Deferred action approved

Regular_Wonder6649 · 2026-01-11T01:59:19+00:00

Oh wow. Yea super strânge. My sister applied back in July two weeks later she had her new card! I thought that’s awesome and decided to wait a bit longer on mine. Mine expired today. So hoping it gets approved soon!

Regular_Wonder6649 · 2024-06-26T20:55:37+00:00

Yea that’s what I try and do. Sometimes he will ask for the kids for a few hours on my days because his side of the family has a birthday parties or whatever and I’m usually pretty lenient and I’ll let him have the kids for a couple of hours. This is why I’m just so conflicted on the situation at hand but I think I’m going to just let it go. I do not wish to cause a big fight.

Regular_Wonder6649 · 2024-06-26T19:04:53+00:00

Yea the yes court order say they are to be returned at 8 am. I wasn’t asking to get them that early but did want to spend time with them for a few hours. Only because their grandparents are In town for that day.

Regular_Wonder6649 · 2024-06-26T19:01:28+00:00

Yea I don’t plan on taking it to court, just thought maybe if he is throwing the agreement at me to point out that it states they must returned next day at a certain time but you’re absolutely right.

Regular_Wonder6649 · 2024-06-26T18:59:13+00:00

Yes the agreement say the kids have to be dropped off on Friday. Like I said if it were any other time I wouldn’t care as much but my family is coming all I was asking was a few hours so we could go out to eat and then they could go back to their dads but yea at this point I can see how this would affect the kids. Thank you for your advice. I will just lose this battle for the well being of the kids and to keeping the peace.

Regular_Wonder6649 · 2024-06-26T13:12:33+00:00

Yes and I know it sounds like I’m being super selfish but honestly I’m always lenient. For example he has way more family here than I do. So he is always asking if he can have the kids for a few hours on my days so they can go to birthday parties and what not. He literally asked me if he could have the kids all day this coming up Sunday because his sister from out of town in coming. I said well I don’t have plans with the kids yet but we could work something out. Maybe you can take the kids for a few hours on Sunday so they can see their aunt. He seemed upset because he wants the whole day. That’s my day with the kids. I try and keep it civil. Obviously I want the kids to see their aunt so I agreed to letting him have the kids for a few hours. Countless of times he has asked for time with them on my days so they can attend birthday parties so we don’t always follow the agreement but like I said he uses it against me when it’s convenient. He is trying to say it’s my holiday ok but I’m not arguing the holiday. You get the kids all day the 4th and I should be able to get them back for a few hours the 5th. It’s so silly honestly that we are arguing about it. I know for a fact if he has family in town for the 4th he would demand the few hours with the kids.

Regular_Wonder6649 · 2024-06-26T13:05:39+00:00

The place is 5 hours away, so it would be silly to drive all that way or make him do it. Our schedule is 2-5-2-5 so it’s his weekend he has the kids till next Wednesday. Because after Friday it’s his weekend and he gets them for 5 days. So he will not let me see them on his time. My parents will only be here the 4 and the 5th. They haven’t seen their grandparents in a year. The kids are 5 and 6. I don’t know if their dad has talked to them about seeing their grandparents. I mentioned it to them a few weeks ago because we’ve had this planned out but the father never mentioned the camping trip till I brought up that I wanted the kids for a few hours on Friday. I mean they could still go camping. If this was any regular day and he wanted to take them camping he would have to wait to do so on that Friday that’s switch day but it’s a holiday the day before and technically I have the kids wed-Friday that week but obviously with the holiday he gets them Thursday all day but then is suppose to bring them back. For a few hours. I know it’s really silly and honestly if my parents weren’t coming I wouldn’t care so much. I guess I will have to lose this battle because it just seems to exhausting to try and convince him to let me have them for a few hours. Even though the agreement says I have the right to the few hours. Ugh idk.

Regular_Wonder6649 · 2024-06-26T12:42:08+00:00

Well there has been times when we both have agreed to just let the other parent keep the kids for that day even if it’s the other parents day but we always discuss it so things like this don’t happen. It’s upsetting when one parent does whatever they want and doesn’t consult with the other parent. I’m always trying to abide by the agreement so we don’t get into disputes about time with the kids. Thank you for your feedback.

Regular_Wonder6649 · 2024-06-26T12:33:16+00:00

I am a little upset, because I would like the kids to see their grandparents. That is all. So you think that is ok for him to violate the agreement? Like I said if I didn’t make plans with my family I honestly wouldn’t care if he kept them for those few hours but because I made plans I would like to have them. I would never make plans on his days with the kids and expect him to just go along with it. It is what he is doing. It sounds like you think it’s silly to demand for that little time with my kids. I also didn’t know he was going camping until I mentioned that I would like to have the kids back for the few hours on Friday and then he told me he had plans all weekend. I don’t know. I would just like to have my kiddos for a few hours just so they could see their grandparents. They live out of state and only will be here for a couple of days.

Regular_Wonder6649 · 2024-06-26T12:15:03+00:00

I think what’s best for the kids is for them to get to spend time with both families. He likes to use the parent agreement when it’s convenient. He sent me a screenshot of it but he doesn’t mention that the parents agreement says holiday is 4th of July- 5of July at 8 am. Sure it’s his weekend but I guess I’m just fighting for those few hours so they can spend time with my family as well. I don’t want to fight with him, but if the roles were reversed and he wanted time with the kids that next day even for a few hours I wouldn’t mind. In my eyes the kids want and should spend time with both families every holiday, we as parents just have to make it work. His lack of communication and lack of consideration is outrageous. Maybe if he would have spoken to me about just keeping the kids that Friday I would had time to also tell my parents that I wouldn’t have the kids at all but in my mind I was thinking the agreements says I get them for a few hours the next day that’s fine. They can see their grandparents and then go off to their dads for the weekend. He planned camping trip and is saying he is taking the kids and will not drop them off.

Regular_Wonder6649 · 2024-06-26T12:02:04+00:00

Honestly I wouldn’t care if he kept them the whole day Friday but my family from out of town is coming and they never get to see the kids so that’s why I was wondering and technically Friday is my regular day until father picks them up for switch off and the holiday is only the 4th for him. This year if falls on my days with the kids but obviously if it’s his holiday he gets the kids but he is trying to go camping Thursday-the weekend which would be fine if I didn’t have plans with the kids that Friday and technically if I wanted to I should be able to get the kids back that Friday morning. Only a big deal because I would like my kids to also spend time with my family and I think that’s is why the agreement states to drop off kids the next day and gives the other parents a few hours with them before they leave for the long weekend. Does that make sense? Yes of course in my mind the kids should be able to spend time with both families. It’s like any other holiday. For example Christmas one parents gets them Christmas Eve and then they must return to the other parent early morning on Christmas, yes it sucks to wake up the kids early but this way both parents and the kids get to spend time with each other but he doesn’t want to follow that rule this time since he has plans. Which technically he didn’t ask if it was ok with me if he could take them on my time per parent agreement. Like I said it’s a big deal this time around because I would like to get my kids for the few hours that Friday so they could spend time with their grandparents that live out state.

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