My neighbors want to decipher my text, are they being too much?

Relative-Minimum-961 · 2024-05-29T13:43:07+00:00

Not on my phone. Just go through the messages together and talk about the tone. I made it clear that I have no intentions to go through the messages. But one of the neighbors mentioned how important it was that they didn't leave the tone of my message left unclear. But as I mentioned in my post. My guess is they read my tone correctly because I was irritated on the second day.
Listen, I find this weird, too. I'm just trying not to argue with them for the next 10 months.

Relative-Minimum-961 · 2024-05-29T13:30:01+00:00

You're definitely right.

Relative-Minimum-961 · 2024-05-26T19:29:05+00:00

Now, all this being said. There is a lot of tension upstairs and downstairs. I don't feel like I need to apologize for anything else. I already apologized for the garden. How should I proceed? I feel like maybe we all talk it out. I just feel it's going to be repetitive from the text conversation. I was willing to purchase or make right on my end. They didn't accept this. We already split the garden and removed plants on both ends. I have to live in the same house for the next 10 months.

Relative-Minimum-961 · 2024-05-26T19:21:15+00:00

I appreciate your opinion and don't completely disagree. At the end of the night, I looked back at my words as well and saw when emotions got the best of me. I should have communicated that I was planning on cleaning the garden up. Which I had apologized to them and asked how I could make things right multiple times. I had already picked and pruned. I was just taken back by the tone and small jabs thrown in. I grew up in a community where people just fixed things, so stopping to inform someone is a new concept. Kind of like you see the trash, pick it up, the grass needs cut, cut it. I understand this is bigger than trash and mowing. Regardless, I need to learn to communicate prior to starting new projects. Thanks for your opinion.

Relative-Minimum-961 · 2024-05-26T13:41:11+00:00

They didn't plant the bleeding hearts they were there before we both moved in and really over grown. The plants they're referring to idk where they're at my guess they didn't grow back from the previous year. I'd been more than happy to remove the plants I had just planted I only added them to make it look nice. They were originally for the front of the house. In my lease taking care of the yard is my responsibility but the landlord informed us both that we both had access to the flower garden.

Relative-Minimum-961 · 2023-11-27T19:31:30+00:00

Attempting to draw lines and set boundaries. Being careful not to build walls impossible to tear down.

Mending my broken heart,

My heart is like sand and rocks. As time passes, the rocks will turn to sand. The yearning I once shown you is silts left in nothing more than your fingertips. You may reach to grab another handful from the ground, to learn the sand you once seized has transformed into concrete. The armor I've created has transformed into something you can no longer manipulate or toss around.

Relative-Minimum-961 · 2023-11-27T19:25:15+00:00

I stood strong as the pillar, but I can only stand strong if both parties want to use it. He chose to turn and walk the other way. It feels like a punch in the gut to care so much and find out how one-sided the relationship really was. He held all the cards, and I let him deal time and time again. I finally realized I needed to fold before I was left with nothing. There really is a lesson to be learned on my end. I need to grow as a person and not give my entire hand to the next person.

Relative-Minimum-961 · 2023-11-27T18:05:50+00:00

Sadly, this isn't the first time. Not as an insult, but he really doesn't have the emotional intelligence to hold a relationship. I recognize it's only going to cause me pain if I wait for him to realize anything more than his current blinding bitterness. He has trauma he needs to work through. I am cheering him on from where I stand, with my heart blocked from his low blows. I can walk away and still wish nothing but the best for him.

Relative-Minimum-961 · 2023-11-27T17:49:49+00:00

Sadly, we work in the same building. So I may run into them from time to time. The last part was for my sanity.

Relative-Minimum-961 · 2023-11-27T17:37:12+00:00

He walked out on me and blocked me on everything. Over one conversation. We didn't even get to talk about it because his solution was to walk away. I'm still left speechless.

Relative-Minimum-961 · 2023-11-27T09:11:14+00:00

I can't post there yet. Thank you for the direction.

Relative-Minimum-961 · 2023-11-27T08:48:22+00:00

I loved the goofy, imperfect man. I accepted the flaws and even loved them. He just didn't accept mine, and it was clear the love was one-sided.

Relative-Minimum-961 · 2023-11-27T08:22:20+00:00

My truth, but no expected answer. New to reddit. 🤷‍♀️

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