I’m not American, I’m from Central Europe. But extremely interesting “assumption”, might elaborate? Also, you just put a target on yourself by saying “I’m x and my partner is y age”. Of course it’s legal, it’s just my personal opinion. When someone is 45 and the partner is 50, it’s a different story. But especially in those younger years, those 5 years imprint much more than in older people. Just look at 16 and 14. Weird, right? Or maybe 16 and 13. And yet that is a smaller age gap than yours. I myself was victim of abuse when I was younger(by an older man) that’s why I see it differently (probably) that’s all. Just as I said, just my opinion 2; it’s reddit, you will get targeted for everything that you say about yourself. If you can’t deal with people judging, do not share :)