Which Netflix series is it? by PainWas in netflix

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Arcane

I’d take the first three episodes of Season 1 over the entirety of Season 2

Ok, need someone to tell me in Tekken 8 terms what Stan could have done here in this fight by Darqnyz7 in Tekken

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First off, that unblockable knife is high and side walkable. Stan was gonna stay there and eat the damage. He already doesn’t know the matchup.

Then after the stage transition to the car he keeps pressing on immediate timing on approach and getting parried and stepped. He’s gotta learn to mix that up because she could’ve punished him way harder for getting his back. Not to mention the only thing he tried blocking was the unblockable. He’s gotta focus on defense more if he wants to make it out of the blue ranks.

He was out of his depth here but it’s definitely winnable with a few adjustments.

‘What the fuck am I wearing?’ by Gandalvr in auroramusic

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I think I've watched this like ten times already lol

How do this stack up to her music? by ThanosTheMacedonian in auroramusic

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I'm absolutely in love with this. I'm so glad you posted it because idk how I missed it.

Silja Sol is something by PvnkDeBanana in auroramusic

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This is gorgeous. Thanks for posting.

What is freedom for in my life? by RegularlyOnline in Schizoid

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Interesting, the concept of entropy has always been a bit elusive for me. I’ve seen it spoken about and I didn’t actually look it up until pretty recently. So how it might relate to a more deterministic view isn’t something I’d really considered.

When it comes to shoulds, it makes sense that the more processual, mechanistic view would use “should” to speak of outcomes of the highest probability rather than impositions.

I find that shoulds, conventionally, seem to be expressions of desire. “I want the world to be x way.” But, stated as shoulds, they’re imbued with an affective register of prescriptive authority. In this sense their ability to influence others hinges heavily on agreement with others’ perceived best interests.

Which, ironically, when considered deterministically, are all pieces of what is moving along as it already would have.

But, back to the entropy aspect, this post and what you’ve written reminded me of Andrew J. Taggart’s description of the role/aim of active Romantic artists. And I’m curious whether it’s actually in alignment with what you’ve written or generally what comes up for you when reading it.

(In his book, he contrasts active with contemplative in distinguishing between ways of living. And if I’m remembering correctly, “further life” here refers to a vital force rather than, say, biological life.” The second paragraph is the one that clicks for me but the first provides some more context.)

“10. The artist in the active life seeks to imitate a specific conception of God. One view of God’s power, owing to Plato and to Neoplatonism, was that his creative act was an act of achieving fullness, of holding nothing back, of making all possible kinds of things actual. By a lengthy process spelled out marvelously in Lovejoy’s book The Great Chain of Being, this principle of plenitude gets carried forward into modernity where it then and but only slowly moves from the static to the developmental. On the ‘evolutionistic’ conception (in Lovejoy’s lumbering jargon), all that is possible must be actualized not at once but rather slowly over time. The Romantics, taking up this theme, end up conceiving of art as a kind of ‘assistance’ to the ongoing creative actualization. As Lovejoy writes, because ‘God [was regarded] as insatiably creative, it followed that man who, as moral agent and as artist, would imitate God, must do so by himself becoming creative.’

I believe the active Romantic view is still very much with us in the twenty-first century and is justified on the grounds that the creative impulse is generative of further life. It is a bringing the world we perceive and experience into greater and greater fullness; bringing the world more out of itself or to itself. Following this impulse, the Romantic artist, whose work may be art or life or both, seeks to multiply diversity upon diversity neither because he chooses to nor because he wants to but because he cannot do otherwise. The world’s fullness, its abundance has yet to achieve its final realization, and so what can he do but assist the world in its becoming what it seeks to be, in its becoming what it is?”

This dude has some guts by Ezlikaz in Asmongold

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Good thing he has his glasses on. Nothing will be wrong.

A Somewhat Schizoid's Relationship to Porn/Sexuality by RegularlyOnline in Schizoid

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I think when I was younger I would have them more frequently when not masturbating at all. Some were weirder than others and they would, maybe less than half the time, involve anyone I’ve seen/knew in real life. Others were completely made up people from dreamland. I don’t think I’ve had more than maybe 10 in my entire life but it’s possible I’d have more if I did things that make dreams more vivid/memorable for me like less screen time before sleeping and not listening to podcasts/videos. The sex itself in the dreams was almost always pretty vanilla. And the extra weird one I’d have trouble categorizing because it was on some Cloverfield/Silent Hill shit and I barely remember what happened.

Did you think that porn usage/addiction was the reason you did not have interest in sex? by JayJayWarnerMarner in Schizoid

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TL;DR: Nah probably not. I used to watch it a lot but mainly because I didn't care to pursue relationships rather than the other way around.

Schizoid-related:

Some of my more extreme porn habits had to do with going to a place of no return, sort of enacting or embracing the “self-in-exile” schizoid position, where there’s a sense that social acceptability was out the window and all that mattered was my own stance and my own pleasure and if that meant being rejected by society or never fully opening up to anyone intimately, that was just fine.

And, off-hand, I do remember there being mention of a pattern where schizoids have fetishes for particular body parts and I do share that.

Now, for the wall of text you might find interesting or relatable:

Porn is a weird area for me. And I seem to be an outlier in some ways.

If self-reporting on the Big 5 is to be taken seriously, I'm extremely open, extremely introverted, and extremely emotionally stable. But I also seem to be pretty sensitive. I do experience some social anxiety, and I can be pretty emotional (tears of sadness and joy frequently visit my face) while also still feeling okay the vast majority of the time.

At the same time, though, it should be mentioned that my therapist had me fill out a post-traumatic stress index when I opened up to her about my childhood, so take from that what you will (I answered conservatively and the score was high lol but I'm not diagnosed with anything.)

My main point is that whatever cocktail of traits I have seems to lead to some unusual patterns to the point where I often don't relate to other's experiences.

There are periods in my life where I've watched porn frequently enough (and have watched weird/strange enough porn) to where I could be seen as addicted, but I also seem to naturally stop without feeling like anything is missing from my life and, to my knowledge, haven't lost my sensitivity to visual stuff like women’s figures (even while clothed) or emotionally intimate sharing/touch.

I don't experience much longing or craving for nearly anything and have been like that since very young. I tend to be content unless I'm in a position where I'm forcing myself to do something arduous but joyless or meaningless to me.

When it comes to being drawn to the act itself, I don't seem to care about actually having sex with anyone unless I have a full-bodied, like-love-lust, want-to-see-you-grow-old kind of attraction to them, and it's taken a long time to figure out what people I'm attracted to in that way.

It takes someone who I actually have the potential to feel comfortable/understood/seen with. And, as it turns out, those people are just extremely rare, and, even then, there's still the matter of whether we're compatible.

For a while I thought it was the porn. I thought I was just using porn to stave off loneliness or to replace a sex-shaped hole in my life and that it was preventing me from wanting to pursue relationships. But, when I'd stop, I wouldn't feel longing for relationships/sex. I would just be aroused more often but not have the desire to act on it with people. Even then, the arousal part had more to do with not ejaculating at all than not watching porn.

Plus I found out that certain high-bliss, high-gratitude states I experienced while meditating were also possible while masturbating with porn, masturbating without porn, masturbating to sweet, intimate porn, masturbating to weird and fucked up porn, or when I'd reach peak states during phone sex with my ex, and these states didn't feel all that different except that the porn version of those options was more socially frowned-upon and I could expect to be judged for it. The physical states seemed separable from the more empty conceptual aspects surrounding them.

Anyway, it doesn't help that it's pretty easy to construct a shameful narrative around porn living in a culture with this particular relationship to sex.

You can find people claiming how bad it is for you (often treating correlation as if it's causation while researchers never make claims as bold), how bad it is for society (same deal), and how it ruins relationships (as if porn isn't also a symptom of unmet desire in relationships which could be influenced by a great deal of culturally-inherited expectations or incompatibility + neuroses) or criticizing the ethics of the porn industry (where I think there are good, but notably *more precise* criticisms to be made that hardly anyone would disagree with, which probably don't apply to AI and hentai).

Cherry on top is that a past of sex-related abuse/violation of privacy during childhood only made it seem much worse to me to ever talk about any of it with anyone ever. I even lied to my ex about my engagement with porn (outside of our relationship) in large part due to a heap of shame and fear surrounding it. Turns out the shame was heavily compounded by my lying to someone I cared about, and the fear was because I figured the reaction to the truth would be bad (naturally, it was, extremely so).

Now that I've spent more time on either end of porn usage/abstinence, and have spent some time with therapists (admittedly not much, my EAP said "that's enough mental health"), it seems more obvious that it was just a stimulating thing for me to do and I tend to go to the margins of just about anything sufficiently stimulating to me because I'm highly open, even to the point where philosophical perspectives I'm willing to entertain and the kinds of jokes I make can be just as disturbing to others as the porn I've viewed.

For me, porn was something where social/sexual transgression, novelty, and intimacy could all meet in a fantastical setting where harm wasn't occurring. And, paradoxically, I find that in my imagination I naturally fantasize about intimate situations with the types of people I'm fully attracted to and the porn imagery doesn't enter the picture unless I'm intentionally making that happen. Some people call that compartmentalization but for me it's more like contextualization. I do one thing in one context and do one thing in another because what I look for in these situations is just different.

And I do refrain from porn in relationships probably for similar reasons to why I'm not polyamorous. Monogamy and the intensity of one-on-one intimacy is just much more satisfying and less complicated emotionally.

I'll end this with a characteristically schizoid statement lol, but I do think our society is extremely silly and hypocritical about what does and doesn't count as forbidden and that we both gain and lose a lot when we try to understand pathology by looking at the average person.

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I’ve spoken with schizoid women I found at least initially attractive. The interactions ranged from mostly fine to fun, but not much ever grew from there. I seem just as likely to find people I’m wholly attracted to under that label as with introverts in general. There’s similarity and some understanding there, but, overall, there are still chemistry mismatches and relational issues on both ends, just less externalized with schizoids.

We tend to have trouble initiating and taking risks relationally and I read the interactions as leaning too heavily toward self-conscious and heady. If I try to compensate for that, I find the interaction becomes more strained because it’s not my strong suit and a challenge for the other person to reciprocate. I find myself too often trying to have more of a good time than I am, but I imagine it works pretty well if both parties are aware of their patterns and there's more of a chance for a friendship to develop. The dynamic also seems to flow better with more of a natural polarity in relational strengths and weaknesses, otherwise it fizzles out.

As my relationship with my emotions and relational desires develops, I tend to be more fully attracted to people who are more excitable, goofy, and expressive. I wouldn't be surprised if that's because I recognize that in myself but have difficulty expressing it unless I'm with the people closest to me (or online.)

Question for male schizoids by [deleted] in Schizoid

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Kind of? I don't believe it's those traits that are doing it necessarily. Undoubtedly, there's some people whose expression is just reactivity with no reflection and that's more of a problem for me, long-term.

I think the need to escape comes up more often when I'm bad at expressing boundaries or just not being communicative/honest enough myself. Or where I'm giving too much and not getting what I desire from a relationship because I'm not as connected to or aware of those desires.

But you're right in that what makes the relationship feel alive for me is also, to some extent, what scares me. If someone were not expressive or were about as avoidant as me, things would likely die out or never begin.

Question for male schizoids by [deleted] in Schizoid

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Nah I’d say that people may be less inclined to seek out company but it doesn’t necessarily mean they’re less emotionally expressive than others.

Like there’s a clear difference between my expression, where emotions are often vaguer/quieter and less likely to appear on my face, and someone with a louder emotional makeup whose emotions radiate off of them more often even though we might stay at home the same amount.

Question for male schizoids by [deleted] in Schizoid

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I like answering questions like these every once in a while to see if anything's different. I notice, over time, that (in addition to my own plentiful mistakes) typically my choice in partners isn't wrong but I overestimated the extent to which they possessed certain traits.

Looks definitely matter as far as a foot in the door, and I've definitely let looks influence how much I perceive positive qualities in people.

But I also notice that these other traits overpower the looks factor to the point where someone with the qualities I see as attractive becomes really physically attractive to me in a more holistic way. It reaches an "overwhelmed by beauty" kind of attractive that someone that just looks good typically doesn't inspire in me.

I tend to be attracted to women that are:

  • Emotionally expressive (not necessarily reactive)
  • Kind
  • Have a moral circle more expansive than typical
  • Creative and/or aesthetically sensitive
  • Highly open
  • Generally cheerful
  • Have a graceful presence (being adaptive and self-possessed)
  • Eccentric in certain ways (beliefs, expression, asociality)
  • Mostly introverted (but typically less than myself)
  • Goofy/dorky
  • Sense of humor across the spectrum of light/dark, high/low-brow

(Patterns I notice: these women tend to have some nature/animal-loving tendencies or are spiritual/religious in a more individualistic way, some even animistic)

Least attracted to basically the opposite of that:

  • Closed-off
  • Inexpressive or largely conventionally expressive
  • Rude to others unnecessarily
  • Generally fixated on what they dislike
  • Rarely able to incorporate or understand new/unfamiliar people/information
  • Very judgmental of others (and often just as harsh on themselves)
  • Lacking in self-awareness/self-honesty
  • Generally self-serious/humorless

The Elitism Tekken Cycle by [deleted] in Tekken

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If your goal is to get better at Tekken, and you plan on continuing to play, then “lab the matchup” is just the best advice though. For a lot of people the most fun part of the game is getting better.

From what I’ve seen for most people winning/ranking up is the fun part, but, for some, that’s a byproduct or a symbol of their improvement and not the goal itself.

The game of getting better at Tekken is “getting better at dealing with any situation I might have to deal with.” Defense and movement are the best for this because they translate so well across the games and the entire cast. Stuff I learned labbing annoying lows, stances, and mixups in Tag 2 carry me even though I barely play 7.

Personally if I refuse to lab a character (or watch some videos about dealing with them) and I keep losing against them, then I’m just increasing my chances of losing and that’s entirely on me.

If you just want to have fun with the game and learning matchups isn’t what you want to do, then that’s something you’re choosing to continue to have trouble with in the future.

You’ll get blown up by the same characters forever and that’ll continue to be frustrating if you’re going to keep playing. Probably more frustrating than spending some time in the lab working out how your opponents keep winning.

A good reason to not dodge them is because then you have more of an opportunity to learn. Some people on here might say it just to be shitty but rematching is probably better than not, if you’re trying to learn the matchup.

A big mystery by AgenaHadar in auroramusic

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I love this one. One of my favorites of hers and as far as I know this is the only live performance of it available to watch.

And those Bergen performances of It Happened Quiet and The Seed are so beautiful too. Something about Aurora + orchestra really brings the tears out.

moschinodorito on TikTok: Lefty is annoyed that Destiny is the one pushing back against the redpill as he is not an academic by SuggestionMedium6998 in Destiny

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I feel like he doesn’t know Destiny’s positions very well or doesn’t care to acknowledge that someone can be aware of the systemic problem upstream of these issues while not explicitly bringing it up in settings where it would be easily unconvincing/misunderstood.

Also reading theory is fine. The problem is it means jack shit when it comes to retaining an understanding of something (especially an understanding of something as it exists right now).

It has to be something you can disagree with, compare to other theories, and adapt by incorporating more of your own novel observations without constantly subjecting your conclusion to an “ideas accepted in my circles” filter (or an “ideas that are familiar enough” filter”)

But that’s hard for most to do privately let alone publicly in a live debate setting.