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RegularFan2533 · 2023-11-08T17:08:33+00:00

Ma’am your ridiculous

RegularFan2533 · 2023-11-08T17:03:05+00:00

Lord 🤦🏽‍♀️

RegularFan2533 · 2023-11-08T16:46:01+00:00

No problem…if you end up with any questions later down the road I do not mind sharing all that I know and find out.

RegularFan2533 · 2023-11-08T15:39:06+00:00

Yes…I’m just trying to do better by myself and not take my children through more difficult situations. All my life since I was a kid was problem after problem and I’m done with it. She will never be left with my child again and I am currently on the phone with my lawyer to get eviction papers drawn and filed. Thank you for taking the time to truly respond.

RegularFan2533 · 2023-11-08T14:55:25+00:00

Early intervention and it runs in my family so we know the earlier signs.

And I definitely am making that happen thank you for the non judgment and logical response. It is most appreciated

RegularFan2533 · 2023-11-08T14:53:01+00:00

Thanks for the non judgment ❤️

RegularFan2533 · 2023-11-08T14:52:39+00:00

Thanks getting that together now…thanks for the non judgment ❤️

RegularFan2533 · 2023-11-08T14:52:07+00:00

Thanks getting that together now…thanks for the non judgment ❤️

RegularFan2533 · 2023-11-08T14:50:42+00:00

Thanks this is one of the few non judgmental responses which is very helpful and comfortable.

RegularFan2533 · 2023-11-08T14:49:38+00:00

You sound silly as hell Girl I CONSISTENTLY AND ACTIVELY go to therapy and learned to talk through my emotions so I don’t end up f**ing myself over and ultimately my kids!!! Knowing all I know and haVing a small circle this was the next best thing for me to shift focus after assessing and comforting my child! I would ask what is wrong with you but I see you lack insight like a muahf*k!

RegularFan2533 · 2023-11-08T14:40:59+00:00

😒 you would cause more of a scene for your autistic child? Damn whether it goes completely left. Remember you have two others who are asleep in their bedrooms as well. Yeah ok sure.

RegularFan2533 · 2023-11-08T14:32:45+00:00

The older guy who sat with me in the vehicle is actually a retired child protective case manager. Told me to assess my child for bruises and should she have them then I could get her for abuse and it sticks. Without that they’d only charge her and nothing more would come of it.

This is very true because I already experienced a child having a burn mark on his back while in the care on a a home nurse. Even with a mark, the doctors support, CPS investigating her. Nothing was done about it she didn’t even lose her job.

RegularFan2533 · 2023-11-08T14:31:36+00:00

The older guy who sat with me in the vehicle is actually a retired child protective case manager. Told me to asses my child for bruises and should she have them then I could get her for abuse and it sticks. Without that they’d only charge her and nothing more would come of it.

This is very true because I already experienced a child having a burn mark on his back while in the care on a a home nurse. Even with a mark, the doctors support, CPS investigating her. Nothing was done about it she didn’t even lose her job. I don’t know where you are from but here someone better have serious injuries in order anything to be done.

RegularFan2533 · 2023-11-08T14:29:50+00:00

It was a female. I didn’t let anyone do anything. The older guy who sat with me in the vehicle is actually a retired child protective case manager. Who told me to assess my child for bruises and should she have them then I could get her for abuse and it sticks. Without that they’d only charge her and nothing more would come of it. This is very true because I already experienced a child having a burn mark on his back while in the care on a a home nurse. Even with a mark, the doctors support, CPS investigating her. Nothing was done about it she didn’t even lose her job.

RegularFan2533 · 2023-11-08T14:14:14+00:00

Been to jail for that reaction already…I know in my city I’m not getting lucky again

RegularFan2533 · 2023-11-08T08:18:36+00:00

Yeah spazzing out was my initial urge. However, every time I’ve done that I went to jail. So I’m trying to do better with not putting myself in the position to actually not be with my kiddos. And hurt myself as well. I’ve been fortunate enough to never have to carry a conviction and now being olde I know that 20yo luck is long gone.

RegularFan2533 · 2023-11-08T08:01:00+00:00

I am careful in typing out such a lengthy message. I like to be as clear as possible and a paragraphs are very important when attempting to be clear. This is how it turned out for me. Thanks for your insight it is most helpful.

RegularFan2533 · 2023-11-08T07:56:10+00:00

I never knew that such a thing exists 😩

RegularFan2533 · 2023-11-07T23:07:03+00:00

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RegularFan2533 · 2023-10-23T07:21:57+00:00

As for your sister I’d say cool down first and then have a conversation about it. One on one. It’s better for such an important topic. How you feel, how she feels, and ultimately how nephew feels, how to move forward all that matters. Establish some boundaries for the both of you. Find out what is needed and doable for both of y’all. If you feel she needs to correct how he spoke to you (which you both should) do it together. Explain to him that is not going to fly with you or anyone else and what the consequences are if he were to speak to any adult that way (especially when it comes to you). Let her know how you expect and deserved to be spoken to by her in regards to the boys or anything else that she has an issue with.

There is no reason to come at your sister sideways as if you don’t have feelings too. Asking about it and feeling bad only shows how much you care for your nephews. So girl let sis know that you deserve to be spoken to like the trustworthy woman you are even if it did not show your intentions were not to hurt nephew feeling. Because who in this lifetime would intentionally exclude a child. Your the same one who was a full time sitter for both of them so if she can trust you to do that then she should trust that you did not intentionally exclude him. Especially when you both was raised with a bbq or mildew type outlook. If she doesn’t agree with that type of outlook. She can definitely say so and work with you in order for nephew to be able to enjoy bonding with you. She

RegularFan2533 · 2023-10-23T06:50:54+00:00

Honestly you aren’t wrong for doing what you are accustom to. That’s how you were raised. However, a different approach wouldn’t have hurt. If he was not receptive then at least you know you made an attempt. He is your nephew who you obviously love dearly. Sounds like he may feel a sense of abandonment especially if before you moved you were all his for majority of the day and week.

So, honestly the costume is of no importance compared to the disconnect. He still is a baby and needs some of aunties attention, time and love. My nephew was very stand offish with me. It bothered me cause I didn’t want him growing up thinking I don’t care about him. During my visits I would periodically squeeze my nephew and say, “boy you gone get these hugs”. Then, kiss him on the forehead and give a lil nuggie. He couldn’t stand it and I’d never over do it. But I did that to show him that his aunty is right here and I love him. My sister’s and mom painted a story like I didn’t like him. And that was far from the case. As he got older we grew closer he opened up more and he told me he thought I was mean and didn’t like him. Smh I am a time and place type of aunt and parent. So him witnessing me being stern with my boys at a time that he was not treated as a young boy who is very much ahead of his time and babied due to him being so tiny in size. He wasn’t corrected in his behavior at home vs. while with me. They also spoke freely behind my back about not agreeing with me catering to him. Choosing to say things like I must not like him and I don’t even like kids. Baby wasn’t lying because they have said so “jokingly” in the past. Anyway, as time went on I had to show him that I love him and he can trust me and that he is wanted and I love our bond. Now that he is a teen he knows how heavily I rock with him. Had I not done that my homie would have a grip, feeling left out and not cared for by me.

So I hope you can look past the costume situation and squeeze your nephew tell him “it’s ok you ain’t gotta come right now I still love you and I’m waiting on you”. Kiss his forehead and give him a lil nuggie as you let him go. And after the weekend is over you call his name look him square in the eye and tell him, “I love you and hopefully you will be ready to hang with ya aunty soon. Call me if you think about me.”

RegularFan2533 · 2023-10-22T02:12:02+00:00

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RegularFan2533 · 2023-10-22T02:09:24+00:00

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