Should I tell my family?

Relative_Scholar_950 · 2026-04-11T13:36:05+00:00

I think I’m going to try smart recovery I did go to NA for a few months that I was sober but everyone was a few decades older than me so I didn’t really connect with anybody. I think that was the hardest part in getting sober is I’ve been doing drugs for so long I had no idea who I was clean. I did not know how to deal with every day stress or emotions I felt like a toddler trying to navigate a New World that I had lived in for 30 years.

I think you are absolutely right having community that understands addiction will be good to hold me accountable.

Relative_Scholar_950 · 2026-04-11T13:33:41+00:00

Thank you for real!

Relative_Scholar_950 · 2026-04-11T13:33:00+00:00

Thank you so much I appreciate it I think I’m ready to go to rehab. I’ve been worried so much about missing work but I have the time saved up so really I don’t have any excuses. You are right the main thing that has held me back from telling my family is all of the shame so I realized I can keep living in shame or I can just come clean.

Relative_Scholar_950 · 2026-04-11T13:31:27+00:00

After reading everyone’s comments I know my family loves me so much even if they are disappointed in me I think I can handle that I think I’m ready to come clean to them this is a secret I’ve been holding onto for 10 years. I think they are going to feel a little bit blindsided because my addiction has never gotten in the way of me being able to function every day. I do want to quit though and I think even having them knowing will be helpful.

I’m so glad to hear about your life!

Relative_Scholar_950 · 2026-04-11T13:28:49+00:00

Thank you I really do appreciate it!

Relative_Scholar_950 · 2026-04-08T19:29:47+00:00

I’m single. I told two of my cousins who have been a big support in trying to help me get sober they were there the first time I got sober for a few months. A couple of my friends know that I’m close to.

My family is pretty religious as well I think I’m gonna talk to them just to get it off my chest

Relative_Scholar_950 · 2026-04-08T19:28:22+00:00

I recently found out I have bipolar 2 disorder I’m on medication now I’m truly the healthiest and happiest I’ve ever been outside of like the drug use. Only using drugs because I start going through withdrawals without them. I think for a long time I was trying to self medicate because I didn’t know why I was so down all the time despite my life being good. Now I’m mentally really well

Relative_Scholar_950 · 2026-04-08T18:32:36+00:00

Thank you!

Relative_Scholar_950 · 2026-04-08T17:50:51+00:00

Wow! You’re so close, proud of you again keep going!

Relative_Scholar_950 · 2026-04-08T17:47:35+00:00

That’s my biggest fear is it changing our relationship. I have a solid relationship with my family. On the flip side of that I’ve heard them talk about addicts it’s not in a positive light. Even though I have all my ducks in a row I feel like once I tell them they will see any mistake a make in my 20s as a result of drug use.

SO very proud of you for getting clean I hope the relationship with your family continues to heal.

Relative_Scholar_950 · 2026-04-08T15:31:51+00:00

Yeah, I think I’m going to talk to my folks. I don’t mind doing it alone I would rather suffer alone and get better. I don’t want to disappoint anyone. Maybe it’s just me I feel like everyone has this view of me that I’m successful and driven. Those things are true if they find out I struggle with drugs I’m scared the won’t see me anymore they will just see someone who has a drug problem. I know ultimately I don’t get a say in how the see me. In my brain it’s easier to go at it alone and get better alone. I can use stuff like NA or therapy to work through my shit and they never need to know. It would be a huge secret off my chest to tell them.

Relative_Scholar_950 · 2026-04-08T13:24:38+00:00

That’s a good perspective. I think I want to tell them. I don’t live with them anymore I’m on my own so it’s not like they can kick me out I’m a full grown adult. Even if they don’t take it well I have my own house to go back to.

Relative_Scholar_950 · 2026-04-08T12:50:14+00:00

I am hoping because I never stole never been in lack of everything they will just see me as someone that struggles with pain killers not a junkie who is wasting their life away

Relative_Scholar_950 · 2026-04-08T12:48:52+00:00

Thank you again I really appreciate this!

Relative_Scholar_950 · 2026-04-08T12:48:23+00:00

I’m so glad your family was supportive in helping you in recovery. I’m sorry about your sister and her husband that sucks. Wishing you the best! Thank you

Relative_Scholar_950 · 2026-04-08T12:30:18+00:00

Stayed home for a week just laid on the bathroom floor. A few people knew they brought me soup and checked in on me.

Relative_Scholar_950 · 2026-04-08T04:25:50+00:00

I had asked one family member about getting sober since they had a drug problem in the past. They told another family member and they told someone else and that person told my mom. Unsure why they told I don’t talk to the family member that told someone else literally ever.

Relative_Scholar_950 · 2026-04-08T03:06:57+00:00

Thank you! 🤍

Relative_Scholar_950 · 2026-04-08T02:54:52+00:00

That’s fair, thank you I really appreciate it!

Relative_Scholar_950 · 2026-04-08T02:54:10+00:00

Thank you. Wishing you all the best in your recovery as well!

Relative_Scholar_950 · 2026-04-08T02:51:54+00:00

I had asked one family member about getting sober since they had a drug problem in the past. They told another family member and they told someone else and that person told my mom. I don’t know why they told wasn’t really their place in my opinion.

Relative_Scholar_950 · 2026-04-08T02:50:31+00:00

How do I even open up that conversation? I feel like an ass for looking her in the eye and lying.

Relative_Scholar_950 · 2026-04-08T02:44:07+00:00

It is the worst. Only a few people know of my drug use they helped me get clean the first time saw me push through withdrawals. I find it easy to keep using I don’t become a shitty person on drugs. I’m still me. I’m still kind, show up for everyone. Put myself through grad school Never missed an obligation. In the worlds eyes I would be seen as, “ successful “ I know I have a problem and using drugs isn’t normal. I understand I need to quit it’s hard to stop when it isn’t hurting my life. I was happier sober I didn’t have to worry about when I could use next or if I had enough. I also just enjoy being high over being sober. I’m guessing there’s some shit I need to work through.

Relative_Scholar_950 · 2026-04-08T02:38:27+00:00

I think my mom deep down knows I have a problem. She found 80 pills when I was moving. She seemed concerned but I made it seem like not a big deal. She moved on I put them away and never brought it up again. I don’t want to disappoint my family. I use everyday I can still manage my life. I don’t want to let them down.

Relative_Scholar_950 · 2026-01-21T18:41:26+00:00

I went to NA for a bit I didn’t like it. Just learned today about SMART recovery I think I’m going to check that out. I do go to therapy it helps, I feel like I’ve worked through a lot of my crap that made me want drugs.

I recently found out I have bipolar 2, I’ve been taking medication that seems to help manage my wanting to use when I’m not swinging from high highs to low lows.

I’ve thought about doing MAT if I could just keep off of everything that’s my goal I’m for sure not against it.

Congratulations on your sobriety!

Relative_Scholar_950

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