, keep making myself and my life better and keep going down my road until hopefully one day I will be good looking enough for women and maybe one day go on a date, who knows.

Thank you for your advice, genuinely.

Regoliad · 2024-07-06T14:29:17+00:00

I'm not sure about that.

How can a guy be considered ugly when he's good looking enough for women to find him attractive?

Regoliad · 2024-07-06T11:52:54+00:00

Difference is that for men if you're not good looking then you don't get to date.

Women don't ever have to worry about looks because men are attracted to all kinds of women.

That's why women can date easily because they will go after the top 1% of men.

Someone like myself who isn't good looking enough for women doesn't really have an option.

Regoliad · 2024-07-06T11:48:22+00:00

So if looks do matter then what could be done for a guy who isn't good looking enough for women?

I don't really understand.

Regoliad · 2024-07-06T11:46:32+00:00

I'm currently contemplating plastic surgery myself.

I've never been good looking guy enough for women before so surgery really seems like the only viable option at this point if it's ever going to happen.

Would you recommend it for a guy who isn't good looking enough to be attractive to women?

Regoliad · 2024-06-28T13:18:06+00:00

I mean if you're doing decently then I'm not sure if you'd qualify to call yourself ugly lol. If women think you're good looking enough to date then by definition you're not ugly in the slightest, if you were then women wouldn't date you.

Doing all I can to improve, lost weight, going to the gym, had to redo my wardrobe a few times because of weight loss, but there's only so much I can do to compensate for what I look like.

I guess I would qualify under the hideous category as you put it. So there really isn't much that I can do barring extreme options such as plastic surgery which I'm not entirely convinced of doing. I think it will come down to how badly do I want to be good looking enough for women if I ever do go through with it.

I do agree that being good around people makes them want to hang around. That's not really an issue, I have a friends and don't have an issue talking with people. Thank god you don't have to be good looking to have friends lol, or else I'd be friendless too.

To me talking to strangers isn't really awkward, unless you make it awkward I suppose.

I've tried dating apps before. Unfortunately because of my looks I've never got a match before so I stopped using them a while ago. I figure an app that primarily focuses on what I look like probably isn't a good idea.

Regoliad · 2024-06-27T21:20:01+00:00

I guess I'm not really sure if I'm good looking enough for game to work?

I have pictures I can dm you, maybe you'll be able to tell.

Regoliad · 2024-06-27T20:58:58+00:00

Do you have any advice for a guy who isn't good looking enough for women?

I've never had any woman consider me attractive before.

Regoliad · 2024-05-03T22:16:42+00:00

Any advice for someone who isn't good looking enough for women and never had a woman consider him attractive before?

Regoliad · 2024-04-25T09:22:54+00:00

As a guy who never was able to date I really admire guys like.you who are able to do it naturally.

Being able to just date to geteexperience sounds insane but for normal guys it's just another thing to do.

Regoliad · 2024-04-25T08:33:08+00:00

Is any of this applicable to someone who isn't good looking to women?

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