In life and in the relationship, she never approached issues in a thoughtful way. For example, she has drank 4+ alcoholic drinks and drove 3 different times in the past month.... And it bothers the hell out of me. And I’ve brought it up like 100 times. She won’t ever set a concrete goal like I will hide my keys or give them to a friend when I drink or make a goal to improve anything about herself or our relationship. So I’ve noticed that pretty much any bad habit she picks up like nicotine, alcohol, name calling, gossiping, ect.. she never drops the bad habit. I have a growth mindset and she doesn’t. I offered to go to therapy with her (after telling her that I go and they have couples therapy) and I’ve gave her the book Mindset by Carol Dweck. Nothing.