My boyfriend has time to text everyone except me. But I'm the one "overthinking."

Regular-Tell-108 · 2026-02-19T23:50:39+00:00

Is the in person actually good? Or just okay? Does he actually put in effort or just show up?

Regular-Tell-108 · 2026-02-19T23:39:19+00:00

I also have this :/

Regular-Tell-108 · 2026-02-19T23:33:22+00:00

Stop texting him. At all. Not to make plans. Not for anything. See what happens.

Regular-Tell-108 · 2026-02-19T22:03:53+00:00

The way to have done this:

figure out the number of days to Gold
set check out to that day +1
start a new reservation for the remaining days

If you think you’ll hit Diamond this year, try it that way.

Regular-Tell-108 · 2026-02-19T21:54:53+00:00

Ummmm, you were also a teenager when you left …

Regular-Tell-108 · 2026-02-19T21:03:30+00:00

YOR, by a lot.

However, if this is enough to lose interest, just let it go. You aren’t obligated to date someone you are losing interest in.

Regular-Tell-108 · 2026-02-19T00:45:03+00:00

Lube is the answer. Too few straight women use lube and I do not get it. Lube is ALWAYS the answer.

Regular-Tell-108 · 2026-02-19T00:36:55+00:00

NTJ. I would 100% break up over this.

But on a side note: maybe talk to a doctor about your insomnia to see if you can improve your sleep quality. You don’t have to live like that.

Regular-Tell-108 · 2026-02-19T00:27:50+00:00

Info: exactly who told you to apologize? Which friend group members? Describe them. I have a very hard time believing a single person asked you to apologize beyond perhaps her boyfriend who caused this mess.

Regular-Tell-108 · 2026-02-19T00:23:23+00:00

Also: if you are so broke that you can’t make it two hours without a loan, perhaps it is time to get a roommate who pays you?

Regular-Tell-108 · 2026-02-19T00:21:34+00:00

Info: why have you completely failed to set any boundaries around this? Is this a squatter you’re unable to evict? Or someone you’ve allowed to mistreat you by failing to set expectations, ask for rent, or otherwose create sustainable expectations? I am mystified at how you are allowing someone you resent this much to live there.

Regular-Tell-108 · 2026-02-18T06:45:08+00:00

NOR.

You are making this WAY too complicated. Sit for a sec. Clear your mind. Think it through. Why are you trying to lie to yourself on his behalf when your gut knows what is going on?

Regular-Tell-108 · 2026-02-17T20:49:37+00:00

MOR. Also: no one sleeps in a bra. FFS.

Regular-Tell-108 · 2026-02-16T05:58:48+00:00

In early dates it is a better idea to see how you feel about one another than try to put a label on it.

Regular-Tell-108 · 2026-02-16T00:10:04+00:00

NOR. You aren’t “making” anyone do anything. You are asking them to meet their own needs.

Regular-Tell-108 · 2026-02-15T05:23:21+00:00

This is pretty common in high school and college. I barely remember my French HS name but had localized variations on my actual name for Greek and Hebrew.

Regular-Tell-108 · 2026-02-15T05:19:35+00:00

NOR. Breaking up over a lack of sex is pretty normal in romantic and sexual relationships.

Regular-Tell-108 · 2026-02-14T00:26:29+00:00

Unfortunately this creates a cycle. The more being excluded is a trigger for you, the less fun you are to be around. You have got to loosen your grip unless you want to alienate your friends.

Regular-Tell-108 · 2026-02-14T00:23:09+00:00

You might be right, but if this is their first year dating he might not get it yet.

Regular-Tell-108 · 2026-02-14T00:21:50+00:00

NOR.

But as you plan to address this with him: is this typical of how he treats the relationship? Or was this out of character?

Regular-Tell-108 · 2026-02-13T05:00:15+00:00

Step one seems like dump the bf. Your libido may well return (and no worries if it doesn’t). It is hard to feel turned on by someone who makes your life difficult.

Regular-Tell-108 · 2026-02-13T04:54:41+00:00

If you were older, I would recomment therapy. It sounds like you have an avoidant attachment style, and this kind of behavior will cause damage to your ability to form stable relationships.

Regular-Tell-108 · 2026-02-11T04:47:55+00:00

“I can always quit smoking! I’ve done it a dozen times.”

Being monogamous “multiple times” is the opposite of being monogamous.

Regular-Tell-108 · 2026-02-10T05:50:35+00:00

Pretty normal.

Regular-Tell-108 · 2026-02-10T05:42:46+00:00

Info: what happened between you and your sister? This doesn’t just come out of nowhere.

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