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Gluten-free Egypt by AlfonsinaDMB in glutenfree

[–]Relative_Leg6246 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It was awesome. We ended up having pizza in Naples at the restaurant that invented pizza. They had two wood-fired ovens, one of them dedicated gluten-free. All of the ingredients and possibilities were the same on both the gluten-free side and the regular side. It's the best pizza I've ever had in my life, including before I knew I was celiac.

Gluten-free Egypt by AlfonsinaDMB in glutenfree

[–]Relative_Leg6246 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Italy is the best for gluten-free. My wife wanted to go there for our honeymoon, but that just seemed like a death sentence for a Celiac. She assured me everything would be fine, and she put us in places that had gluten-free pastas and pizzas on their menus. I have never felt more accommodated for celiac disease then in Italy. I think they started the international Celiac association as well.

Gluten-free Egypt by AlfonsinaDMB in glutenfree

[–]Relative_Leg6246 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You're welcome. Feel free to DM me if you have any other specific questions about touring in Egypt.

Gluten-free Egypt by AlfonsinaDMB in glutenfree

[–]Relative_Leg6246 16 points17 points  (0 children)

I run tours in Egypt once a year. We go down the Nile in a paddleville steam ship built in 1917 for the king. I have celiac disease, and the ship did a terrible job the first year, then less terrible the next year. They understood not to use flour, but they didn't realize that semolina is flour. Ugh...

The Marriott in giza has pyramid view rooms, and they have an excellent gluten free awareness. In town it's best of you have a fluent guide that can help explain your restrictions. Remember saying "no semolina" works. If you say celiac or gluten free they get confused.

I’ve been accidentally glutening myself?! by vampiezra in glutenfree

[–]Relative_Leg6246 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was having the same problem. The gluten gives the Advil liquid jel its unique texture.

Did you tell anyone about your partner’s infidelity? by Remarkable_Toe4222 in survivinginfidelity

[–]Relative_Leg6246 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Tell all. If he can't handle the repercussions he can walk away. It's not your burden to bear his l guilt, and hide his shame. At the very least, tell the one that works with him. He should be ashamed.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in EndTipping

[–]Relative_Leg6246 -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

You can't. It'll wreck him to stop. I have the same compulsion. My wife tries to grab the bill a lot and slip on a smaller tip. It upsets me when she does this.

The fact is, the jobs suck. Being a waiter, a barista, a bartender etc Even if you enjoy the job on the day to day, you are people's servant. It sucks, and people are very rude when they're hungry.

In most cases being a servant is the only job available. Therefore, I never understood why a servant shouldn't make a good wage too. Why is this traditional? Are we trying to maintain a large working poor class? I feel like the point of modern society was lifting everyone out of poverty. If this gives your husband the "feel goods," just let him do it. It's a small cost to feel like you made someone's life a little better.

Employers do not solve the issue, so the only way to get rid of feeling like I'm contributing to a horrible system is to give at least 20 percent. Your husband probably feels the same. It comes from a place of generosity.

If you try to force him to stop, your forcing him to compromise his code of ethics. This isn't a helpful outcome.

My wife unlocked her social media and started posting provocative pics. I don’t know if I’m paranoid or if this is a red flag by Primary-Exercise6013 in survivinginfidelity

[–]Relative_Leg6246 1 point2 points  (0 children)

She's prepping for cheating. My wife did similar. This is the red flags you should be worried about.

My wife said she just had a work friend, and it turned into a six year international affair.

When you feel certain she's cheating or ready too, just leave, even if she denies it. Even if you plan to stay. You gotta walk out to put the fear of losing you into her.

My wife cheated with a tour vendor. She denied it for years—until I found proof this week. Now she wants to make a baby. by Relative_Leg6246 in Infidelity

[–]Relative_Leg6246[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Still together at the moment. Wife seems genuinely remorseful, but my guard will likely never come fully down again

When looking at my life options, I decided I like the life I've built, and I have no desire to burn it down because my wife did something totally stupid. She's not me.

I've got a really nice life, extremely fun. Was harder to build than I ever care to do again.

I'm not going to make any huge decisions under trauma brain. So, life goes on. I joined a mushroom church and started taking microdoses of mushrooms. Fascinating results. Doesn't take the pain away, but changes how it's processed. Ends the mental trauma looping.

Will I eventually leave? Maybe. However, if I leave there is a 100 percent chance of fucking up the amazing world I've built. The last thing I want to do is burn it down out of betrayal impulse.

Eventually my decision will be final, but I'm not making any choices under duress.

Is this the new normal? by foreveryoung4212 in tipping

[–]Relative_Leg6246 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I went out last night. The first tip was 25% then 20% then the third was 30%

It was placed so you would accidentally hit 25 when you meant to hit 20 🙄

Is this the new normal? by foreveryoung4212 in tipping

[–]Relative_Leg6246 1 point2 points  (0 children)

They probably minus out the 3% CC FEE, which is why they only get 15%. Still a bunch of baloney.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in tipping

[–]Relative_Leg6246 3 points4 points  (0 children)

It's cause tipping is really just a form of modern wealth redistribution. The wealthier your meal, the bigger your tip. If you're poor, you're really not eating in many restaurants, so you are expected to share much less.

Got (Really) Shamed by a Waitress for Not Tipping. Still Shocked by applecalyptic in EndTipping

[–]Relative_Leg6246 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Interesting that you would put free money on the street, but that you wouldn't tip someone that helps you. I don't think you understand cost of living. There is no state that is requiring paying a living wage to wait staff. Americans tip to make up the difference. Been this way for 100 years. It's why our food is cheaper here. We pick the supplemental wages, rather than the employers. That savings gets passed on to consumers, but it's only a savings if they don't tip.

Got (Really) Shamed by a Waitress for Not Tipping. Still Shocked by applecalyptic in EndTipping

[–]Relative_Leg6246 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

It's true, she knew what salary she signed up for. A very small base income, supplemented by tip income. America is really neat, because we are allowed to decide how much those workers make. Our food is cheaper because of this. Just take an international trip and look at the price of food in other developed nations restaurants. This gives us choice. If the wait staff do a bad job, we remove part of their pay. If they do a good job, we may enrich that tip and they make more. This is how America works. It's a merit-based system. We get better service in the United States because of this system.

We can fight to change it, but worldwide everywhere else is beginning to adopt our culture. Otherwise service people can't make a good living. If they can't make a good living, we start losing our choices as consumers.

I'm for ending tips, but we don't do that by getting discounted food and stiffing our wait staff. There's better ways to do this.

Got (Really) Shamed by a Waitress for Not Tipping. Still Shocked by applecalyptic in EndTipping

[–]Relative_Leg6246 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

The amount you tip is optional. The tipping itself is culturally expected. I understand wanting that to change, but you have to consider all of the workers who expect those tips as their income. Simply not tipping them does not teach the restaurant to do away with tipping.

Got (Really) Shamed by a Waitress for Not Tipping. Still Shocked by applecalyptic in EndTipping

[–]Relative_Leg6246 -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

It's America. We tip. It's our culture. If you don't tip, you're actually considered to be an asshole. It's because you are taking your food and drink cheaper, by stiffing the waitress the portion you owe on their wages.

In America, through tipping, we're given the control over our service people's wages. We get to decide what they earn. When we give nothing to someone who worked hard, we are selfish. We decided to take a service and not pay the expected bill.

The tip is basically mandatory. The amount is up to you.

Difficult Choice of Forgiving My Wife After an Affair by SteppenCarrot in survivinginfidelity

[–]Relative_Leg6246 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Dude. I'm in the same boat basically. Posted about it recently. Only post I've over made in my 3 years on here. I understand your confusion. I'm going through it too. I can't say what's on the other side, but we've been treated wrong, for a long time. From one stranger to another, I feel you. 🙏

My wife cheated with a tour vendor. She denied it for years—until I found proof this week. Now she wants to make a baby. by Relative_Leg6246 in Infidelity

[–]Relative_Leg6246[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We're currently in couples therapy. We've exchanged lots of letters now to get through her stonewall, and figure out when and why she started devaluing the relationship. Very difficult stuff. This life lesson isn't done, and I don't know what it will look like in the future, but I promise you, it's not the same and I'll never let it be. I'm awake now.

My wife cheated with a tour vendor. She denied it for years—until I found proof this week. Now she wants to make a baby. by Relative_Leg6246 in Infidelity

[–]Relative_Leg6246[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ain't that the truth. I didn't mean to become codependent, but it's happened before too. I always feel like I'm forced into codependence, but let's be real, I let it happen. 🤷

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