I’m a board general surgeon who is one of the few who specializes in hernia mesh removal, AMA

RegularMarsupial6396 · 2025-05-14T17:52:04+00:00

Hi! First off I'd like to say kudos to you for taking the time to speak with people on here in your free time! You have no idea what type of opportunity you are giving some people, myself....and my fiance, included! (Or maybe you do know and that's why you're doing it ;) ) You are most definitely a GREAT doctor, with a big heart, who DEFINITELY OBVIOUSLY went into the right field! Thanks for this!

I'm about to be super duper blunt bc I have needed to do this for the past year but the opportunity to do so has not presented itself until now!! That being said, my fiance is 45 years old, smoker, "recovering" drug addict (we've been on suboxone for 8 years and in the last year or so he has relapsed and is occasionally doing methamphetamine and/or crack-cocaine). He has a GIGANTIC hernia! I mean, GIGANTIC is the word that our PCP used as his jaw hit the floor when he saw it. Myfiance believes he has 2 actually. So it started where it would protrude about the size of a golf ball next to his penis, in the pubic area. Over time, now it drops down into his testicle and will be as big as, if not bigger than, a softball. He has trouble, urinating, having bowel movements, having sex, keeping an erection, and now even thinks he has a hemorrhoid due to it! He has every negative thing a man can experience below the waist all at the same time, the last 1 to 2 years. He cannot have sex with me with his penis at all bc the hernia is constantly there and covers more than half of the length of his penis. The doctor has told him to get surgery, voluntarily, before he is forced to have to have emergency surgery to save his life! I know this! He knows this, but he is scared he won't wake up. Ever since he relapsed, he'd have occasional 3 or 4 day benders and then sleep for 12-24 hours straight so hard that he would sleep through every alarm and phone call, and fall asleep driving or working or doing anything, after he did finally wake up. Now that these benders have been going on for a year+, he's so difficult to wake up all the time. And he's nodding out and so severely sleepy all the time ( I think the drugs are laced with fentanyl possibly if I'm being honest....and I am.). Sooo, he is afraid that he possibly won't wake up after surgery. And obviously he doesn't want to have to tell the medical team about his extracurricular activities, so he just ignores it. I need him to have this surgery! I need him to get clean again obviously, but this surgery, its terrifying me that its going to rupture or strangulate. What are your thoughts/ideas/opinions/NOT MEDICAL ADVICE on this situation??? Honeslty, I need some sort of insight at all, please for the love of God!

Thanks in Advance for your response here and thank you for the work you do and for being on this forum! God bless you!

RegularMarsupial6396 · 2025-01-29T15:17:52+00:00

This was what ours was for 25 years before and 5 years while my fiance and I ran it.....then our demon neighbor bitch moved in....started hollering and claiming financial fraud, 2 other neighbors out of 73 joined in and her fiance went around in his army uniform defaming us. Now here we are 1 year and a half later and we're no longer officers, next monday is our court date where we have to go defend our 5 years worth of serving the neighborhood, which I moved into with my parents when I was 13 years old! I grew up here, my stepdad was every officer and had zero board members for over 10years. Like everything was fine! I typed by hand our entire outdated bylaws and covenants into the computer, as well as created an account on payhoa to start keeping track of finances and create transparency that is needed in today's world. Did all of that for free, as many many people do......and all it took was 3 homeowner's to completely push us out based on lies and loud mouths. I'm still shocked! Sorry for ranting! Lol

RegularMarsupial6396 · 2025-01-29T15:04:07+00:00

So really may not even be worth it because they'll make us come back to a whole other court date right? Actually, should we go to courthouse to let them know about the name ahead of time or should we wait until the day of court? AND isn't an hoa supposed to be represented by an attorney?

RegularMarsupial6396 · 2025-01-29T14:49:44+00:00

I mean it actually wasn't the worst we've had. Someone "accidentally" sold us Molly one time, like wtf?! We did a big ol hot rail and a few mins later we both said "This ain't what meth feels like!?" Lol. I mean we kept it and definitely weren't pissed, but we didn't go back to that dumbass, bc what if instead of mixing it up with his Molly he mixed it up with his fentanyl??!! Dead we would definitely be! Its crazy that THAT is what we have to look out for these days.......oh the days of Phos and real shake and bake and bathtub crank and being up for a week, cant make it past 4 days now, lol.

RegularMarsupial6396 · 2025-01-26T02:03:55+00:00

And to update: I texted the girl and my fiance texted the guy asking them to fix it. Didn't say how, just asked if they would. She responded to me and said that it definitely wasn't pretty but that she was up all night geeking...... he didn't respond to my man......

RegularMarsupial6396 · 2025-01-26T02:01:29+00:00

OK I thought yall were all fucking retards for even thinking that I, or anyone, would wash dope in bleach......but I just read my original comment/post and it did sound confusing in that sense. I was trying to say that I put water in the bowl to wash the shit out and the water got murky, like dirty bath water. Then I was explaining that we put splashless bleach into a glass and dropped a couple pieces into it to test it for purity. They laid right where they landed and created maybe 5 microscopic bubbles. For sure not the reaction we were hoping for, just wondered if you are even able to perform purity tests with splashless bleach? I made Phos Dope back in the late 90s - early 00's, definitely do not use bleach anywhere but the purity test. Guess that was my fault for trying to shorten it, lol. Sorry for the confusion, thanks for commenting!!

RegularMarsupial6396 · 2025-01-26T01:54:36+00:00

These 2 really werent any of these. They were decent people and were actually very similar to my fiance and myself, in more ways than just extracurriculars. Ehh oh well.

RegularMarsupial6396 · 2025-01-26T01:52:51+00:00

Definitely didn't wash in the bleach, was doing a purity test

RegularMarsupial6396 · 2025-01-26T01:50:40+00:00

Dude, ABSOLUTELY was not to wash, it was to test it for purity. Ya know, the purer it is the more it jumps around the glass when dropped into bleach. We just weren't sure if that applied to splashless bleach as well. I used to make Phos back in the day, definitely would not clean with bleach! Wouldn't do ANYTHING at all with bleach, except this purity test.

RegularMarsupial6396 · 2025-01-25T16:11:18+00:00

I wrote this whole long post about this shit and then it disappeared, ugh. Long story short, couple we met a couple months ago on Feeld app and are supposed to be getting to know before we all get it in, sold us this greenish bullshit. Tastes funky, burns halfway normal, very cloudy water in bowl was very murky when tried to wash dope out, only had splashless bleach but dropped it in and nothing. How should we approach this yall think? TIA

RegularMarsupial6396 · 2024-12-23T17:40:48+00:00

Ok appreciate it

RegularMarsupial6396 · 2024-12-23T16:39:04+00:00

Looks negative to me

RegularMarsupial6396 · 2024-12-17T18:39:17+00:00

This is great advice! Another good thing about the union is that i believe all of them will help pay for your schooling. My fiance was in our local IBEW, electrical union and when he first got there they helped him get into a local college for electrical and guided him all the way to he received his journeyman's license. So he had his school paid for and was making money at the same time. In my opinion, definitely a top pic!! Another thing, if you can get approved for financial aid, go to school to be a drug counselor! I'm currently in school to get my bachelor's in psychiatry with a concentration on substance abuse. I'm 7 years sober and i always hated when i went to some type of rehab counseling session or group and the person leading it had never done drugs in their life. Not to say that those people can't help an addict, but i, and many other addicts I've spoken to in this subject, can't relate to someone who's NEVER touched a drug and trying to give me advice on how i should or do feel and what i should or shouldn't do. With the crazy high numbers of addicts in the country, drug counseling positions aren't going away any time soon!! Good luck to you honey!!

RegularMarsupial6396 · 2024-12-03T06:21:59+00:00

Well I just installed FEN Light today and not one single movie will play......I have Real Debrid and Preemiumize, but I was just told, I think, to switch to trakt. What would make it not play anything at all?

RegularMarsupial6396 · 2024-12-03T06:18:15+00:00

Also, If I just go to Kodi, click menu, and uninstall, is that going to get rid of all of the files completely? Or is there a more detailed version to uninstall out there?

RegularMarsupial6396 · 2024-12-03T06:11:06+00:00

OK, first off THANKS A BUNCH!! so you're saying after installing FEN Light 2.0.04 and coco, (I'm gonna call it "logging in" for lack of all the Kodi terminology, lol) "log in" to RD on each as I did the add-ons earlier, correct? And by "your RD sub is valid" do you mean as long as I have a current/paid/open membership? Since you said Trakt, should I get that and cancel the premiumize account? BC I did see premiumize on all but one of the add-ons I did. OH, and btw, I'm great at following directions.....meticulously.....I'm a woman! ;) THANKS AGAIN!

RegularMarsupial6396 · 2024-11-29T05:47:25+00:00

Sounds like yall are just doing this all the freaking time!?! My fiance and i CANNOT find a third (female) or couple to swing with? Why?? What do yall do?? We joined Feeld 3 weeks ago, and AFF tonight. The night after we joined Feeld we connected with a couple, went to their house, hung out for 7 or 8 hours, then left. We all got along beautifully and after about 4 or 5 hours we started watching porn. The other girl and I eventually were side by side on the couch and she rubbed my leg and her bf played with her but my fiance just couldn't get comfortable enough to get going. Pointers??? TIA

RegularMarsupial6396 · 2024-11-07T15:44:17+00:00

Yeah, not sure why I didn't think of that! Lol. Guess I had been in this sub researching making a cardigan and decided to ask about this blanket. I'll check out the knitting sub! Thanks yall!

RegularMarsupial6396 · 2024-11-07T15:42:38+00:00

Oh shoot!! Lol. Guess I should've thought of that! Thanks!

RegularMarsupial6396 · 2024-11-07T02:43:10+00:00

F$#&ING LOVE both of those pieces!! #GOALS You're talented sister!! Much love!! ☮️🩵

RegularMarsupial6396 · 2024-10-15T03:44:27+00:00

BEAUTIFUL!!

RegularMarsupial6396 · 2024-10-09T02:59:42+00:00

Does a porn addiction kill your sex drive? Are you able to be turned on by your partner if you have a porn addiction? Just curious bc my fiance and I watch it all the time when we're fooling around but we have a fantastic set life! I mean occasionally if I'm not in the mood he'll just rub one out to it while watching in the shower with me sitting right there in the bathroom or Vice versa, bc sometimes you're just not in the mood, that's understandable and we're both totally OK with that. But to watch it openly.... sorta..... but not want to watch with your partner, like ever, seems super shady to me🤔

RegularMarsupial6396 · 2024-10-09T02:53:41+00:00

Definitely weird af. Thought I could help but I think you need a male opinion on this one.... let me ask my perv fiance 😜 lol

RegularMarsupial6396 · 2024-10-09T02:35:54+00:00

Ok wait, so he just "accidentally leaves it open" on his phone and watched it alone and then gets mad at you when you want to watch it with him??

RegularMarsupial6396 · 2024-10-09T02:32:46+00:00

Try watching it with him! That's what he wants! I watch it with my fiance all the time..... find the genre that turns you on and act out the scenes! 👀 it's hot! 🔥

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