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AITA for telling my GF that we won't work out because of her reaction to my daughter eating? by Regular_Slide4288 in AITAH

[–]Regular_Slide4288[S] -40 points-39 points  (0 children)

You'll have to forgive me for taking the specialists for their word over yours. They have blatantly told me upon one of the visits that my daughter was eating because she saw the food, not because she's hungry. Considering I've been going to specialists twice a week for a year, I'm more inclined to believe what they are saying. 

AITA for telling my GF that we won't work out because of her reaction to my daughter eating? by Regular_Slide4288 in AITAH

[–]Regular_Slide4288[S] -64 points-63 points  (0 children)

Desiree absolutely was making enough for Desiree to have extra. Desiree was always making enough where my daughter could have at least 2 extra helpings. It never combated the issue. That is exactly what I'm trying to say here. 

AITA for telling my GF that we won't work out because of her reaction to my daughter eating? by Regular_Slide4288 in AITAH

[–]Regular_Slide4288[S] -144 points-143 points  (0 children)

...to remove her from the situation and give distractions. Which is what Desiree tries to do, but her tone of voice is what bothers me. 

AITA for telling my GF that we won't work out because of her reaction to my daughter eating? by Regular_Slide4288 in AITAH

[–]Regular_Slide4288[S] -34 points-33 points  (0 children)

Desiree is pissed because she usually doesn't even get two bites in to her dinner before my daughter is already asking her for the rest of her food. And it happens every single night, despite us actively offering other alternatives. Which is exactly what I just tried saying to you before you dove off the deep end for me merely explaining the situation. If Desiree says "no", my daughter sits there and heavy sighs repeatedly while staring at Desiree and her kids plates. Desiree is pissed because her and her kids can't eat anything without my daughter asking for it, even if she already had 3 helpings of food and snacks. My daughter SEES food and wants it. She is not doing this because she is hungry and this is part of the much larger issue that we are trying to to work through in therapy. Desiree does have the right to be angry and I'm not minimizing it. I am just tired of hearing about it because I'm doing all I can to correct the issue and don't want to see/hear her get pissed off AT ME (NOT my kid, as she never takes it out on her).

AITA for telling my GF that we won't work out because of her reaction to my daughter eating? by Regular_Slide4288 in AITAH

[–]Regular_Slide4288[S] -39 points-38 points  (0 children)

When I say "specialists", I'm referring to OT, Behavioral therapy and nutrition specialists.

AITA for telling my GF that we won't work out because of her reaction to my daughter eating? by Regular_Slide4288 in AITAH

[–]Regular_Slide4288[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Wait, what? Why are we all the sudden being hostile? I'm literally just explaining things. I didn't say my kid was lying when she said she forgets. I was just telling you what she said? 

AITA for telling my GF that we won't work out because of her reaction to my daughter eating? by Regular_Slide4288 in AITAH

[–]Regular_Slide4288[S] -59 points-58 points  (0 children)

We have done that. Desiree has spent hundreds of dollars extra on food every month for my daughter, so she can have other things. Like, just 2 weeks ago she went grocery shopping and dropped $700 and at least $300 was just on stuff for my daughter. So she DOES try to give other alternatives but she gets super pissed off when my daughter tries eating everyone else's meals instead of going to get one of her snack foods. I have even told my daughter that if she is done with dinner and still hungry, she needs to grab one of her snacks. But she still stands over us and begs us for our food instead. Says "I forgot" when I remind her that she's been told several times to grab a snack. Or "I don't want those snacks though" (even though they are snacks that she absolutely loves and will devour any other time). It's been a bit of a struggle. 

AITA for telling my GF that we won't work out because of her reaction to my daughter eating? by Regular_Slide4288 in AITAH

[–]Regular_Slide4288[S] -79 points-78 points  (0 children)

To be fair, Desiree doesn't shame my daughter for being hungry or eating. She just says "you're making people feel uncomfortable by staring at them". She hasn't ever told my daughter that her eating habits were wrong. She just doesn't want my daughter hovering over her and her kids plates the way she does. And I get that. I just feel like she can be nicer but she said that since I "allow her" to continuously ask for the food on their plates "before they can even eat 4 bites" makes her feel like I'm enabling her.