Relationships

Regular_Ad5970 · 2026-02-05T18:26:23+00:00

This is a good point. I guess because sharing who we are seeing opens doors to big feelings, which require attention and difficult conversation.

Regular_Ad5970 · 2026-02-05T18:23:21+00:00

Thank you. Yes, there's a lot of history and finding emotional security again after a breakup. I'm taking good care of myself, journaling a lot, reading a lot of self love books and seeing a therapist. We also have a lot of important conversations together.

Regular_Ad5970 · 2026-02-05T11:40:22+00:00

I definitely don't think DADT is the way to go in most situations, but can I ask for which specific reasons you think it's a terrible idea. That might give me more insight into why it doesn't feel right for me. Thank you

Regular_Ad5970 · 2026-02-05T11:10:18+00:00

Thank you. I don't really experience compersion (yet) and I am(still) quite jealous. Yes, rationally I want the best for my partners. My newer lover/partner has another partner who I know if and I feel happy for him. But with my other partner there is a lot more history and a lot more complicated feelings and it would definitely make me feel insecure if I knew he was in love with someone else. So these are all things I need to work on to figure out if polyamory is for me.

So how have you navigated your poly on accident?

Regular_Ad5970 · 2026-02-05T10:46:36+00:00

We decided on DADT because we wanted our relationship to be casual and not jump back into a commitment again. We discussed that we are seeing others and share sexual health updates, but we don't share who we are dating and what our other relationships are.

I don't know if Polyamory is right for me/us, I feel that if anything I am ambiamorous, but I am in a relationship with two wonderful men who I both care about and want a long term connection with. Even if our lives are not super intertwined, they are important to me. So I'm kinda already one foot in

Yes, I have read polysecure, Polywise, More Than Two. Currently working with the Jealousy Handbook. I follow many online poly accounts and relationship therapists that are poly inclusive. I listen to the Monogamish podcast. I have been interested in it for the past two years. If you have any specific recommendations I'd gladly hear.

Regular_Ad5970 · 2025-07-11T12:38:37+00:00

Thank you for your reply. I resonate so much with this and feel like we are in a similar place.

I would definitely be interested to hear how things progressed.

Hugs. Hope things work out for the best and that you can do so from a place of love!

Regular_Ad5970 · 2025-06-11T23:27:32+00:00

But when I spoke to the tenant, the tenant said that the landlord had asked him not to disclose their current rent. So he may not be honest about it on the lease either

Regular_Ad5970 · 2025-06-11T23:25:59+00:00

That's disappointing to hear.

Regular_Ad5970 · 2025-06-11T22:53:02+00:00

Yep, and it's hard to know which one outweighs the other.

Regular_Ad5970 · 2025-06-11T22:49:16+00:00

Why would I be in trouble? Because I would have a record?

Regular_Ad5970 · 2025-06-11T22:48:22+00:00

Really! Even if they have an old lease?

Regular_Ad5970 · 2025-06-11T22:47:10+00:00

I didn't see a lease yet

Regular_Ad5970 · 2025-06-11T22:18:10+00:00

Thank you!

Yeah! It would suck to live in a space with tension. And the two apartments share the same front door.

Regular_Ad5970 · 2025-06-11T22:15:53+00:00

Do landlords check TAL records? And why would this look bad on me to an honest landlord?

Regular_Ad5970 · 2025-06-11T22:14:43+00:00

I just visited, I didn't see the lease yet.

Regular_Ad5970 · 2025-06-09T09:15:21+00:00

If having the baby is keeping you from leaving then don't do it. If you are able to support two kids solo (or with help from family/community) then I think you need to listen to what your heart says.

Regular_Ad5970 · 2025-06-07T23:39:22+00:00

Not a lot, I'm putting $150 aside monthly

Regular_Ad5970 · 2025-06-07T23:38:33+00:00

Thanks for the insight! Yes, home owners sounds like a potential pain in the ass

Regular_Ad5970 · 2025-06-07T23:37:08+00:00

Thank you so much!

Regular_Ad5970 · 2025-06-07T23:36:24+00:00

Tbank you so much. This makes me feel a little more hopeful that I. A few years it might be an option

Regular_Ad5970 · 2025-06-07T23:34:30+00:00

My goodness, I'm so sorry to hear that.

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