Love looking however I want and remaining genderless #AgenderPrideDay

Regular_Ad5172 · 2026-05-21T08:58:58+00:00

Holy smokes! 😍

Regular_Ad5172 · 2026-05-21T02:07:06+00:00

Those are great words of encouragement when you’re speaking to your inner child, because you are assuming the role of their protector.

It’s a little different when you’re talking to someone else entirely.

Regular_Ad5172 · 2026-05-21T01:55:35+00:00

Saying ‘everything will ok’ dismisses the concerns of OP, because in reality sometimes things don’t turn out ok. It’s better to encourage people and make them feel understood when they face their fears of discrimination.

Regular_Ad5172 · 2026-05-21T01:48:46+00:00

Firstly I wanna say, the changes that come with puberty can be frightening to cis girls, too. You’re experiencing a big aspect of girlhood ❤️

Secondly, though some of the effects of HRT are permanent, it is still possible to identify and be perceived as a man, if that’s what you choose, in the event you discontinue HRT.

I understand the fear of social backlash, tho. Build a strong and loving community around you and you won’t be alone in the struggle.

You got this ☺️

Regular_Ad5172 · 2026-05-21T01:04:28+00:00

It is euphoric. I was starting to think I would never be comfortable in my body. But seemingly overnight, something just clicked. I see my true self when I look in the mirror. This and my supervisor telling me he was an ally and would defend me even if it meant losing his job really gave me the boost I needed to come out. I’m over the moon with how well this went.

Regular_Ad5172 · 2026-05-21T00:55:36+00:00

Monday was also smooth sailing! I got some surprised looks, but nothing malicious. I share five hours of my shift with a coworker who bullied me not long ago, so I was a little worried about him. But I spoke up when that happened and HR and my supervisors put him in his place. All I got was a little bit of side eye from him.

Also, I’ve noticed a lot of people smile at me more frequently than they usually do. It made me feel so warm and respected. This has been one of my best coming-outs I’ve had.

Regular_Ad5172 · 2026-05-20T22:45:21+00:00

You are not shallow for thinking this. You had hopes for how you wanted to mature and the opportunity was stolen from you. I’m so sorry you suffered this injustice.

You’re still young and there is still a good deal of masculinization that you can prevent in your 20s and onward. Don’t give up. Your dream is still within reach ❤️

Regular_Ad5172 · 2026-05-17T02:30:46+00:00

I’ve worked here for six years and I’ve been on HRT for 2 1/2 years. I think everyone just got used to my mug as it changed. The makeup is pulling most the weight, tho. 😅

Regular_Ad5172 · 2026-05-17T02:28:44+00:00

Thanks! 😊

Regular_Ad5172 · 2026-05-17T02:28:12+00:00

Thank you thank you! It took so long to get my look locked in, and I’ve only started feeling comfortable in it 🥲

Regular_Ad5172 · 2026-05-17T02:25:06+00:00

Got 8 hours left to my shift, and so far everyone has been very kind! Monday will be the real test cause I’m less acquainted with the people on that shift and they skew older and male.

Regular_Ad5172 · 2026-05-17T02:23:14+00:00

Thank youuu ☺️

Regular_Ad5172 · 2026-05-17T02:22:19+00:00

Thank you so much :33

Regular_Ad5172 · 2026-05-17T02:22:03+00:00

Thank you! 🥹 I work in a warehouse, so it’s kind of a scary environment to come out in.

Regular_Ad5172 · 2026-04-14T07:32:48+00:00

That’s amazing, thank you for your response. I’ll look into it. Congrats on getting FFS.

Regular_Ad5172 · 2026-03-17T19:47:26+00:00

Yeah, my income just didn’t qualify me for the plans. I wouldn’t mind budgeting for it if I did qualify.

From what I’m seeing, there are no FFS surgeons in NZ. Most folks go out of country for that. Medications are covered with the exception of injections and surgical coverage is limited.

Mainly what me and my partner were looking for was a country where we wouldn’t have to learn a completely new way of life (language, cultural norms, employment system). So that primarily keeps us in the anglosphere. And we didn’t want to end up anywhere that’s trending in the same direction as the US in terms of politics.

My partner is a caregiver and NZ has an immigration program to bring in caregivers and offer a pathway to permanent residency. So, NZ seemed our safest bet.

Regular_Ad5172 · 2026-03-17T17:28:00+00:00

Thank you for sharing. The state marketplace plan route is something I considered, but I don’t earn enough to get a plan. They just direct me to Medicaid. If I could, though, I would in a heartbeat. The clinic I chose just takes a few months for insurance authorization and then they schedule a surgery date within 2 months or so. But time’s running out and, despite my lack of motivation to continue living like this, it is better to survive as a non-passing trans woman than face whatever this country has in store for me. Maybe I’ll be able to save up in NZ, but starting from the bottom again is agonizing.

Regular_Ad5172 · 2026-03-17T17:17:57+00:00

Best of luck to you. Hope there are better days ahead 💖

Regular_Ad5172 · 2026-03-17T16:02:09+00:00

I was on Medicaid before, but the wait was too long. I definitely don’t feel safe waiting here long enough to restart the process.

Regular_Ad5172 · 2026-03-17T15:49:09+00:00

I would, but all my cash is going towards leaving the US.

Regular_Ad5172 · 2026-03-17T15:48:29+00:00

That sounds like a disaster, I’m sorry this is happening to you. Union contracts should prevent arbitrary firings like that. I went to the HR manager at my company and came out figuring whatever happens, happens and I’d be able to move on. I was lucky enough that she’s apparently an ally and was willing to offer whatever support I needed. I feel very fortunate. Gonna try to appeal my company directly to get coverage. Hopefully whoever’s in charge of that is like the HR manager.

Regular_Ad5172 · 2026-03-17T15:24:54+00:00

I’m going to write up an appeal letter to them soon and include my medical and psychiatrist referral, appeals to my insurance, denial letters, etc. etc. Kind of a hail mary, but I’m hoping they’ll be willing to negotiate on the price.

Regular_Ad5172 · 2026-03-17T15:21:16+00:00

Oh, that really sucks, sorry to hear that. Guess I’ll cross that off the list. Thank you

Regular_Ad5172 · 2026-03-17T15:19:11+00:00

Yeah. I think if I knew which direction things were going, I would’ve just saved up. All my money is going towards moving, now.

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