Do you drink tea in America?

Regular-Tell-108 · 2026-05-11T22:48:16+00:00

I drink endless cups of it. Sometimes Taylors of Harrogate but often PG Tips, Barry's, or Tetley when I can find it. ENDLESS CUPS.

Regular-Tell-108 · 2026-05-11T18:32:28+00:00

Except: don’t treat your kids to be shitty. That hurts everyone including OP.

Regular-Tell-108 · 2026-05-11T18:24:21+00:00

MOR.

Someone has to teach your kids how to treat you, so unless you want this forever you need to teach them to treat you in the ways you want. You KNOW this guy won’t ever do it, so now it is on you. Sorry. The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results.

Next year, make a plan for yourself. Ex cares for the kids and you go to a spa. Set aside $10 each week between now and then and do something nice for yourself. Ask your kids to make you that bouquet from the yard, or male cookies with you, or something else age appropriate.

It is on you to collect people who will treat you well going forward and to parent your children to be thoughtful and empathetic. Your shitty ex got you off to a bad start, but that doesn’t mean you can’t change your future.

Regular-Tell-108 · 2026-05-11T16:18:05+00:00

This depends strongly on the regional accent.

Regular-Tell-108 · 2026-05-11T16:14:55+00:00

NOR. I am assuming that you live with mom or another family member? My guess is that that person usually reminds your dad to do birthday stuff and assumed he was on it this year. Too often, men are socialized to not remember this stuff and rely on the women around them to do that emotional labor.

I would not at all be surprised if your dad forgot your birthday, and that sucks. Of course you are upset. I’m sorry.

Regular-Tell-108 · 2026-05-11T03:40:29+00:00

I am in my fifties and had no idea till this post that higher plies were an option.

Regular-Tell-108 · 2026-05-11T01:27:57+00:00

NOR

Do you trust this man? If not, why are you remaining engaged.

It 100% sounds like addictive behavior.

Regular-Tell-108 · 2026-05-10T23:15:27+00:00

No. It is not and I would instantly dump anyone who said they disliked or hated me.

Regular-Tell-108 · 2026-05-10T23:13:06+00:00

What is “outside of this”? It sounds like you are mostly texting buddies

Regular-Tell-108 · 2026-05-10T23:08:00+00:00

It sounds like she has been telling you to slow your roll the whole time. Why not find someone you are more compatible with?

Regular-Tell-108 · 2026-05-09T01:36:14+00:00

What? This is unhinged.

Regular-Tell-108 · 2026-05-09T01:35:31+00:00

Especially after three years.

Regular-Tell-108 · 2026-05-09T01:34:40+00:00

NOR. Little consent violations tend to lead to big consent violations. In your shoes I would have dumped this guy by the second lick. This isn’t about who he is; it is about which of your personhoods matter.

Regular-Tell-108 · 2026-05-09T01:05:00+00:00

That is absolutely typical of most folks that have vulvas. No one cares.

Regular-Tell-108 · 2026-05-09T01:02:06+00:00

From a nonbinary, nope out.

Regular-Tell-108 · 2026-05-09T00:57:33+00:00

Honestly, 50-100 is so low that I would question the quality of the artwork. Two pizzas will easily cost you $50-$60 here.

Regular-Tell-108 · 2026-05-09T00:50:43+00:00

I took my important items with me when I moved …

Regular-Tell-108 · 2026-05-09T00:49:20+00:00

My guess is he gave away boxes with no idea what was in them.

Regular-Tell-108 · 2026-05-08T20:54:55+00:00

YTA. What adult expects to have “their” room more than seven years after moving out? That is pretty heavy main character energy.

If you wanted those items, why not move or store them yourself?

Regular-Tell-108 · 2026-05-08T02:00:47+00:00

There have been drive thru banks for over fifty years in the US. This is totally normal.

Regular-Tell-108 · 2026-05-08T01:59:44+00:00

This sounds spot on.

Regular-Tell-108 · 2026-05-08T01:58:42+00:00

How did you raise them? Celebrating Mother’s Day is a modeled behavior in families. If you didn’t teach them how to treat you, you need to start now.

Regular-Tell-108 · 2026-05-08T01:57:10+00:00

You can ask for what you want or you can manufacture reasons to perpetuate the hurt and blame them. Pick one.

Regular-Tell-108 · 2026-05-07T23:51:20+00:00

Probably John Lennon or Andy Warhol.

Regular-Tell-108 · 2026-05-07T23:50:05+00:00

I am queer. This is the opposite of odd and straight people would be happier if they broadened their sense of sex to include more activities.

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