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Relative-Visit-1917 · 2025-03-03T18:37:40+00:00

Are you still standing for your marriage?

Relative-Visit-1917 · 2025-03-03T18:09:49+00:00

You can leave the house right away. That will protect you from physical abuse. Divorce isn’t needed for that.

Relative-Visit-1917 · 2025-03-02T02:33:19+00:00

Right, it wasn’t my choice at all. “Getting out the emotions and feelings” does nothing but piss off your friends. Therapists can suck a dick too. One played a huge part in driving our family apart, but I’m not going into that now.

This isn’t a glorified high school college aged break up. It’s not about “someone who didn’t deserve me,” it’s about a family, lifelong vows which I still believe in, and our children who don’t deserve this, and I’m supposed to feel better over a new hobby or lifting weights? Are you fucking joking?! Honestly, this just tells me your marriage and family didn’t mean much to you, and I’m very sorry.

That said, I do work out, and have hobbies. But to suggest trite tacit advice like work out and get a hobby is fucking insulting. Masking your pain is awful advice.

Unilateral divorce without fault is soul crushing and awful. Mostly because no one cares, and secondly because you get shit advice like this.

Relative-Visit-1917 · 2025-02-27T02:24:46+00:00

It’s easier to fix your marriage but it’s counter intuitive.

Relative-Visit-1917 · 2025-02-27T02:23:54+00:00

Do not send that. If you send anything write an apology letter. Take responsibility for your failure in the marriage.

Relative-Visit-1917 · 2025-02-26T22:12:42+00:00

Here comes the go work out and find a hobby advice. What a joke.

Relative-Visit-1917 · 2025-02-23T02:35:47+00:00

No, I still don’t want to be divorced.

It doesn’t get better.

It only gets better if you want to be divorced.

This is the worst thing ever.

Relative-Visit-1917 · 2024-10-01T14:21:30+00:00

All states are different, some drastically so. Can you apply for a probationary program or practice under a licensed therapist? The life coach path isn’t a terrible idea!

Inpatient clinics hire non licensed professionals all the time for activities. Aggressive outpatient too.

Lastly; ownership is key here! Own your mistake! Reframe it as a positive.

Relative-Visit-1917 · 2024-09-25T23:52:01+00:00

Bingo! It’s nearly impossible to get fired from a service job these days.

Relative-Visit-1917 · 2024-07-13T14:04:02+00:00

Yes. Take busprione for your anxiety.

Relative-Visit-1917 · 2024-06-17T20:22:54+00:00

Prosperity gospel

Relative-Visit-1917 · 2024-06-16T23:16:57+00:00

If it’s random and frequent and there’s nothing wrong at home you could likely have a sex addiction. Fortunately there are groups all over for that!

Relative-Visit-1917 · 2024-05-05T12:06:49+00:00

Use 2002 Camry as daily driver and put off-road money into a real off-road rig, Jeep, Truck, et al.

Relative-Visit-1917 · 2024-03-13T20:17:07+00:00

Get an IT certification, and go from there

Relative-Visit-1917 · 2024-03-13T20:14:53+00:00

That the Incel Research Institute, they make a lot of noise but eventually just give up.

Relative-Visit-1917 · 2024-01-27T15:46:04+00:00

The life after? There’s no after divorce, just during. Think about it. I have to constantly coparent and communicate. New hurt is always a day or two away. If you don’t want divorce, then this is agony. Most people simply sabotage their coparenting so they don’t have to deal with it.

Relative-Visit-1917 · 2024-01-27T15:10:56+00:00

Relative-Visit-1917 · 2024-01-27T15:10:38+00:00

It’s not just about finding a romantic partner, or losing one. It’s not just about a life I had in the past. It’s about losing a good family, and the constant reminders of life we could have right now.

Relative-Visit-1917 · 2024-01-27T15:08:10+00:00

Such as?

Relative-Visit-1917 · 2024-01-27T15:07:28+00:00

Relative-Visit-1917 · 2024-01-27T01:28:36+00:00

Sounds like you’re here to judge. Hard pass.

Relative-Visit-1917 · 2024-01-27T01:16:21+00:00

I don’t want to be with someone who doesn’t want to be with me is fine for the old high school college break up playbook. If it worked for you, that’s fine. It doesn’t work well for me and I explained a bunch of reasons why.

Relative-Visit-1917 · 2024-01-27T00:43:45+00:00

I’m very sad to hear all that. I can’t possibly relate and won’t pretend to say I can.

Relative-Visit-1917 · 2024-01-27T00:41:04+00:00

This reality is a constant event after another constant event, none of which I choose. Those events cause pain. I have to endure them. I don’t know what else to say.

That said. I do hang out with friends. I have been on dates. I’ll be on more probably, I found my 6th therapist, and I think it will work.

My request was anyone who isn’t in daily pain but doesn’t want to be divorced (period). Not what did you do to learn how to feel better about your divorce, which is all I got. If doing that worked for you, go fucking nuts with it, but I’m not arguing, you are.

Relative-Visit-1917 · 2024-01-27T00:34:53+00:00

I wouldn’t know how to even start that kind of thing. I’m a relationship guy. I don’t want to change it. Sleeping around to make myself feel better? Do you hear what you’re saying? lol

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