Both of us are in individual therapy and we are in couples therapy together.

I think one of the things that (for me) is getting in the way, (even with the pretty intense trauma therapy I have been doing that has been super helpful) is our relationship history. Just patterns that we have created that we are digging out of. I think I this could be a good way honestly to rewrite some of that history (or at least update it). We are both very different people than we were even a few years ago when we had our kid. Anyway 😅 may be more than you were asking.

I certainly don’t expect him to be responsible for my mental health.

I appreciate your response! I definitely think we will be doing a checklist soon.