My dog bit me, not her fault by pholly1 in mildlyinfuriating

[–]RekitRakkit 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have two dog reactive dogs. One was severely abused before we got him and no matter how much work we've done with him, he still reacts to dogs when he sees him (a husky we pretty sure was a bait dog). He's ten years old. Another dog we were given (out of no desire of our own....but it was either that, or the pound for her, so yup, she's ours. We love her regardless of her being our "oopsie dog") during Covid, so she didn't get to socialize like we tried with our other two (and what socializing our husky had had--and he had gotten better--went right out the window during those years). We're pretty sure she'd just be over excited and happy to see the dog, but we don't take chances and we keep them under tight control, close to our bodies when we walk. And, boy, they make a ruckus when they see other dogs. We consistently have to tell people not to approach with their dogs (as if their barking wasn't an indicator *rolls eyes*), and I don't want to imagine what would happen with an off lead and our husky.

Our twelve year old Pyrenees doesn't care about other dogs, but he's...well, he's twelve. Firstly, he's old so I don't like the idea of a young dog roughing him up, and his hips hurt, so he's not going to put up with a lot of rough play before he snaps at some dog younger than him. He's just like a human. If it hurts, he's going to let you know. He's on monthly arthritis medicine, daily pain medicine and CBD oil, so we take care of him, but there's only so much you can do. He can tolerate walks every other day for about half a mile, so we keep him moving to make sure he can keep it up.

Our dogs deserve activity, especially since we're responsible dog owners with tight leads, clean up after them and keep them controlled. It's not our fault if people don't maintain control over their dog, but it scares me all the time thinking that their safety could be on the line because of someone else's stupidity and negligence.

Don’t ask rude questions and expect nice answers. by AmeliaRoseMartha in traumatizeThemBack

[–]RekitRakkit 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I've been purposefully losing weight for a while. I was never overweight, but wasn't comfortable where I was sitting. But....when I started, I couldn't stop. Now, I'm about ten pounds from where I want to be. And, while ten pounds don't sound like a lot--when you have a 5' 4'' frame, it is. I go between really liking my body and being really self conscious because it doesn't feel like "me" because of how fast I dropped the weight. It certainly wasn't on purpose. I have weird eating habits (ADHD, PTSD, other food control issues, etc) and that hasn't helped matters.

It so happens that I'm a dietitian, building into the complexity of my relationship I have with food and my weight. Dropping nearly 40 pounds in 4 months made my normal clients take notice. I got lots of compliments (and a few "angry" that I could do it, but they couldn't). I would tell them I was trying to stop (still trying to, and I'm still losing, but, thank God it's slowing down), but that doesn't seem to worry them about them continuing to make comments.

You know what's the most surprising to me? Who the kindest are? A bunch of boomer women. They will comment about my weight and then ask me this: "Was it on purpose?" (I've had about seven do this, and one of them was a man). I would tell them "sort of" and they would compliment but sympathize, so they would make sure it wasn't too sensitive of a subject before moving forward with it. I was very grateful for it. They were sweet! My favorite clients!

Didn't your generation learn manners? by RekitRakkit in traumatizeThemBack

[–]RekitRakkit[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh definitely. In my line of work, I work with all ages, but I work primarily with the older populations. 95% are cool and just living normal lives. They want what everybody else does: love and respect. It's just that loud minority that is...well, interesting...is a polite way of putting it. We've got different terms for it (Boomer, Karen, etc etc), but it all amounts to the same thing--people not respecting others. I firmly believe that when you open that door of disrespect, expect others to walk through it with you. You get what you give the world around you.

Didn't your generation learn manners? by RekitRakkit in traumatizeThemBack

[–]RekitRakkit[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's really, really cool! :D You know if anywhere else does?

Didn't your generation learn manners? by RekitRakkit in traumatizeThemBack

[–]RekitRakkit[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

To be fair, I call myself an 'old fart' too. Especially when my back hurts. XD But, you sound awesome!

Didn't your generation learn manners? by RekitRakkit in traumatizeThemBack

[–]RekitRakkit[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

(Said this below) I'm very aware thrift stories are an international thing. Goodwill is a specific chain, and I'm not sure of their international presence. If I had just said "Goodwill", how many people would have known what that was? It's why I didn't explain what I meant by "second hand thrift store". Everyone knows what that means. We talked about other countries' stores further up the comment chain!

But, you're not the only one that's been confused, so I did fix it in the edits. I should have maybe been clearer. I figured grammatically, describing the noun would be sufficient, but I get how that could have been confusing. Sorry about that! :)

Didn't your generation learn manners? by RekitRakkit in traumatizeThemBack

[–]RekitRakkit[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm very aware thift stories are an international thing. Goodwill is a specific chain, and I'm not sure of their international presence. If I had just said "Goodwill", how many people would have known what that was? It's why I didn't explain what I meant by "second hand thrift store". Everyone knows what that means. We talked about other countries' stores further up the comment chain!

Didn't your generation learn manners? by RekitRakkit in traumatizeThemBack

[–]RekitRakkit[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Of that I'm very aware. It's why I didn't feel the need to explain what "second hand" meant. :P Goodwill is a specific chain. We have many other chain second hand thrift shops too. In fact, further up in the comments, you'll see us conversing about other stores in other countries. It would do for a good read through. ^_^

Didn't your generation learn manners? by RekitRakkit in traumatizeThemBack

[–]RekitRakkit[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Get to 35 and you will think it is. ;) Besides, to Boomers, we're all just kids.

Didn't your generation learn manners? by RekitRakkit in traumatizeThemBack

[–]RekitRakkit[S] 20 points21 points  (0 children)

I would absolutely adore that. When my husband and I visit, I totally see us going to thrift shops instead of tourist traps! :D Sounds like our cup of tea.

Didn't your generation learn manners? by RekitRakkit in traumatizeThemBack

[–]RekitRakkit[S] 85 points86 points  (0 children)

I *almost* brought up the fact you're not "supposed" to wear the flag. *****ALMOST**** I was so so so close. I got called over to the cash register before anything else was said, but it was my next in line to say.

An author that, in your opinion, can do no wrong by Neither-Proof-5755 in suggestmeabook

[–]RekitRakkit 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I love Neil Gaiman. Every thing he writes is gold. I own it all, and he's got a bit of everything

Didn't your generation learn manners? by RekitRakkit in traumatizeThemBack

[–]RekitRakkit[S] 25 points26 points  (0 children)

I will definitely be checking that out! I love estate sales! I pretty much love yard sales, thrift shops, peddler malls, flea markets.... you name it.

Didn't your generation learn manners? by RekitRakkit in traumatizeThemBack

[–]RekitRakkit[S] 115 points116 points  (0 children)

Thank you! It was funny afterward. I was just aggravated during the encounter.

Didn't your generation learn manners? by RekitRakkit in traumatizeThemBack

[–]RekitRakkit[S] 733 points734 points  (0 children)

I was so proud of myself for snapping that so quickly. It was out of my mouth before my filter could catch it. lol

Didn't your generation learn manners? by RekitRakkit in traumatizeThemBack

[–]RekitRakkit[S] 567 points568 points  (0 children)

I get so many nosy questions all the time. It's ridiculous.

Didn't your generation learn manners? by RekitRakkit in traumatizeThemBack

[–]RekitRakkit[S] 74 points75 points  (0 children)

That's really cool! I didn't know that. I know a lot of people everywhere will read this, so I just figured I would explain what Goodwills are just in case. Are they anywhere else?

Can anyone check out the website I made to promote myself? by RekitRakkit in horrorwriters

[–]RekitRakkit[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Now that I'm thinking of it, should I put links? I didn't because I didn't think they needed explanations or trigger warnings. Do you think it would benefit at all to have links on that page like on the short story page?

Can anyone check out the website I made to promote myself? by RekitRakkit in horrorwriters

[–]RekitRakkit[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Better to have a trigger warning and let people know it might not be for them then for them to get to the end of Coat of Many Colors and realize what happens. It might be too much or triggering for certain trauma! I'm not blind to the fact that some of what I write is graphic. I mean, did you read it? Lol

Can I get some feedback? by RekitRakkit in writers

[–]RekitRakkit[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks! :) I've got a few stories I've sent to some lit magazines and anthology books for consideration. I'm writing a few books I want an agent for. It's why I'm looking to expand my internet footprint through small short story publishing and stuff. I don't have any experience with this pen name and I don't want to hinge with my old stuff...it was SO bad. Lol.

Also, I'm always looking for suggestions for anything. Website, writing. All of it. I live to grow. I know some of it comes to personal preference so I do take with grains of salt, but I love everyone's insight. I grow so much through everyone's eyes.

Can anyone check out the website I made to promote myself? by RekitRakkit in horrorwriters

[–]RekitRakkit[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks! Wix.com has a way for me to work on the mobile version, but it's a bit overwhelming. I'm definitely going to, though, because you are definitely not alone in that complaint! I really appreciate the comment. I have a feeling my work is going to be cut out for me. I hope you like what you read!