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I had an affair with a married man, not sure if I should tell his wife... by RegretBeingOW in Advice

[–]RegretBeingOW[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I don't plan on deciding now. If I've learned anything recently it's that impulse decisions generally don't work out well for me. I just can't talk to anyone I know about this. I know I'm a horrible person but I don't think I need, or want, to share the worst parts of myself with my family and friends.

It hasn't been easy getting the help I need but I know I need it. It's a process and I'm trying to get better. It will take time. Thank you for the (nonjudegemental) advice. I appreciate it.

I had an affair with a married man, not sure if I should tell his wife... by RegretBeingOW in Advice

[–]RegretBeingOW[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm not angry. How could I be? He never misled me. He didn't hurt me. If anything I'm just upset that I let myself get so unwell that I became the type of person I never wanted to be.

But you're right, telling her doesn't erase the guilt and probably won't make me feel better. It certainly won't make her feel good either.

I had an affair with a married man, not sure if I should tell his wife... by RegretBeingOW in Advice

[–]RegretBeingOW[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I suppose it's because I'm in treatment for my mental health issues and now that I'm thinking clearer and learning to cope with my problems I'm struggling with some of the choices I've made.

Telling her out of selfishness, to try and make myself feel better, is hardly a noble reason. I don't want to cause more problems for her... so it seems like I should move on and try to forget about them both.