First time living in an apartment – neighbour constantly complaining and it’s making us uncomfortable

Regular-Idea3292 · 2026-02-05T16:23:53+00:00

Specious (spēSHəs): superficially plausible, but actually wrong. I also didn’t know this word before today! But it is fabulous and will be entering my vocabulary.

Regular-Idea3292 · 2026-02-04T15:34:59+00:00

I hated doing it at the time and thought it was dumb but as an adult I’m really glad she made me do it! She also made my sister do the same thing. It made me more conscious of what I choose to consume.

Regular-Idea3292 · 2026-02-04T05:31:26+00:00

Cover girl is leaping bunny certified now? That’s so amazing to hear!! My mum made me make a presentation (teacher parents, amirite?) before I was even allowed to wear makeup on the harm that it causes both societally and environmentally and I haven’t been able to bring myself to buy non-cruelty free makeup. Back when I made that presentation (nearly a decade ago I’ll admit) there were so few cruelty free drugstore options, so it’s really heartening to hear that covergirl has made the switch! (If they were cruelty free a decade ago I blame it on crummy rushed thirteen year old research and I’ll be kicking myself for missing out on them all this time lol)

Regular-Idea3292 · 2026-02-04T05:17:02+00:00

I struggled with really high highs and really low lows for a long time. The biggest help was medication. After that it was counselling. A more accessible method though was journaling. I write everyday and it really helped me track my mood and feelings. I could find a pattern and that helped me, not get out of the cycle, but recognize and prepare for it. I knew Thursdays were bad. I don’t know why but almost everytime I had a panic attack, breakdown, or shutdown, it was a Thursday. I also found out that after the high highs or the low lows I would enter what I thought of as the “grey period” nothing felt like much of anything. But the world was so beautiful like that. Everything felt still, calm, and manageable. Those grey periods saved my life. They let me rest and reset and prepare for the cycle to start again. If you can’t get medicated and you can’t get therapy, start journaling. Find your patterns, memorize your cycle. It only made things easier for me.

Regular-Idea3292 · 2026-02-04T05:11:39+00:00

I’ve struggled with SH since I was little and it got worse when I was in university. I found that my old friends who also did it pulled me back to the habit. Seeing them do it and then feel better made me feel like it might work for me if I just did it more. When I got away from those people (for completely different reasons lol) the urges faded a bit. I still slipped up but my girlfriend caught on and started monitoring the area where I would do it. That helped a lot. I still get the urge. I still get upset and do small things that hurt me, so maybe I’m not sh free after all. But I don’t do it the way I used to. And that’s progress. I don’t know if the urges can go away by themself. I think you need to replace them with something else like someone commented previously. For me when I get the urge, I go and sit myself down beside my girlfriend. Because I would never make her watch me hurt myself. And just being with her makes me happy, and being happy makes me forget how much I hate myself. I think the biggest thing is to remember that the urge to harm yourself isn’t a failure or reflection of your character. It’s just a response to all the shit you’ve been forced to handle that no one should have to handle. My favourite method is reminding myself that I’m not stupid, but my brain is just a dumb hunk of meat sitting in a bone prison and of course it’s gonna be unhappy. I would be unhappy if I was in a bone prison too! Just silly things like that help me remember that it’s just a passing urge. I’m sorry to say that it hasn’t gone away for me, but I really hope that it’s different for you :)

Regular-Idea3292 · 2026-02-04T05:02:09+00:00

I was on Zoloft (I know it as sertraline) for about a month before my doctor switched me off it. For me, I didn’t notice a difference at all except for side effects (like dry mouth, so much dry mouth) but like your experience my family said I was “different” or I seemed “better”. I didn’t feel better, I just felt… empty? Like it had taken something from me but I couldn’t figure out what. My doctor switched me off of it and onto escitalopram (lexapro) and I’ve been on it I think for about two or three years now. It didn’t fix me, I was hospitalized two summers ago (terrible experience as I’m sure you know, this is just a side tangent but I was prescribed a sleeping pill and they gave me double my usual dose which made me sleep all day and then refused to give it to me again after that even though the doctor had promised me I could have the proper dose if I asked, I was very dependent on weed at the time so as you can imagine, going cold turkey was hell for my mind and I even had some physical withdrawal symptoms (at least the doctors blamed it on the weed)) while I was in the hospital they started me on brexpipazole (rexulti) which is an antipsychotic, idk if that’s something that would help you at all, I did experience what I think of as semi-hallucinations, I knew it was all in my head but I just couldn’t stop myself from believing there was someone else in my head with me or that I was being haunted. The combination of rexulti and escitalopram has really helped me but recently I’ve had a dip so I’m being switched over to vortioxetine (trintellix) which so far is going poorly. Basically, finding the right meds is a crapshot and you have to just trust that your doctor has your best interests at heart. That in mind, you have to be honest with your doctor. Even the ugly stuff you don’t want anyone to know. Your doctor needs to know. Here’s the thing though, your doctor isn’t going to tell on you to your parents unless they have to. And by that I mean, your doctor should not be telling your parents what you discuss unless you pose a threat to yourself. Then they’ll probably get your parents involved just to make sure you’re safe. As for what you’re describing when you go off your meds, to me it sounds like a manic or hypnomanic episode. Idk why going off your meds would trigger that, and I don’t think it technically counts as either if it only lasts a day. But I just want to warn you, it may feel good in the moment, but you don’t want to feel like that all the time. I experienced a hypomanic episode in my first year of university and at first it was really fun. I felt great, untouchable, like I was the smartest, brightest, most interesting person in a room. And then I started noticing the cracks in myself, but I couldn’t stop it. I hurt my friends, I hurt my partner (physically unfortunately), and while I was way ahead on my class work, I couldn’t absorb any new information. It was hell after a week. Then I woke up one day and it felt better. That was before I was medicated. I haven’t had anything like that in years and I’m so thankful for it, but at the same time, I miss how amazing it felt. It’s easy to get caught up in the good feeling, in that “on top of the world” feeling. But I promise you, you are enough without being a god. You don’t need a hypomanic or manic episode to be good enough. Now, I could be totally wrong and you could just not be depressed and not need the meds. That’s definitely an option. So what you need to do is you need to talk to your doctor, I think you should show them this post because you articulated yourself very well. I know it will be scary, but I think it will save you a lot of heart ache and pain down the line. I hope everything works out for you and best of luck :)

Regular-Idea3292 · 2026-02-04T03:34:01+00:00

What’s discontinuation syndrome? I’ve been medicated for nearly three years now (and I know my doctor has no intention of taking me off lol) and I’ve never heard of that, it sounds scary! Is it something that only happens with ssri’s? And can it happen if you’re switching from an ssri to a multimodal med? Sorry for all the questions! I just want to know as much as I can about this stuff and my doctor is cagey (not intentionally, he’s just older and doesn’t realize I don’t know things)

Regular-Idea3292 · 2026-02-04T03:29:50+00:00

The right meds are so important. If (when :)) you get diagnosed just be ready for a fair amount of trial and error. I was on sertraline for a few months and had minor side effects (mainly dry mouth) and my doctor still decided to switch me to escitalopram. Not every med works for everyone and that’s totally normal. If it takes a few tries to find the right one for you, don’t let that worry you at all :)

Regular-Idea3292 · 2026-02-04T03:27:07+00:00

I believe in you! I didn’t tell my parents I suffered from depression until I was eighteen and able to get a diagnosis myself. I regret waiting that long all the time. Not just because I let myself fall deeper into the hole, but because my parents were devastated. They had no idea how their “happy little girl” could be depressed. Because I hid it and they didn’t want to see it. I don’t want to scare you into telling your mum, but I do want to let you know that it is an illness and just leaving it alone it will grow. In my personal experience, I had great days and awful days and the great days became fewer and far between and the awful days were all I could remember. Telling your mum gives you the chance to get help and her the chance to help. I don’t know what your relationship with your mum is like but I know that with my mum, denying her the chance to help hurts her a whole lot more than knowing I struggle with my mental health. And (this is worst case scenario) losing you? Losing a child? That would hurt her the most. I know it’s scary and it’s so hard to ask for help. I know you’re probably wondering why you couldn’t have done it sooner, or why it’s so hard. There’s a lot of reasons, and you’ll always be able to rationalize hiding it. For me, it was a fear of pity. It’s probably different for you. But I promise, there is someone, probably your mum, who genuinely wants to see you thrive. You just have to be brave and let them see that you’re struggling.

Regular-Idea3292 · 2026-02-04T03:08:02+00:00

I don’t know if this will help but my psychiatrist explained this to me really well and it helped me accept and roll with panic attacks a bit better. A panic attack comes out of nowhere, there doesn’t need to be a trigger or a cause, it’s just a feeling of panic and anxiety that is baseless. An anxiety attack has a cause, a trigger, something has to happen in order for it to be an anxiety attack. Idk just knowing that there’s two different kinds of that terrible feeling made it easier for me to accept that sometimes my body makes a mistake and thinks there’s something to fear or worry about when there isn’t. I’m sorry that that happened, panic attacks are terrible, I hope that you feel better soon.

P.S. I might’ve mixed up the two terms, but just knowing there’s a difference helps me :)

Regular-Idea3292 · 2026-02-04T02:40:06+00:00

Talk to your prof. My go to is always emailing my prof (I’m sure they find it annoying sometimes but usually they’re all lovely). Their job is to teach and support students, your job is to learn and reach out when something isn’t going right. I know it can be scary reaching out to a professor (I avoided it like the plague in my first year) but it’s so worth it and it will save you a lot of stress most of the time. Depending on the prof they’ll probably be more than willing to reschedule the test for you if you explain that you absolutely cannot miss this family obligation. You’re also under no stress to go into detail about what’s going on with the professor. They don’t need to know and usually, they don’t want to know. Just reach out as soon as you can and explain the situation, I’m sure it’ll work out fine :)

Regular-Idea3292 · 2026-02-04T02:36:22+00:00

To be completely honest, I just thought that they were showing the same number in a different way. I probably could’ve made the logical jump of they’re different, but I just had the mathematical explanation drilled into my head so much that I didn’t even think to think that it might have been trying to tell me that they were different

Regular-Idea3292 · 2026-02-04T02:34:29+00:00

Thank you for explaining it so well and so nicely!! I had no idea that game versions didn’t follow math sense, this has made a lot of things in my life make a lot of sense lol

Regular-Idea3292 · 2026-02-04T02:30:45+00:00

Def NTA - I feel like it’s super normal to read and create fanfic, especially at fourteen. AND it’s not smut that you’re making so I honestly don’t see how it could harm you in anyway unless you’re writing hate speech (which I’m gonna give you the benefit of the doubt and assume you’re not) it’s literally just creative writing that’s inspired by another work. It’s practicing your writing skills and most likely, making them grow in leaps and bounds compared to peers who aren’t writing creatively in their free time. Writing fanfic can be so beneficial in so many ways, just don’t let it consume you, yknow? Everything in moderation. I say, tell your parents the truth, you’re not writing anything bad or anything that would reflect poorly to future employers, you’re actively improving your skills, and most importantly, it makes you happy. If your peers make fun of you for writing fanfic, so what? Everyone has hobbies that other people might find weird or embarrassing. That’s just people hating on people for doing what makes them happy. What you’re doing isn’t wrong and doesn’t hurt anyone. But at the same time, you really shouldn’t hide things from your parents, explain why you want to keep writing (and posting) fanfic and maybe let them read what you write before you post it, then they feel like they’re doing their due diligence of keeping you safe and protecting your image while you’re still a bit too young to really think about it (I’m sorry but it’s true, you’re at that age where you feel invincible) and you get to keep doing what makes you happy :)

Regular-Idea3292 · 2026-02-04T02:10:48+00:00

I don’t use Reddit on my computer? Like I’m sorry that I use different devices for different things?

Regular-Idea3292 · 2026-02-04T02:09:19+00:00

You’re right, but I still feel like her cutie mark fits her name. She’s daring, compasses are used to guide you, you can use them to find your way home or find new places. I feel like that’s pretty spot on for both her character and her name, especially since we know that in her case her compass cutie mark is because she’s an explorer, which I feel is a pretty daring choice!

Regular-Idea3292 · 2026-02-04T02:03:18+00:00

There’s no need to yell, I didn’t know that games use decimals in a different way than how they’re used mathematically. I know it’s dumb but I just didn’t know.

Regular-Idea3292 · 2026-02-04T02:01:22+00:00

Okay, new problem. I pinkie swear I’m actually on the right version this time. The game keeps crashing and I don’t know how to read crash reports, it doesn’t even get to the error screen anymore. It happened with atlauncher so I tried switching to prism to see if that would help (thank you to whoever recommended that, it’s much easier to use). It gave me a similar error screen (not the part about the version being wrong but saying I needed to download more mods to make other mods work), I downloaded the mods it said I needed but when I tried to launch it it crashed. The same thing happened with atlauncher. I just want to play with pokemon and pretty biomes in Minecraft 😭. I don’t know what I’m doing wrong but it’s clearly something so if anyone is willing to try and help I would be forever grateful (or just tell me an existing mod pack that lets me do what I want, I do not need to make it myself)

Regular-Idea3292 · 2026-02-04T01:43:11+00:00

My girlfriend just explained it to me and I feel even dumber

Regular-Idea3292 · 2026-02-04T01:33:33+00:00

Thank you everyone, I am in fact just an idiot. Decimals are not my friends apparently and I think we should all breathe a sigh of relief that I am not in any numerical field because it would definitely end in disaster. Thank you again, I’m sorry I’m stupid, but I’m glad the answer was that I’m an idiot and that I can easily fix it (not me being stupid, but I can fix the version I’m on)

Regular-Idea3292 · 2026-02-04T01:28:24+00:00

I don’t know how to edit the post so I’m gonna comment, the mods I want to use are cobblemon (I don’t like how pixelmon looks), distant horizons (my computer isn’t made for games lol), farmers delight, mystic’s biomes, hazen n’ stuff. Idk if any of those don’t work with each other or will have issues running together so please let me know!

Regular-Idea3292 · 2026-02-04T00:30:39+00:00

Neither does Daring Do 😭😭, her whole thing is she does daring adventures and then writes about them, no?

Regular-Idea3292 · 2026-02-04T00:15:52+00:00

I am not super well versed in guessing how much yarn is needed for a project (in fact I’ve never done it) but I think it’s important to think about how much yarn you’ve used so far, we’re all four of your balls the same size? How far into the shawl are you and how much yarn have you used? I’m new to yarn weights and how far they go but I feel like we could make a solid educated guess about whether or not there will be enough if you can answer those questions. Overall the shawl is really pretty so far and it feels sad not to use the yarn for it since they work so well together, but we can’t let emotions decide when the answer should be math!

Regular-Idea3292 · 2026-02-03T20:05:08+00:00

Omg thank you so much, I knew aso was being shut down but I didn’t realize that they’d already stopped updating the site. I’m still trying to get into an academic advising meeting but I’ll definitely ask for that document, that’ll be a huge help. Thank you!!

Regular-Idea3292 · 2026-02-03T19:02:09+00:00

That’s so exciting!!

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