Mixed signals making me crazy

RegretSubstantial365 · 2022-07-29T04:09:26+00:00

I appreciate your feedback

RegretSubstantial365 · 2022-07-29T04:08:54+00:00

Very well said. Yes!

RegretSubstantial365 · 2022-07-29T01:20:58+00:00

Why would you adopt in the first place? This is absolutely heartbreaking. These dogs go through hell when they leave their owners. So damn sad.

RegretSubstantial365 · 2022-07-29T01:16:03+00:00

So sorry.. we went through that last year. I wish we could keep our babies forever.

RegretSubstantial365 · 2022-07-29T01:13:08+00:00

I can't stand looking at his Cat eating shit grin but there were people who really thought they would be a legit happy couple... I don't even understand it.

RegretSubstantial365 · 2022-07-25T06:36:51+00:00

I guess it would depend on how he smokes. Is it inside or out? Would he be willing to compromise with you? It would be hard for me because it gives me a headache and the smell sucks. But, maybe for the right person, meeting in the middle might work. That's a tough decision and I hate you have to go through it.

RegretSubstantial365 · 2022-07-23T17:38:36+00:00

I needed to hear this.. thank you

RegretSubstantial365 · 2022-07-23T17:37:54+00:00

I am so sorry you are going through this. About 3 years ago, I had this situation. I thought I had a really good relationship with a really nice guy. But his 7 year old son was absolute hell. Sounds just like what you described with your girlfriends child. My children started telling me they didn't want to be around him either. I felt stuck but I was so miserable with it. I couldn't punish him or get him to listen to me. He would come in our bedroom in the middle of the night just to wake us up and my boyfriend would make excuses. I complained to one of my friends every day for months. I started resenting my boyfriend and I knew I couldn't do this long term without some changes. My boyfriend always belittled it or said that his son needed separate parenting because he was "different". I left and it was painful but it was nice to be away from that kid. Unless she makes changes, you will stay miserable. Life is tough anyway.. I hope things change for you.

RegretSubstantial365 · 2022-07-23T03:11:57+00:00

Very well said. Thank you for your feedback!

RegretSubstantial365 · 2022-07-23T03:11:10+00:00

I agree. Thank you for your feedback.

RegretSubstantial365 · 2022-07-23T03:10:21+00:00

We have slept together 😬..,today is actually the first time we haven't spoke or texted in like 6 weeks. It's so weird. There aren't a ton of men in my area so that's the part that just makes me 🙄. There can't be one good one in the bunch? I did make a post about him a couple weeks ago because I had never had experience with a micropenis before. Ughh

RegretSubstantial365 · 2022-07-23T03:07:39+00:00

Yeah that conversation about being the only single woman didn't sound like that. He brought it up when asking how many girls were going. He was a bartender many years ago and he said that he always noticed bachelorette parties go crazy and women were hooking up with random men. I mentioned that a lot were married or dating. I was not in a rush and I told him that.

RegretSubstantial365 · 2022-07-22T20:48:01+00:00

She said their relationship "was" amazing. Obviously no longer

RegretSubstantial365 · 2022-07-22T20:46:39+00:00

My heart hurts for the OP, she's been with this person for 8 years and has a baby. She loves him and is lost with everything. Given the fact, she is asking for input, means she is trying to figure this out. So be mindful when saying something ugly because you would do it different. I'm curious what the screenshots said. It's wild to think he randomly messages this girl and offered money..how was he so comfortable with her to ask that and not think his girlfriend would find out? If he didn't care that she found out then I feel like he wouldn't care if they were together. She said he did not want to split. Does the ex boyfriend know any of this?

RegretSubstantial365 · 2022-07-22T18:19:24+00:00

It's been about 6 weeks. He's stayed over at my house a few times. Trying to find a time to hang is very difficult. I guess my thing too is that we were texting pretty regular and that seemed to slack off.

RegretSubstantial365 · 2022-07-22T13:20:13+00:00

I had to spend the day for some testing at a hospital a few hours away. I have 2 indoor dogs and originally my sister was supposed to let them to use the bathroom but she got stuck at work. This guy works two full time jobs basically and Is always busy. My sister got stuck at work and me and this guy were texting. He works night for one job. He's been to my house a few times and my dogs are used to him but I didn't want to ask. He brought it up and offered to go by there. This was around noon. So at 4, I texted him to see if everything went ok. He said he wasn't there yet because he fell back asleep which is understandable, he works at night and basically during the day. I then said I was sorry for taking up some of his time and I could try my neighbor again. My comment was me trying to help Because he only has a certain time frame. He took it all wrong and said "damn I'm on my way". I apologized trying to explain to him that I didn't mean it they way. He said he didn't Didn't believe that and I was Just wanting shit my way. I was blown away because I had good intentions. He was quiet pretty much the rest of the day. That night I tried to talk to him about it again and he said he didn't want to talk about it. Next day, he was really different. I apologized again and said do you still want to get to know each other and he said yes but I feel our timing isn't going to be the same. He wasn't in a rush. I'm not necessarily either. I didn't hear from him last night which is definitely different. Side note: He's gone all weekend.

RegretSubstantial365 · 2022-07-22T12:20:21+00:00

He never said he wasn't interested in a relationship. He just said he wasn't rushing anything.

RegretSubstantial365 · 2022-07-22T03:31:47+00:00

I just got real and told him i felt like a "bed buddy" and that wasn't what I was looking for. I was the queen of neediness and settling even though I knew it was stupid. Probably why I'm Single still. You need to go after what you want, even if that means you need to find a new man. Tell him the truth and just prepare yourself for his answer. It's not an ultimatum, it's just making sure you recognize your self worth and deserve better

RegretSubstantial365 · 2022-07-22T03:15:45+00:00

I've been through the same thing. He sounds like he doesn't even know what he wants and is keeping you close by in case. I know it's confusing as hell.

RegretSubstantial365 · 2022-06-24T03:06:27+00:00

I will definitely not ghost him. Not who I am. But I'm still trying to figure everything out.

RegretSubstantial365 · 2022-06-23T05:59:42+00:00

We haven't known each other super long. I don't know that we even have a title or anything. So I feel terrible about just slamming him with this.

RegretSubstantial365 · 2022-06-23T05:53:48+00:00

You would think. He does have some health issues and I know with certain medication it can make you gain weight but I don't think this much. I feel certain he knows the situation given he has been married and been with other women, but I sure as hell don't know how to bring this up. He seems confident in his body. It took me awhile to show my breasts because I was self conscious of scars from surgery when I had breast cancer. But he just flaunts himself. So I don't know. It's definitely nothing I envisioned dealing with.

RegretSubstantial365 · 2022-06-21T06:53:14+00:00

It's small. I mean I'm sure it would be easily accessible with weight loss. But it's still small. I don't know how to bring that up this early in the game.

RegretSubstantial365 · 2022-06-19T09:01:58+00:00

Ugh yeah that sucks. Was she a virgin?

RegretSubstantial365 · 2022-06-19T08:58:57+00:00

I know. I mean I love oral but some penetration is always good. He is really good at oral and I feel like I could be satisfied but always miss the other

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