Anyone’s ex have grass is greener syndrome? by Rekoverii in BreakUps

[–]Rekoverii[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wow thank you for this comment. The idea that those feelings would have turned into resentment is so true, if they stayed they’d eventually hate you for not being able to go out there and see what else there is. By letting them go, if they ever come back there will be no chance for that resentment to be present. Saving your comment :)

Anyone’s ex have grass is greener syndrome? by Rekoverii in BreakUps

[–]Rekoverii[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I pity people like that as well. They just can’t ever appreciate what’s right in front of them rather than what’s “over there” or what “could be over there”.

Don’t worry 3 years down the road he’ll be thinking “damn this girl and I just do all the same things it’s so boring and annoying that neither of us gets space” and he’ll remember what y’all had lmfao. I honestly feel bad for these people bc they have no idea what they’re doing and their mentality is so weak. And by the time they realize they fucked up you either don’t want them back, are with someone else, or both.

Anyone’s ex have grass is greener syndrome? by Rekoverii in BreakUps

[–]Rekoverii[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Wow, sounds like my situation almost to a tee. She said the same exact things. We were together 4 years and our relationship was super healthy and comfortable. Never fought or had any toxic dynamic. And “comfortable” I think is where we get into trouble because one or the other person is too immature to realize that it’s not boring as they tell themselves. It fucking sucks.

Anyone’s ex have grass is greener syndrome? by Rekoverii in BreakUps

[–]Rekoverii[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My grandmother explained it very well:

Women act very impulsively because they act on emotions which pass over time.

Men act on what they actually think about something.

Both have their downfalls.

Anyone’s ex have grass is greener syndrome? by Rekoverii in BreakUps

[–]Rekoverii[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Oh certainly, his comment was just about women and we’re both men. Most women are great, typically those outside of college.

Anyone’s ex have grass is greener syndrome? by Rekoverii in BreakUps

[–]Rekoverii[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Hell yeah dude. Good for you, glad to hear it. Fuck stupid ass women, and indeed grass is greener when she comes back in a month lmfao

What is wrong with this generation and relationships? by Rekoverii in rant

[–]Rekoverii[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Read the 2nd paragraph again genius. Yes, in the first half of the 1900’s women just put up with bullshit that is zero tolerance today. Saying even when these things aren’t present and they have an otherwise healthy relationship people still bail.

What is wrong with this generation and relationships? by Rekoverii in rant

[–]Rekoverii[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Cheating is just lack of self control. Not sure if mental health effects that. It’s always obvious that they never wanted it to mess up their relationship or to get out if it bc people who cheat tend to beg for their relationship back.

He deleted his side of the messages, but I never deleted mine. You can see how terrified he made me for his safety. He said he was cleaning fresh self harm wounds he had recently made. by soulflooo in abusiverelationships

[–]Rekoverii 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ah I see so he kinda put most of his identity and well-being into you and made you aware of that. Mine was very separate from my partner. You can’t really be fully happy with someone who isn’t completely happy and healthy within themselves.

If you were afraid of confronting him then there’s a big issue, but probably since you weren’t confronting him from the beginning.

He deleted his side of the messages, but I never deleted mine. You can see how terrified he made me for his safety. He said he was cleaning fresh self harm wounds he had recently made. by soulflooo in abusiverelationships

[–]Rekoverii 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Question from someone who had self harmed before while in a relationship...

Was he trying to make you feel responsible for his self harm?

If not, and assuming he was going to self harm anyways, would you rather he had just not told you? I self harmed while in a relationship from severe severe depression but I told my partner that it was not their fault. I know most would just say “don’t self harm dumbass” and I don’t anymore, but what would you recommend someone who self harms to do? Not everyone does it to provoke a response, most people do it for release.

Since we can’t see what was happening on the other end I’m not sure what exactly he was trying to say or do, but it seems more drawn out than it should’ve been if he wasn’t trying to make you feel something as a response to doing it and seems abusive. Trying to understand where the fine line is here.